• It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery - Joe Ryan

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It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery - Joe Ryan

By: Joe Ryan
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  • For access to all episodes and bonus content, subscribe at https://joeryan.com/subscribe Real, genuine, vulnerable, and honest talk about trauma, abuse, addiction, PSTD, and anxiety, helping people to conquer their traumatic pasts. Through this podcast and one on one coaching
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  • EP 0081 - The Mother Wound
    Apr 2 2024

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    Many of us are emotionally stuck at a point where we feel that our self-worth is completely dependent on our mother's love and acceptance. This can lead to a deep wound when we don't receive the love and validation we need in the way we need it. In order to move forward and heal, it's important to reach a point in our recovery where our mother's opinion of us no longer has a hold on our sense of self-worth. We must learn to validate ourselves from within, and find the strength to recognize our own worth regardless of outside approval or disapproval. It's a difficult journey, but one that can lead to a life of greater self-love and acceptance.

    Have you ever had a moment that felt like a key turning in a lock, opening doors to rooms within yourself you didn't know existed? That's what Joe Ryan's latest podcast episode feels like—a raw, unfiltered journey into the heart of personal transformation.

    Joe doesn't hold back as he recounts his struggle with self-hate and shame, emotions that many of us grapple with but few have the courage to confront head-on. He speaks of the burdens we carry, the secrets we keep from ourselves, and the exhausting act of maintaining a façade for the world.

    But then comes the light bulb moment—a realization so profound that it changes everything. For Joe, it was acknowledging his neediness, a trait he had shamed himself for, which stemmed from his childhood. This acknowledgment wasn't just an act of understanding; it was an act of liberation.

    Throughout the episode, Joe takes us through the ups and downs of his emotional journey. He talks about the heaviness that comes with emotional baggage and the lightness that follows when you start to let go. It's a process, he says, not a destination. But the work is worth it because, on the other side of that pain and shame, is freedom.

    Joe's story is one of self-forgiveness and the power of self-awareness. It's about breaking the chains of the past and finding the courage to face our inner demons. He shares his process, the painful yet necessary steps to peel back the layers of hurt, and the healing that follows.

    This episode is a call to anyone who's felt stuck, weighed down by their emotions, or lost in the maze of their mind. It's for those who've ever felt the need to hide their true selves or who've wondered if there's more to life than the roles they've been playing.

    Joe's narrative is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. It reminds us that no matter how deep the wounds, healing is possible. It's a story of coming home to oneself, of building a life not on the expectations of others but on the foundation of self-acceptance and love.


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  • EP 0080 - The Needy Inner Child
    Mar 5 2024

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    Have you ever had a moment that felt like a key turning in a lock, opening doors to rooms within yourself you didn't know existed? That's what Joe Ryan's latest podcast episode feels like—a raw, unfiltered journey into the heart of personal transformation.


    Joe doesn't hold back as he recounts his struggle with self-hate and shame, emotions that many of us grapple with but few dare to confront head-on. He speaks of the burdens we carry, the secrets we keep from ourselves, and the exhausting act of maintaining a façade for the world.


    But then comes the light bulb moment—a profound realization that changes everything. For Joe, it was acknowledging his neediness, a trait he had shamed himself for, which stemmed from his childhood. This acknowledgment wasn't just an act of understanding; it was an act of liberation.


    Throughout the episode, Joe takes us through the ups and downs of his emotional journey. He talks about the heaviness of emotional baggage and the lightness that follows when you start to let go. It's a process, he says, not a destination. But the work is worth it because freedom is on the other side of that pain and shame.


    Joe's story is one of self-forgiveness and the power of self-awareness. It's about breaking the chains of the past and finding the courage to face our inner demons. He shares his process, the painful yet necessary steps to peel back the layers of hurt, and the healing that follows.


    This episode is a call to anyone who's felt stuck, weighed down by their emotions, or lost in the maze of their mind. It's for those who've ever felt the need to hide their true selves or who've wondered if there's more to life than the roles they've been playing.


    Joe's narrative is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. It reminds us that healing is possible no matter how deep the wounds. It's a story of coming home to oneself, of building a life not on the expectations of others but on the foundation of self-acceptance and love.


    So, if you're ready for an episode that will challenge you, move you, and ultimately inspire you to embark on your own journey of self-discovery, listen to Joe Ryan's latest podcast. It might just be the key you've been searching for.


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    33 mins
  • EP 0078 - Terrible Two's and Separation
    Jan 16 2024

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    The terrible two in children is a vital step in their emotional development. It is a psychological birth that starts separation and independence from caregivers. 


    At this stage, the child goes from helpless dependent to more of an independent role as the child starts to realize that they are not one but separate from their caregivers.


    Allowing a child to separate, become more independent, and figure out who they are is one of the most important gifts a parent can give a child. 


    Most parents do not allow a child to separate. The child is now limited by what the parent will allow. They learn that independence is not permitted, and the child stays emotionally bonded to the parent just as they were in infancy. The child will run all thoughts, emotions, and actions through the ‘parent filter.’ They never learn to make their own decisions, find confidence in themselves, and never grow up or leave home emotionally. 


    As the child grows into an adult, they are emotionally stuck at this development stage and need the approval of their parents and everyone with whom they have relationships throughout their life. 


    The internal fears of abandonment turn them into codependent people pleasers who are on an endless quest to find someone, anyone, to permit them to be themselves. 


    In this Episode:

    • Letting kids grow up and not expecting them to take care of your emotional needs!
    • What happens when parents sabotage their children's successes or independence because of their “unlived” lives?
    • Going from being needed all the time to essentially not being needed at all
    • Letting kids be and not trying to shame them into things you want them to do
    • How the “good parent”, especially in divorce, will always get the short end of the stick
    • Avoid feeling betrayed by our child's independence and lack of need for us.


    This episode covers the why’s of what people do to combat this initial behavior and the irreparable damage it can cause to a child.

    The terrible twos are also linked to a teenager's later years of struggling for that greater need for independence. How are they

    connected, and what are the ramifications? What is the impact for both the child and the parent(s), and how does all of this impact all

    involved? This episode reminds us that children can’t be there for your benefit or to fill the holes we have in our souls! It’s

    not healthy for them, and it’s not healthy for us!

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Love it! Engaging! Authetic!

Thanks for getting naked... Tough thing to do spoke to the heart through the heart and that's what it takes.

Been a while since I've heard someone say my message.

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This is as real as it gets!

this guy tells it like it is. this what the shit in my head sounds like! my story. a must listen to if you want to hear a real person and his experiences dealing with problems!

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Just one of the best!!!

I love all of the podcasts, but this one....🙌💯🙏♥️everyone should hear. love Joe's stuff!

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Thank you

Thank you. I'm so tired of not being understood. I'm scared everyday. I want it to stop.

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Wow

This episode as well as the Thanksgiving one were like discovering gold after searching for it for years. Thank you so so so much!

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Appreciated all the knowledge

So glad to finally know it wasn't me all those years it was an abusive Mom that always made me feel unworthy and unacceptable for all I did.

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How?

I think many trauma survivors know they should get out with people and be in community. Question is how to do that somewhat safely. I have tried many times and it furthered my trauma because of hurtful and inconsiderate people. it made me feel worse every time. Also, where, where do we find community? I also have very little money so that gets in the way of options. So this episode ended up making me feel worse.
I generally like all of these episodes but this one was really a tough one.

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