In my interview with Daniel Bilog - men’s coach and hypnotherapist, he shares how looking through our ancestral lineage can help us find the clarity, freedom and self-awareness to direct our lives in intentional ways. That the trauma of colonization, wars, immigration and other adverse experiences generations before us went through were imprinted in their DNA passed onto us and can impact how we experience our lives today.

We also talk about masculinity and how it has gotten a bad rep over the years. He explains why he doesn’t use the word “toxic” to describe modern day masculinity, how men as a collective are evolving today and advice for men who want to become more conscious, empathetic and loving beings.

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In my conversation with Agnes Purwakusuma, we talked about our journey working together over the last year. There was a big learning curve for the both of us and some growing pains too. We share in detail what worked, what didn’t and the things we’re constantly trying to improve on.

When you listen to the episode you’ll learn how to hire an assistant, what to look for, how to start delegating and lots of other tips on how to create a symbiotic relationship.

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If you’re not sure if you should hire someone, here are 5 signs you might need to:

1 - You do everything on your own.

2 - You wish your life was more organized.

3 - You are busy and are never complete with your to-do list.

4 - You don’t get enough sleep because there is too much to do.

5 - You have high expectations of yourself which takes up too much time and energy on even the smallest tasks.

“Anyone who isn't embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn't learning enough.” - Alain de Botton

Think about the person you were last year. 5 years ago. 10 years ago.

What were you like?

Do you ever look back to a moment in time when you did something so shameful that it still stings to this day?

There were things I did that were outright obnoxious, selfish and even cruel and I still cringe thinking about them.

But it’s really no use dwelling on stuff you would have done differently.

Back then, your decision making and emotional capacity were limited to where you were in life. You did the best you could. And like the quote above says, “if you’re not embarrassed, you’re not growing”.

No matter what you’ve done, how bad you think you acted, you deserve grace and self forgiveness.

You deserve to feel worthy of love and belonging.

We as human beings have the ability to learn from our mistakes, evolve and grow. So let’s celebrate that!

Carrying the weight of shame and self loathing doesn’t serve anyone.

It only limits your capacity to love yourself and other people.

In my interview with Dean Powell, a mentor who helps men stand up unapologetically in their power, he shares his story of addiction, infidelity and how he was able to transform his life in a completely new way.

He believes that everyone deserves a second chance, no matter what they’ve done.

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If there’s something you need to forgive yourself for, remember the four R’s of self-forgiveness:

1. Responsibility - by accepting responsibility and taking ownership of your actions you can start to practice self-compassion.
2. Remorse - expressing remorse and guilt for your mistakes is healthy (just as long as you don’t overdo it). And it acts as a catalyst for change.
3. Restoration - giving a proper apology to those involved (including yourself) can repair the relationship and give space for you to move forward.
4. Renewal - instead of dwelling on your past mistakes, learn how you would do it differently in the future and commit to being the person you want to be.

Hope these help.