It’s held up as the pinnacle of perfect mothering in our culture, but is it really? Often, what you’re over functioning on, is related to what is intolerable for you to be. The more practiced we can be at examining our subconscious motives ahead of time, the less shock we feel when we get angry. So let’s go on a self-examining journey into the shadow side of the selfless mother.

In this episode, we discuss:

- Nothing is ever completely selfless or altruistic

- Where there’s selfless, there’s selfish

- Where you’re giving you are gaining

- Often shame is attached to focusing on the self, and receiving

- Whatever is unacceptable behaviour for ourselves, we make sure our child doesn’t behave like

- Overfunctioning and hyper-dedication is often a control strategy

- To change the ‘mother-as-selfless’ narrative would undermine our social and patriarchal structures and systems

- Deriving our self-worth from being in service to others

- Examining where over-functioning is a strategy to mask or avoid something

- True empowerment requires self-service and other-service


To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/

To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

We all want our children to be pleasant, kind, repair well…and so it’s shocking when we see them as inconsiderate, rude, harsh, or on the receiving end of any of these things.

As a parent, when do you step in, and when don’t you?

In this episode we discuss:
- When you feel like you need to get involved with your child’s social dynamics
- When your kid’s social situations are normal, vs a problem
- Remembering as parents we’re blinded by our lens on our children
- Building resilience and fostering a courageous sense of self
- Observing what our kids are learning from their “teacher”; the child they’re currently orbiting with
- Trusting their ebbs and flows of knowing who they are, and recognising that this will shape who they attract
- Allowing learning through social observation
- How we see our child becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy
- Meeting your kids where they’re at, and having conversations around marginalisation, neurodiversity, trauma and struggle
- The home environment is still the best teacher for relational skills


To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/

To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

The longer you “go without”, the harder it is to get it back. To bring back your intimate vibrancy, and chuck out the ‘roommate vibes’, you need to know what’s blocking you, and why, and what you’re going to do about it.

So let’s move beyond obligation, complacency, resentment and neglect, and let’s centre the wellbeing of the self, the relationship and the family unit, to bring back sexual connection.


To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/

To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/