In this episode, join four of the Tales from the Toolbox Team, Lara, Stacy, Belynda and Alice, for a warm and welcoming conversation on how the Hand in Hand Parenting tools really allow our children to FEEL the love and connection we offer.

If you want to get to grips with why connection is so powerful as an antidote to the busyness and stress that can get in the way of relationship, this is the episode for you.

You’ll hear more about:

• Micro moments of connection

• Unconditional love - what it is and why it matters

• Mummy hockey and how it brought connection

• How long it took us to bring play and listen to big feelings

• Why you are enough for your child

• How these tools can be a foundation of connection, especially if your child is struggling to feel your love

• How having a Special Time practice helps children learn to seek connection in their lives, and gives them a beautiful anchor point

• How ‘being present’ can be enough - we don’t have to ‘fix’ things.

You might enjoy some of the following resources on connection.

https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2022/01/games-for-kids-all-ages/

https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2013/08/build-connection-with-your-child-through-play-playlistening/

https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2015/01/children-need-connection/ 

Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore is a great place to learn more about all the Hand in Hand Parenting tools (and is also available as an audiobook): https://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/ 

If you are interested in finding a Listening Partner, see our previous episode all about this amazing parent support tool at https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/listening-partnerships-the-missing-piece-in-the/id1652623498?i=1000587203616  If you’d like to join the Tales from the Toolbox WhatsApp Group for Listening Partnerships, please complete this form and we’ll email you the details: https://forms.gle/DjjbTBxfTat1EMLE8 

You can connect with Belynda in Australia at hello@belyndasmith.com.au

You can connect with Alice in Shetland at alice@warmheartedparenting.com

You can connect with Lara in London at lara@handinhandparenting.org

You can connect with Stacy in California at growingoodness@gmail.com

You can connect with Kelly in South Africa at kelly@consciousconfidentparenting.co.za

You can continue the conversation with us at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com or you can follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast

We’d love it if you would subscribe to our podcast on your podcast platform, and if you could leave us a five star review that will help us reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools.

Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting, and thanks for listening.

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Join all five of the Tales from the Toolbox Team, Kelly, Belynda, Stacy, Alice and Lara, for a short bonus episode where they geek out a bit about the science behind Hand in Hand parenting and taking a connection-based approach. 

If you’re curious about what happens in our brains as we seek safety and connection and the practical implications of this through childhood and adolescence then this is the episode for you.

You’ll hear more about:

• The brain science that helps us understand what’s going on for our kids in hard moments.
• How to help them to gain the safety that allows their thinking brain to come back ‘online’ after they’ve been off-track or upset. 
• Why breaks in connection WILL happen, and some reassuring information about why this is ok.
• How children develop an internalised sense of safety and connection as they grow and develop, and the importance of repairing it when it inevitably breaks. 
• How connection is the super protective factor in supporting adolescents as they make the transition to adulthood.

Join us!

If you are interested in finding a Listening Partner, see our previous episode all about this amazing parent support tool at ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/listening-partnerships-the-missing-piece-in-the/id1652623498?i=1000587203616⁠  If you’d like to join the Tales from the Toolbox WhatsApp Group for Listening Partnerships, please complete this form and we’ll email you the details: ⁠https://forms.gle/DjjbTBxfTat1EMLE8⁠ 

You might enjoy some of the following resources on connection-focused parenting.

This article discusses the ETR study we mention in the episode. https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2011/11/parent-child-connectedness-takes-us-beyond-emotional-intelligence/

Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Seigel is a wonderful book if you want to learn more about the interpersonal neurobiology and attachment research that’s happening in a parent-child relationship, whether we realise or not. 

https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2017/01/science-behind-hand-hand-parenting-tool-staylistening/

https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2019/09/brain-science-of-childrens-emotions-replay/ 

Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore is a great place to learn more about all the Hand in Hand Parenting tools (and is also available as an audiobook): ⁠https://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/⁠ 

You can connect with Belynda in Australia at hello@belyndasmith.com.au

You can connect with Alice in Shetland at alice@warmheartedparenting.com

You can connect with Lara in London at lara@handinhandparenting.org

You can connect with Stacy in California at growingoodness@gmail.com

You can connect with Kelly in South Africa at kelly@consciousconfidentparenting.co.za

You can continue the conversation with us at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com or you can follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast

We’d love it if you would subscribe to our podcast on your podcast platform, and if you could leave us a five star review that will help us reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools.

Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting, and thanks for listening.

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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message