More Than Words

The Science of Deepening Love and Connection in Any Relationship

By: John Howard, Stan Tatkin - introduction PsyD PsyD

Narrated by: Timothy Andrés Pabon

Increase intimacy, connection, and love with this “critical” (Vanessa Van Edwards, bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People), science-based guide to creating meaningful and lasting relationships.

When it comes to building a better relationship with your partner, touch and connection matter so much more than the words that you say. And author and therapist John Howard is here to tell us why.

More Than Words shows you how to deepen love and connection in any relationship based on the latest cutting-edge research in interpersonal neurobiology, trauma-informed healing, attachment theory, and many more scientific fields. This “brilliant guide” (Diane Poole-Heller, PhD, author of The Power of Attachment) explains why verbal communication may not elicit the connection you seek and offers ways to practice and form new habits that can nurture love, care, safety, comfort, and passion in relationships.

Science shows that these techniques work, but most people don’t know them yet. You can start using these techniques today to increase intimacy and emotional connection in your closest relationships.

Mindful of all the needs of the modern individual, More Than Words is inclusive of LGBTQ+, polyamorous, and other nontraditional committed relationships and ultimately looks to elevate the way we strengthen the most important bonds in our lives.

connection over communication

I think the concept of connection enhancing communication and the concept of practice instead of talking is essential

Amazing guide to loving communication

Run, don’t walk, to get this read! It’s amazing to look at the nuero science side, the way the way to work with the nervous system as a way to make connection stronger. It’s simple, easy to apply guidelines will create a HUGE healing and repair if there is rupture, or if you are new to love, will keep you in the deep safety of new love.

Disappointing

Disappointing to have a book that’s claiming to be scientific using pseudoscience like polyvagal theory. I was also disappointed in how the author discounted how valid, important, and powerful virtual connection can be. Seems a bit out of touch with the author trying to generalize the A-list and wealthy clients he works with. I also expected more practical info.

Let me save you 10 hours

This book is great if you struggle with communicating with your partner or you don’t know how to get closer to them. Nothing groundbreaking in this book. Communicate concisely and know when to use physical touch to improve your relationship. I was really hoping for some deeper work, but this isn’t it.