Want Me

A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire

By: Tracy Clark-Flory

Narrated by: Tracy Clark-Flory

One of NPR's Best Books of the Year

A New York Times "New & Noteworthy" Book

"Want Me is complicated, fun, shocking, and heart-warming all at once."
—Jessica Valenti, New York Times bestselling author of Sex Object

"Intimate, challenging, and so very smart. Want Me is a gift."
—Rebecca Traister, New York Times bestselling author of Good and Mad

Tracy Clark-Flory grew up wedged between fizzy declarations of "girl power" and the sexualized mandates of pop culture. It was "broken glass ceilings" and Girls Gone Wild infomercials. With a vague aim toward sexual empowerment, she set out to become what men wanted--or, at least, understand it.

In her moving, fresh, and darkly humorous memoir, she shares the thrilling and heartbreaking events that led to discovering conflicting truths about her own desire, first as a woman coming of age and then as a veteran journalist covering the sex beat. Tracing her experiences on adult film sets, at fetish conventions, and during an orgasmic meditation retreat (to name just a few), Clark-Flory weaves in statistics and expert voices to reckon with our views on sexual freedom.

Want Me is about looking for love, sex, and power as a woman in a culture that is "freer" than ever, yet defined by unprecedented pressures and enduring constraints. This is a first-hand example of one woman who navigated the mixed messages of sexual expectation, only to discover the complexity of her own wants and our collective need to change the limitations of that journey.

Stick with it

I enjoyed this book as it detailed one woman’s evolution through sec and womanhood. Definitely stick with it even if it is challenging in places. My main criticism is the reading. It is slow and dull, I listened at 2x speed to keep it from plodding along. It was like she way trying to speak as slowly as possible.

A peek into another world.

An interesting journey into a different realm. It never occurred to me to fake an orgasm, or to watch porn as a teen. At last, Tracy recognized her genuine feelings and there was a satisfying ending.

Authentic Narrative

Highly recommend this authentic narrative. Entertaining...captivating...real! Wow! The best book I've read in years. Read it now!

Thought provoking and relatable as a millennial woman

This book was very engaging, thought-provoking, and relatable as a millennial woman. Tracy speaks to a lot of feminist theory contextualized with cultural influences from the last 20 or so years.

Elucidating

The authors life mirrors mine in so many ways. I've always put my sexuality forward so no one could use it against me.