In this episode, we dive into a common but limiting mindset: resignation. Resignation leads many of us to accept less than we deserve, believing "this is just the way it is" and nothing can change. In this episode, Dr. Debi shares personal anecdotes and insights on how our beliefs shape our reality and how challenging and changing these beliefs can lead to significant transformation in our lives.

Key Points Discussed:

The Power of Resignation: Explore how resignation can limit our potential by convincing us to accept our current circumstances without question.

Mindset and Reality: Learn how our mindset, particularly beliefs rooted in resignation, can shape our experiences and outcomes in life.

Personal Anecdote: Dr. Debi shares a personal story about constantly being stopped for security checks while traveling, highlighting how a resigned belief led to a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Rewiring Mindset: Discover strategies for challenging and changing limiting beliefs, focusing on a practical approach involving a mindset shift from resignation to empowerment.

Beliefs vs. Facts: Understand the distinction between beliefs and facts, and how questioning our beliefs can lead to growth and change.

Practical Tools for Change: Introduction of simple, practical tools like using a rubber band or hair tie to snap on your wrist as a reminder to question your beliefs and thoughts.

The Role of Resilience in Overcoming Resignation: Insights into how resilience and a proactive approach to dealing with "weeds" (negative thoughts and beliefs) can nurture the "garden" of your mind, leading to a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Transformation Through Belief Examination: An encouragement to examine and question every belief, especially those inherited or unchallenged, to create deliberate and intentional transformation.
Episode Highlights:

Rewiring Your Mindset Experiment: Dr. Debi's experiment with changing a specific belief about being stopped at airport security showcases the power of mindset change and its impact on reality.

Hard Now, Easy Later Philosophy: Discusses the concept of enduring short-term discomfort for long-term ease, especially relevant in the process of healing and personal growth.

Betrayal and Belief Systems: Touches on how beliefs formed from experiences of betrayal can significantly impact your life and the importance of consciously creating a new version of oneself post-betrayal.

Practical Exercise for Changing Beliefs: The use of a physical reminder to snap out of limiting beliefs and the importance of constantly questioning the validity and utility of our beliefs.

Resources Mentioned:

The PBT Institute: https://thepbtinstitute.com A community and resource for people going through betrayal, offering support, insights, and tools for healing and transformation.

We invite you to reflect on your beliefs, especially those that may stem from resignation. Challenge yourself to identify one belief this week that you can question and reframe. Remember, every belief you change is a step closer to the life you desire and deserve. If you're seeking support or more strategies on transforming your life post-betrayal, consider exploring the resources available at The PBT Institute.

Join us next time as we continue to explore the power of mindset, resilience, and transformation on your journey to becoming your best self.

In this episode, we dive into the complex process of making decisions, emphasizing the impact our current state has on the choices we make. We explore the idea that the Stage of healing from betrayal we find ourselves in - whether it be Stage three, four, or five - significantly influences our decisions, urging listeners to strive for Stage five, where decisions come from a place of clarity and strength.

We discuss real-life examples from our members at the PBT® (Post Betrayal Transformation®) Institute, where people in the midst of healing from their betrayals are also often dealing with tough decisions around managing relationships and raising children post-betrayal. The strategy of 'playing out' each decision and checking in with our body response is suggested as a means to guide the decision-making process.

The concept of making decisions as if you’re already in Stage five is introduced, illustrating how this perspective can simplify decision-making and align actions with our highest self. This leads to a broader discussion about the consequences of decisions over time, the tendency to resist change, and the importance of envisioning and working towards the 'Stage five' version of ourselves.

We touch upon the personal journey of healing from betrayal and how this influences decision-making, sharing Dr. Debi’s own experience with pursuing a PhD in the midst of personal upheaval.

Finally, the episode provides actionable insights on how to begin aligning with the 'Stage five' version of ourselves immediately, regardless of the stage we are currently in. Dr. Debi encourages us to adopt small, intentional actions that reflect the higher self they aspire to be, both personally and professionally.

In closing, listeners are reminded to check in with their 'Stage five' selves to speed up the journey through the Stages from betrayal to breakthrough, turning the focus to intentionality in decision-making.

Key Points Discussed:

The influence of healing Stages on decision-making
Strategies for effective decision-making during tough times
The impact of long-term decision-making on personal growth and change
Personal anecdotes highlighting the journey of growth post-betrayal
Practical steps to align daily actions with one's highest self

Remember:

Decision-making is a reflection of our current state, but it also shapes our future. By envisioning our 'Stage five' selves, we can make choices that propel us toward the breakthrough we seek.

Links:
The PBT Institute: https://thepbtinstitute.com
The Reclaim program: https://thepbtinstitute.com/reclaim/
PBT Corporate: https://thepbtinstitute.com/corporate/

Welcome to today's episode where we dive into a nuanced and often overlooked form of betrayal: self-betrayal. This conversation talks about the complex relationship between betrayal by others and the acts of betrayal we commit against ourselves. Our exploration will provide insights into the manifestations of self-betrayal, the underlying reasons behind this behavior, and strategies for fostering self-awareness and healing.

Key Points Discussed:

The Nature of Self-Betrayal: We begin by defining self-betrayal as the act of going against your best interest, despite knowing better. Examples range from harmful dietary habits to engaging in relationships or activities that lead to negative emotions and outcomes.

Common Examples of Self-Betrayal:

- Continuously consuming unhealthy foods despite being aware of their negative impact.
-Watching content that induces anxiety and fear.
- Maintaining one-sided relationships where there is more taking than giving.

Understanding the 'Why' Behind Self-Betrayal: It's crucial to recognize that self-betrayal is not a reflection of your character but rather a consequence of lacking the necessary tools, strategies, self-esteem or more. This segment aims to shift your perspective from self-blame to understanding and compassion.

The Role of Awareness in Addressing Self-Betrayal: We emphasize the importance of recognizing how you feel after an act of self-betrayal as your personal way to know if this is what you’re doing. This awareness is a critical step towards change.

Personal Stories of Self-Betrayal: Drawing from Dr. Debi’s experience and insights from TEDx talks on Post Betrayal Syndrome® and self-sabotage, we share stories that highlight how self-betrayal can manifest in professional settings, personal development, and daily habits.

The Consequences of Self-Betrayal:

Emotional and physical tolls of self-sabotaging behaviors.
The challenge of facing and moving through discomfort and unfamiliar situations.

Strategies for Overcoming Self-Betrayal:

Identifying and understanding the root causes of self-betrayal.
Making decisions based on what "stinks less" to foster growth and self-improvement.
The significance of advancing to Stage Five for clarity and strength.

Final Thoughts: The episode ends with an invitation to reflect on areas of their life where self-betrayal might be occurring. Through journaling and introspection, we encourage identifying actions and mindsets that align more closely with your highest and best self.

Calls to Action:

Reflect on your own experiences with self-betrayal. How does it manifest in your life? What steps can you take towards healing and self-compassion?
Share your thoughts and breakthroughs with us. Your journey could inspire others to recognize and address their own patterns of self-betrayal.

Next Episode Teaser: Stay tuned for our next episode where we'll explore the transformative power of vulnerability in personal growth and relationships. Discover how opening up about our struggles can lead to deeper connections and a stronger sense of self.

Thank You for Listening! We hope this discussion on self-betrayal has offered valuable insights and practical advice for navigating this challenging aspect of personal development. Join us next time as we continue to explore pathways to a more authentic and fulfilled life.

Links:
TEDx: Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?
TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself
The PBT Institute: https://thepbtinstitute.com