After the Affair, Third Edition

Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful

By: Janis A. Spring

Narrated by: Xe Sands

“Full of juicy, concrete advice to heal from an affair.” (Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, New York Times best-selling author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs)

From a clinical psychologist who served as a clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, received the CPA’s award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology, and has treated couples and trained therapists for over four decades, this newly updated, award-winning book provides concrete, proven strategies for those who seek to survive their partner’s infidelity and to rebuild the relationship after an affair.

There is nothing quite like the devastation caused when a partner has been unfaithful. Hurt partners often experience a profound shattering of their familiar and valued sense of self and fall into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow.

This new third edition of After the Affair, with more than 600,000 copies sold, helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing: normalizing the crisis, deciding whether to recommit to their partner, and rekindling trust and sexual intimacy. It includes a new section in which patients ask questions not addressed in previous editions, and the author provides concrete strategies for earning trust and forgiveness.

©1996, 2013, 2020 Janis A. Spring (P)2021 HarperCollins Publishers

Great read

Really helps me understand myself and my relationship with my spouse. I will listen again.

Helpful

The emotions I went through in this book. It has truly helped in my healing process.

Perfect !!!!

Perfect examples to grasp everything from both sides of the relationship and to mindful and grow..

Clear Concepts

Breaks down perspectives very well. Stories were relatable and the it’s a judgement free read.

Informative

I hate that I needed this book. I listened to the book with an open heart and mind. The concepts made sense and are rooted seeing both sides of the topic. There is a ton of content and the author refers to several workbook docs that aren’t visible with the audio version. I plan on making use of those and re-reading the book to ensure I am solid on the topics covered.

Healing words

This was an informative book that has helped me in the space I find myself in after 41 years of marriage.

Must read for couples

Janis was great in explaining deep state of why affairs occur and how to overcome them

Good read

We are going through a lot of things in our marriage mostly cyber. Listening to the information provided and through self examination I feel much better about things and I’m hoping that it will help her partner as well.

As helpful as a live counseling session

Recently having discovered an issue that rocked me I decided not to have a knee jerk reaction but try and understand. It ain’t easy but listening to this book has provided insights for understanding. I rolled my eyes as couple of times but mostly agreed with or could understand most of what Janis is saying. It’s well worth the listen/read for anyone in the painful situation of infidelity no matter whether the relationship was emotional or physical. Many blessings on your journey to recovering your relationship if that is what YOU CHOOSE! It’s your choice and no one else’s!

Helpful, informative, neutral.

This book covers a lot of ground around affairs. Appreciate it is not religious based and provides alternative perspectives.