Good Boundaries and Goodbyes

Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

By: Lysa TerKeurst

Narrated by: Lysa TerKeurst, Jim Cress

READ BY THE AUTHOR

2024 ECPA CHRISTIAN BOOK AWARD - AUDIOBOOK OF THE YEAR

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

Relationships are wonderful . . . until they're not. Stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships and learn biblical ways to set boundaries--and, when necessary, say goodbye.

Is it unloving or selfish to set a boundary with family members or friends? Are Christians ever called to walk away from a relationship that's no longer safe or sustainable? #1 New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst deeply understands these hard questions in the midst of relational struggles.

After thousands of hours of counseling intensives and extensive theological research that transformed the way she defined healthy relationships, Lysa is now more committed than ever to loving people well without losing the best of who she is.

In these pages, Lysa will help you:

• Understand the five factors to remember when implementing healthy boundaries.
• Determine the appropriate amount of personal and emotional access someone has to you.
• Stop being misled and emotionally paralyzed by wrongly interpreted or weaponized Bible verses that perpetuate unhealthy relationships.
• Be equipped with effective boundary-setting tools, such as realistic scripts and practical strategies for healthier communication.
• Be empowered to say goodbye without guilt when a relationship has shifted from difficult to destructive.
• Receive therapeutic wisdom you can trust directly from Lysa's Christian counselor Jim Cress, who weighs in throughout the book.

You'll be relieved to learn that boundaries aren't just a good idea, they're a God idea.

Look for additional biblically based resources and devotionals from Lysa:

• Forgiving What You Can't Forget
• It's Not Supposed to Be This Way
• Uninvited
• You're Going to Make It
• Embraced
• Seeing Beautiful Again

I WISH I HAD THIS BOOK 20 YEARS AGO - EXCELLENT

Her story..... is your story, is my story.

This book will free you of the negativity other's impose - the manipulation, control and the fear of man.

With her warm demeanor, she found a way to communicate what so many of us feel, have felt or have walked through.

This book will give you HOPE and the tools to reclaim you and walk in FREEDOM!

A must listen to book!

Lysa speaks to ALL relationships on the verge of
Unhealthy. She helps you, along with scripture to navigate those tough spots and hard decisions.
In the most non judgmental way, she helps you identify what needs to change in order to move forward with a relationship. Hint… you can’t change other people ;-) Love this book so much! Love that she reads it too, and does an excellent job!

Great information with Biblical references

Working through pain is always hard. Having the Biblical wisdom while processing is so important to the foundation of our faith in God. Lysa always leads with the Word and is like listening to your best friend. This book offers many ways to not only heal but also God honoring ways to hold ourselves with dignity without being hurtful to those hurting us.

It’s Was Very Much Worth the Read :)

I love Lysa! Some of her books have helped me through so much and seem to come out just in time. And this one did! I read another book about boundaries when I recently questioned my own, and shortly after finishing that previous book, this book came out that November. I am thankful for that other book giving me my first steps in establishing boundaries, but praise God, one of my favorite authors was now speaking on my newly realized need. It was honestly a ‘cherry topper’ to this very needed direction. The fact that scripture that so constantly but in appropriately used today, was noted, broken down, and a response to it was given, made the encouragement all the better. The book reads easily for me, gives room for personal growth with questions to get you thinking, and gives light to a false dichotomy of reality and scripture. I’m very thankful for this book and plan to read again for an even deeper study. Just want to say, thank you to everyone who played a part in sharing this beautiful wisdom. :)

Validates victims/clarifies next steps after hurt

This message is so important both inside and outside the church. I loved that Lysa explained context for verses that have guilted victims into unhealthy situations or relationships and never justifies the abuser. I love that she doesn't excuse bad behavior while resisting bitterness or slander. She shares her hurt and urges the hurting to find healing and even hope in their relationships through either boundaries. . . or goodbyes. I highly recommend this book.