It Wasn't Your Fault

Freeing Yourself From the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion

By: Beverly Engel

Narrated by: Kate Rudd

Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it's important for you to know that it wasn't your fault.

In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step-by-step exercises in this audiobook, you'll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences.

Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self-compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self-compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self-criticism, thought suppression, and rumination.

This audiobook is based on the author's powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this audiobook, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop to the crippling self-blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You'll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you'll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion - pride.

©2015 Beverly Engel (P)2014 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved.

VERY HELPFUL

Every word of this book resonated with me…..Listened to it twice back to back…

A well laid out course in Trauma self help.

I liked the exercises, though I sometimes wish psychology in general had more physical exercises. I tend to learn things much better kinesthetically. I do think that finding ways to do this is difficult but I think part of the reason many men don't engage in self help and therapy in general is that talking is a little less natural for men. Breath work is great but feels less active. Being able to engage other methods of learning might be very helpful.
This book though is very helpful and made me think a lot.

Fantactic

The narrators constant reminding the reader that the trauma of various abuses are not the victim's fault.

Will relisten to this one regularly

If you could sum up It Wasn't Your Fault in three words, what would they be?

Hopeful, compassionate, understanding

What was one of the most memorable moments of It Wasn't Your Fault?

Just, whenever you can relate to it, the way she just almost seems to be like this is you isnt it, you do this, dont you? But you know, its okay, here is why and here's what we do next. Look at from this angle and this point of view.

What about Kate Rudd’s performance did you like?

Perfect, she was gentle and sweet. Made the books compassion come out. It was great

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

All of it, I have to go through it again though, it's a lot to take in even though I listened to it for more than a week. I found myself having to take breaks and listen to other things. Because she hits so close to home and is so soft and gentle about it, I found myself emotionally raw a few times. Just had to take this one slow. I will listen many times to this one. For the help its given and her words, she herself being a survivor, really hit deep.

Any additional comments?

If you have any abuse in your life, this is a great book to read to find a deeper understanding and more love for yourself.

thank you wish this was available 30 years ago.

I really wish this had been available 30 yrs ago instead of having to struggle to find my path do similar to this