In this episode we engaged in” Why you set boundaries for

yourself?”

Boundaries are just limits.

It’s a line you draw that you feel protects you: emotionally,

physically, socially, and or spatially. All through life we are faced with boundaries.

From the time we were children, when our parents said, “No hitting your

siblings,” to adults now having social distancing boundaries enforced.

How often do you think about boundaries in your

relationships?

If you want a healthy relationship, you must be able to set

and keep boundaries. Without them, you’re likely to have unnecessary conflict.

You can set boundaries while you are dating or once you’ve actually made a

commitment to a long-term relationship.

Conflict can arise even with boundaries, but more conflict

will come without them. For example, during the dating stage, men and women may

not talk a great deal about each other having friends of the opposite sex (Or

same sex, depending on where your preferences lay.).

When

committed to a long-term relationship and one or both of partners may want to

hang out with someone who could seem competitive to them, it could cause an

issue.

Some

males don't like their partner to hang out with other guys - even if they say

they are just friends. Some women are the same way. If their partner wants to

go have dinner with a female friend, it is often times difficult for their

partner to feel good about it. The same is true with same sex relations or any

relationship.

Granted,

some couples are completely fine with such arrangements, but the important key

to note is to have a discussion about it. State what you are comfortable with

and set boundaries if necessary.

Double

standards are a no-no as well. If your partner tells you they are allowed to

hang out with someone, but you are not allowed in the same way, that's a double

standard. There have been incidents where one partner may restrict their

partner of going out seeing their family or friends. This an abusive

relationship of power and is not healthy for the one who is powerless. They

need to get out of the situation immediately as there may be no room for their

need for boundaries.

For

optimal growth in a relationship, healthy boundaries ought to be discussed and

agreed upon. Each person needs to take responsibility for their role in the

relationship and draw lines when it comes to what is acceptable and what is

not.

It’s

alright for you to say no to things that you are uncomfortable with in a

relationship. If he / she is flirting with the waitress bothers you, tell them.

If she’s texting her ex and it bothers you, let her know.

Your

expression may or may not result in your partner changing their behavior, but

at least you can discuss how it makes you feel and not end up with resentments

down the road. You’ll also find out, if this is the type of relationship you

want long-term.

Within

our body energy system, the belief and values we grow up will may need to

change as they are not health. Often change in our boundaries will not be

except by others as the are use to the old system. In my own family there was

no clear boundaries in thinking differently, in behaviour, and rescuing system

to keep you in the same system as before.

An

example of this could be in a cult, where having no boundaries around sexual

intimacy, only one way of thinking, not being allow to explore knowledge...

Good day, today’s podcast is

“Ways to Help You Release Sorrow and Grief.

I have been a United Church of

Canada Minister for over 35 years and I have ministry in many churches. I have

seen Grief and loss take on many forms. Grief is a natural response to loss.

It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is

taken away. Often, the pain of loss can feel overwhelming. You may experience

all kinds of difficult and unexpected emotions, from shock or anger to

disbelief, guilt, and profound sadness. The pain of grief can also disrupt your

physical health, making it difficult to sleep, eat, or even think straight.

These are normal reactions to loss—and the more significant the loss, the more

intense your grief will be.

Coping

with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life’s largest

challenges. You may associate grieving with the death of a loved

one—which

is often the cause of the most intense type of grief—but any loss can cause

grief, including:

Termination from a job, company closing, serious illness,

divorce or break-up of a relationship, financial stability, a miscarriage,

retirement, death of a pet, loss of a friendship, loss of a dream, loss of

safety after trauma, selling the family home, and so on so forth.

Even

subtle losses in life can trigger a sense of grief. For example, you might

grieve after moving away from home, children changing schools, graduating from

college, or changing jobs.

Whatever

your loss, it's personal to you, so don't feel ashamed about how you feel, or

believe that it's somehow only appropriate to grieve for certain things. If the

person, animal, relationship, or situation was significant to you, it's normal

to grieve the loss you're experiencing. Whatever the cause of your grief,

though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain, in time, can ease your

sadness and help yourself come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and

eventually move on with your life.

It can appear when you least expect it, such as when you

finally think you’ve processed what has happened. At other times, it may feel

heavy, like a crushing weight you can’t quite crawl out from under. Many of us

have been taught not to cry in north American culture especially males as it is

a sign of weakness.

In fact, processing grief can take significant time and

various rituals. Some even say we don’t actually...

In today’s episode, host Jo-Anne Kobylka explores how discomfort often signals personal growth. Sharing 10 key indicators, including personal growth, and outgrowing old dreams, emphasizes the importance of trusting the process of life and rediscovering oneself. She encourages focusing on quality over quantity in relationships and experiences and understanding others' points of view. Through the process of rediscovery, people often reconnect with old passions and rediscover their love for creative pursuits, leading to a positive impact on energy alignment and personal power.

About Jo-Anne:

Amassing prestigious credentials over time in business administration, human resources, physical education, and theology, Jo-Anne Kobylka was determined to follow her life’s purpose, guiding others on their spiritual journey to lead their best life. She initially turned her talents to church program administration and, after a brief stint with the Edmonton Public School Board, assisting instructors with special needs children, she returned to the United Church of Canada in a pastoral leadership role and enjoyed many placements as congregation minister over the many years.

Dawning within the mind of this enlightened altruist, however, was the realization that she possessed a very unique, intuitive understanding of life energy and its transformative power. When she had the opportunity to study Reiki, Jo-Anne was in her true element. She became a master, using her innate gift for healing to support the seriously ill.

Now, Jo-Anne is an expert in energetic alignment and personal power optimization. With Jo-Anne on your team, you don't have to live an unrewarding, directionless existence ruled by fear, doubt, lack, and limitation. Albert Einstein advised that when your energy vibration matches the frequency of the reality you want, the ideal life you’ve imagined, you cannot help but attain that reality.

How then do you raise your energy vibration? The answer is Jo-Anne Kobylka. She helps us move away from the typical frustration and daily struggle and work towards living in the limitless higher-level alignment that is our birthright. Once you’re in alignment, everything starts to flow your way. You live an authentic, powerful life secure in the truth that everything is possible!

Connect with Jo-Anne:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-anne-kobylka-717a3b55/

www.connectedtransition.com

Email: jo-anne@connectedtransition.com

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