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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

By: Headgum & Nicole Byer
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Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!

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Episodes
  • Writing Heated Rivalry (w/ Rachel Reid)

    Writing Heated Rivalry (w/ Rachel Reid)
    May 15 2026

    Author Rachel Reid (Heated Rivalry) joins Nicole to chat about the wild, viral success of her steamy queer romance novels and the hit HBO adaptation. She shares how she met her husband while performing a smelly, hockey-themed burlesque act, and the dynamic that keeps their 20-year one sided open marriage working for them. She discusses the creative process behind writing explicit romance between men, and exactly why she absolutely does not want to hear your glowing reviews of her work. Plus, Rachel opens up about navigating her recent Parkinson's diagnosis.


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    47 mins
  • Farting All Night on a First Date (w/ Beck Bennett)

    Farting All Night on a First Date (w/ Beck Bennett)
    May 8 2026
    Comedian and actor Beck Bennett (SNL, What's Our Podcast?) joins Nicole to talk about meeting his wife on a sketch shoot and how his wallet-less first date turned into a romantic, fart-filled sleepover. Beck opens up about surviving long-distance dating while shooting SNL, why he believes "love is trust," and the Joshua Tree engagement trip that ended with them sleeping in separate twin beds. He shares the creative ways he jerked off as a kid (including using a Sock'em Bopper and a vibrating pen), and Nicole admits to stealing her first vibrator from Spencer’s Gifts.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTake our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:• Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad • Warby Parker: My listeners can buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/DATEME — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad• Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    51 mins
  • Pikachu, I Choose You! (w/ Sarah Natochenny)

    Pikachu, I Choose You! (w/ Sarah Natochenny)
    May 1 2026
    Voice actress Sarah Natochenny (Pokémon) joins Nicole for a chat about how voicing Ash Ketchum inspired her to become the adventurous protagonist of her own life. Sarah shares her method for vetting a first date, why she has absolutely zero tolerance for men who neg her, and why animal companions (like her cat, Pikachu) will always be better than a boyfriend. Plus, the gals discuss Cher's wild 40-year age gap relationship, share tips for traveling solo as a single woman, and Nicole recounts a horrifying road rage incident that still haunts her.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTake our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:• Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad • Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.• BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/dateme today to get 10% off your first month.• Quince: Head to quince.com/dateme for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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It’s light and funny until Nicole has her heart broken but another uncreative tinder match.


Try her other 29 podcasts! Best friends ❤️

Nicole is my source for all things entertainment

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I love this podcast so much. My favorite episodes are the live versions and this one had me rolling. Hilarious wise cracks between friends, hilarious questions from audience members, a little surprise in there too! A must listen episode!

Never laughed so hard!

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Unfortunately we share the same singleness curse. Maybe too open with our sexual needs and a little too witty for the average dude. Nicole is fantastic and brings out a different side to her guests. Love her cuteness and vocalizations. Yay!!

Kindred in the Worst Way!

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I have listened to this podcast for several years. i absolutely LOVE Nicole Byer! She talks about modern dating, therapy, and her life as a working actor and comedian with such humor and honesty. I feel like I have been a fly on the wall while Nicole has gotten more and more successful and happy. She makes me laugh amd I love her!

Silly, fresh and funny!

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I listen all the time driving down the road. It's like hanging out with you crazy friends that talk about anything and everything. You will laugh a genuine laugh each episode. You should tune in and listen even if you think this won't be for you. Surprise, it's for everyone.

Always entertaining and informative

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