hi besties, i hope you missed me as much as i missed you! for this first episode of 2023, the topic is making friends as an adult, how that can go, why it can be tricky, and how can you maintain it! we were never really taught how to make friends as an adult. at least for me and melissa as immigrants to canada, we didnt have that highschool or hometown bond that many in vancouver already have. so how do we venture off and find our life-long friends?

• how did you find friends before? how did that go? did you maintain it?
• how can friendships be toxic?
• friendship break ups are the worst, imo probably harder than romantic breakups. why?
• challenges of making friends as an adult

feelings chart here!

also peep the new cover art 

hi bestiess!! guess what?? it's a relationship episode! yup. that's right, i wouldn't have guessed it either – didn't think i would do an episode about relationships but here we are. let me know if you vibe with it and want to hear more – or you hate it and tell me never again :p

this episode is specifically about if you've ever been mean to your partner and especially if you regret it after. i'm pretty 89% sure we've all done that and been there. we don't start out as relationship experts unless you're just a perfect human being and you were not brainwashed by media. 

how to tell if you've been gaslit? or you're truly hearing your partner's feeling that is relevant to the situation? what is a healthy relationship? what are "high standards"? and what does "if they wanted to, they would" mean? let's go through it together because i have no idea either, but hear me out.. 

hi hi hi. lately my mind has gone awol because i'm trying to do so many things at once. i recently left a toxic environment and on a new journey!! this episode was recorded when i was questioning and doubting myself a lot. if i'm a "good person" or in gen z words: "am i toxic?" lmao. but i've come to realize, no one is a "bad person" (exceptions of serial killers but even then people are fascinated on why they are the way they are) because even in disney movies, villains come from trauma or they have some crazy backstory - and thats where we can relate to them. to be a genuinely good person, i believe is when you genuinely try. no ones a 100% hero, no ones a villain either. no ones a saviour, no ones a victim. we all are just living out here as multi-dimensional beings. i know i keep saying that but its true. it's funny because im about to say don't think too deep about it, but here i am, thinking on a deeper level. lol. <3