Do you hope to break generational patterns of pain? Are childhood hurts haunting your marriage? Today’s guest Kristen Hallinan is a writer and speaker, and today she helps you see how to identify and break generational patterns to find hope, healing and redemption.

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.

Episode highlights include:

• How your past trauma can affects your current reactions

• What makes it so hard to break cycles

• Red flags of unhealthy family dynamics

• How to work with God to find his redemption

• Steps to making a redemption plan for your marriage

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!

QUOTES

• “It can be easy to say, ‘Why didn’t I know better?’ You didn’t know better because that’s all you knew.” - Kristen Hallinan

• “The more I’ve gotten to know who God is, the more I understand who I am.”- Kristen Hallinan

• “I used to believe if I just tried hard enough, I could grow up and create this perfect family.” - Kristen Hallinan

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Sign up HERE to get the Couple’s Conversation Guide for each week’s new episode

• Learn more about how to make your marriage conflict healthy by joining Dr. Kim for the 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair Webinar

• Dr. Kim recommends the book, The Body Keeps the Score

• Grab Kristen’s book, Legacy Changer for more great info on the topic

• Follow Kristen on Instagram and check out her website

Today we are sharing the final episode with Kathy McAtee Young and her story of finding safety after decades in an abusive marriage. In this episode Kathy shares some of the barriers that prevent spouses in abusive marriages from seeking safety and help, ways to begin moving out of the abusive relationship, and the ways healing begins afterward.

Don’t miss the conclusion to Kathy’s story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.

Episode highlights include:

• Reasons that abused spouse don’t trust their own judgment

• Steps to get out of an abusive marriage

• Is it ever appropriate to intervene if you believe someone is being abused?

• What the process of healing looks like after you get safe

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!

QUOTES

• “One of the hallmarks of an unsafe relationship is confusion.” - Kathy McAtee Young

• “God sees you. He cares. And he is faithful.” - Kathy McAtee Young

• “We don’t want your pity. Compassion, yes. There is a difference.” - Kathy McAtee Young

• “Healing is a lifestyle, not a finish line.” - Kathy McAtee Young

• “When you can name it, then you can process it.” - Kathy McAtee Young
  
  

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline : 800-799-7233 https://www.thehotline.org/

• Visit Kathy’s website to learn about the helpful resources and services she offers

• Kathy can also be reached for coaching on Instagram

• This previous episode explains a Biblical perspective on abuse

• • Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser with Dr. David E Clarke | Ep. 541

Today in Part 2 of Kathy’s story, Kathy shares the ways she sought support from the church when she realized her marriage was in trouble, the responses she received, and the effects that had on her marriage. In this episode Kathy shares why it’s not possible for the abused spouse to end the abuse, and the difference between biblical versus unbiblical advice about abuse.

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.

Episode highlights include:

• Interventions the church put in place, and why they were not successful

• The wake up moment that turned things around for Kathy

• What is an appropriate response to spousal abuse?

• The red flags that advice or counsel about abuse is unbiblical

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!

• Red flags that advice or counsel about abuse is unbiblical

• • They won’t call out that abuse is abuse

  • They will not call the abuse sin

  • The safety of the abused spouse is not top priority

  • There is no call for repentance

  • They advise you to stay, regardless

  • Blaming the abused for the abuse
    

QUOTES

• “There is one person responsible for abuse: It is the abuser.” - Kathy McAtee Young

• “The Bible definitely commands forgiveness. It does not command reconciliation.” - Kathy McAtee Young

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline : 800-799-7233 https://www.thehotline.org/

• Visit Kathy’s website to learn about the helpful resources and services she offers

• Kathy can also be reached for coaching on Instagram

• This previous episode explains a Biblical perspective on abuse

• • Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser with Dr. David E Clarke | Ep. 541