Smart, Successful, and Abused

The Unspoken Problem of Domestic Violence and High-Achieving Women

By: Angela Mailis

Narrated by: Anne Marie Lewis

In 2016, Dr. Angela Mailis, a world-renowned expert on chronic pain management, was brought face-to-face with domestic violence, when an accomplished colleague was murdered by her equally accomplished husband. It was familiar territory for Dr. Mailis, who herself had been involved in an emotionally abusive relationship for 27 years.

She immediately redirected her research toward what is, perhaps, the most puzzling form of domestic violence: the abuse endured by high-achieving women who, to all appearances, have everything required to stand up for themselves.

These victims spend their days as the powerhouses of boardrooms, clinics, universities, and law courts. They have education, talent, resourcefulness, and financial competence. Yet, they allow themselves to be mentally dominated and emotionally and/or physically beaten by the men in their lives. How does it happen? What can be done about it?

Smart, Successful & Abused is the result of Dr. Mailis’ search for answers to these questions - a search that has taken her to the frontiers of medical research and into the homes and offices of successful career women caught in violent relationships and deep into her own experience as an abused spouse. Her conclusions and advice will help entrapped women recognize and overcome the obstacles that prevent them from acting in their best interests.

©2018 Angela Mailis (P)2020 Angela Mailis and Sutherland House

Educational; & made me feel less alone in my experience

This book was a great comfort to me, as a woman with a master’s degree & a professional career, with an educated/professional husband, who found herself in an abusive relationship. Possibly partially due to mental illness, in my case, but with a partner who refused treatment, & denied a problem. I was embarrassed to admit what was happening in my home. This book was helpful, along with others (such as by author Lundy Bancroft), to help me understand my own situation, to feel less alone, & to feel empowered. Thank you.

Captivating

I don’t like reading about abuse because it makes being a victim my reality. I’ve found myself starting over 2 years post my survival date and this book was spot on. I had questions about dating, divorce, rebuilding my finances. I finished this in less than 24 hours. Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story and those of other women who have walked this journey.