Mind The Gap

The truth about desire and how to futureproof your sex life

By: Dr Karen Gurney

Narrated by: Dr Karen Gurney

Did you know that there is an orgasm gap of around 30% between heterosexual couples when they have sex?

In Mind The Gap, Dr Karen Gurney, a clinical psychologist and certified psychosexologist, explores not just this gap, but the gaps in our knowledge of so much of the most important new science around sex and desire.

In this audiobook, you will learn that nearly everything that you've been led to believe about female sexuality isn't actually true. And that, despite what you might think, it is possible to simultaneously feel little to no spontaneous desire and have a happy and mutually satisfying sex life long term.

Exploring the mismatch between ideas about sex in our society and what the science tells us, Mind The Gap also explains how this disconnect lies at the root of many of our sexual problems.

Combining science with case studies, practical exercises and tips, this is an audiobook for anyone who wants to better understand the mechanics of desire and futureproof their sex life, for life.

(P)2020 Headline Publishing Group Ltd©2020 Dr Karen Gurney

Critic reviews

This book taught me so much about female desire. A must read!

Reveals how you can supercharge desire in a long relationship

Mind The Gap by Dr Karen Gurney reveals the essential factors that drive women's desire and explains how you can harness them to achieve brilliant, satisfying sex long into old age.

Lots of nuggets.

Nothing stays the same as we age, and that includes our sex lives. But how we approach intimate moments can mean the difference between satisfaction and disappointment. That's the premise behind Harley Street psychologist Dr Karen Gurney's debut book Mind the Gap.

[one of] the best books of 2020 to shop now...

Mind the Gap sets out to dispel some long-held sexual myths.

Drawing upon her clinical experience, certified psychosexologist Dr Karen Gurney lays bare the history of sex, its role in society, bedroom inequality and libido - alongside actionable advice on how to have the kind, and frequency, of sex you want.

I thoroughly recommend Dr Karen Gurney's book Mind The Gap if you'd like to explore more about how sexual desire isn't something we should expect to be constantly present so long as we 'love' or 'fancy' someone, but is actually dependent upon all sorts of additional contextual factors, and how understanding all these - and to some extent, planning around them - can aid us in fostering greater desire if we wish to.

For couples wanting practical help

Mind blowing very good reas

The contents is Very informative, never thought a lot of my ideas about sex was just myth. Dr Karen also did a very good performance to narrate the book that kept me listening

Incredible!

One of the best books in the space - by far! Well researched, well thought through, well expressed. Bravo!

TRUTH AND EMPATHY

Heterosexual white male here. This book is filled with scientifical facts. A lot of serious research and tons of real updated clinical experience. I think it will go down in history as the manual for REAL good sex. Thank you doc.

A must read for every woman

I wish I had read this 25 years ago, but it is still time to make a difference. The book is amazing with statistics, real life examples, and a clear view of what society believes about sex. It explains why it is all about the men and teach us how to overcome that without conflict. I wish it was translated into Portuguese… I would send lots of copies to my Brazilian friends. 100% recommend.

Worst book on this topic

This is by far the most disappointing book I’ve come across on the topic of human sexual behavior and dating. The content is extremely repetitive — the author reiterates the same points over and over, making it feel more like filler than substance. The key insights could easily be condensed into a single blog post.