I didn’t understand until I got into recovery that all of my attempts to connect with other people were in fact, me chasing them. I didn’t realize that in both my romantic relationships and friendships I was putting way more work into maintaining the relationship than they were. True connection means each person has a balanced commitment and emotional investment in the relationship, rather than one person doing everything. This week’s episode 267 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to stop chasing and start connecting!

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing what it looks like when you are chasing someone vs. when you are connecting with them and actionable steps you can take right now to start focusing on the healthy, balanced relationships in your life and letting go of the ones with unbalanced effort and investment.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• Chasing does not equal a high-quality relationship, connection does.
• Connection requires a balanced amount of energy & commitment to a relationship from each person.
• Starting to connect with people involves spending more time with the people you already have an equal connection with and stop reaching out to those you don’t.
• As a bonus, what a conversation with someone might look like to address an unbalanced effort.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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Learning that I had a victim mentality and coming out of it was - hands down - the biggest mindset shift from my recovery. For that reason, this has been a huge topic of conversation on the podcast and something I will continue talking about as things come up to help others do the same. This week’s episode 266 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to stop victimizing yourself and reclaim your power!

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how those of us who live in a victim mentality can unconsciously victimize or re-victimize ourselves and actionable steps you can take right now to reclaim your power back and shift out of this mindset.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• Victim mentality doesn’t mean you’re weak or bad, it's a way of thinking and thus, something you have the power to change.
• The insidious nature of victim mentality and how it is internalized through thoughts and actions.
• Action steps you can use to focus on the present moment and overcome victim mentality.

When you start to see that you are living in victim mentality, you can start to see your choice of coming out of it.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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GETTING OUT OF VICTIM MENTALITY EPISODES

Ep #3 Victim Mentality (8 min)

Ep #106 How to Overcome Victim Mentality Even If You've Been Victimized (15 min)

Ep # 126 How Understanding Your Part in Things Brings You Out of Victim Mentality (15 min)

Ep. #152 How to Stop Taking Things Personally and Come Out of Victim Mentality (14 min)

Ep. #172 Seven Steps to Coming Out of Victim Mentality (21 min)

Ep #176 What Is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of It (19 min)

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Most of us have never been taught to manage our feelings, making this one of the most difficult parts of recovery. When we have been accustomed to pushing our feelings aside, we lose the ability to recognize our feelings or generate our own feelings, and therefore, never get to a place of feeling things on purpose. This week’s episode 265 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to embrace emotional sovereignty- taking ownership of your feelings, not others’ feelings.

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of taking ownership of your own feelings and how not to feel responsible for the feelings of others.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• You don’t have to wait for external triggers to feel something, you instead have the ability to generate your own feelings through your thoughts.
• Why those of us in recovery often avoid our own feelings and take responsibility for the feelings of others.
• Recognizing when you’re feeling others’ feelings vs. your own.
• Your own perspective determines how you feel about what others say or do, not the person’s actions themselves.

It all starts with awareness. Awareness that you are responsible for your feelings and other people are responsible for their feelings.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

My other episodes on feelings:

Ep. 25 Act As If

Ep. 59 Making Things Mean Things That They Don’t

Ep. 76. Reducing Emotional pain

Ep. 141 You're Responsible TO Your Feelings Not FOR Your Feelings

Ep. 156 Info, Not Ammo

Ep. 163 Feelings Aren't Facts - But They're Still Real and They Matter

Ep. 199 Four Ways to Manage Your Difficult Feelings When Setting Boundaries

David Bayer’s podcast “A Changed Mind”

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