Sovereignty On today’s episode, I discuss personal power and sovereignty, not as abstract ideas but as lived experiences that shape how we navigate identity, roles, and relationships. I explore the difference between positional power and personal power, how trauma impacts our ability to trust ourselves, and what it means to reclaim our sense of self in the context of kink dynamics and beyond. Whether you’re Dominant, submissive, Switch, or something else entirely, this conversation is about learning to live in alignment with who you are, without apology, without performance, and without giving that power away.

References

Freyd, J. J. (1996). Betrayal trauma: The logic of forgetting childhood abuse. Harvard University Press.

Herman, J. L. (1992). Trauma and recovery: The aftermath of violence—from domestic abuse to political terror. Basic Books.

Siegel, D. J. (2010). The mindful therapist: A clinician’s guide to mindsight and neural integration. W. W. Norton & Company.

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Does trauma cause BDSM desires? Is kink just a reenactment of old wounds? Or can it be something more, a form of healing, reclamation, or simply joy? I break down the difference between influence and origin, explore what it means when kink feels familiar, and offer a path forward grounded in choice, consent, and self-understanding. This is not about shame. It’s about clarity. Whether you're a survivor, a practitioner, or simply curious, this episode invites you to explore where your desires come from and what they mean to you now.

📚References (APA Style)

• Li, S. (2024). The psychology of kink: A cross-sectional survey investigating the association between adult attachment style and BDSM-related identity choice in China. Archives of Sexual Behavior. Advance online publication. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-024-02829-1
• Schuerwegen, A., Morrens, M., Wuyts, E., Huys, W., Goethals, K., & De Zeeuw-Jans, I. (2022). The psychology of kink: A survey study investigating stigma and psychological mechanisms in BDSM. European Psychiatry, 64(S1), S620. https://doi.org/10.1192/j.eurpsy.2022.1566
• Speciale, M., & Khambatta, D. (2020). Kinky & queer: Exploring the experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals who practice BDSM. Journal of LGBT Issues in Counseling, 14(4), 341–361. https://doi.org/10.1080/15538605.2020.1827476
• Sprott, R. A., Vivid, J., & Lev, E. M. (2020). The structure of kink identity: Four key themes within a world of complexity. Journal of Positive Sexuality, 6(1), 1–8. https://journalofpositivesexuality.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Structure-of-kink-identity_key-themes-within-a-world-of-complexity-Vivid-Lev-Sprott.pdf

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Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com

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If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!

#BDSM #Psychology #Trauma #Desire

On this episode, I discuss a topic that continues to challenge kink communities everywhere: should individuals on the Sex Offender Registry be allowed into public events or dungeons? I explore the emotional and psychological impact these decisions have, not just on survivors but on entire communities. From leadership accountability to the erosion of trust, I take a hard look at what happens when safety, consent, and transparency are sidelined. This isn’t about personal attacks. It’s about the behaviors, policies, and silences that shape the spaces we claim to keep safe. It’s a hard conversation, but it’s one we need to have.

Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind

Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com

Find me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠

If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠

I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!

#BDSM #Psychology #Consent #Safety