Explore the profound significance of truly listening through the lens of the Chinese word "TING."

TING encapsulates a deep, multi-faceted approach to listening. Each component of TING is broken down to show how it can transform personal and professional relationships.

The Chinese word TING, meaning "to listen," is introduced. Its intricate components, each represented by different pictographs, are explained to offer a rich framework for enhancing listening skills.

• Hear: The top-left pictograph represents hearing, emphasizing the importance of not just hearing words but also tone, pace, and changes in voice.
• Think: Below "hear," this pictograph encourages thinking about the speaker's message and context, rather than preparing a response.
• Be Present: This element stresses the necessity of being fully present in the moment, experiencing the conversation as it unfolds.
  
• See: The pictograph resembling eyeglasses highlights the significance of observing non-verbal cues like body language and micro-expressions.
  
• Focus: This part reminds to stay focused, avoiding distractions and truly engaging with the speaker.
  
• Feel: The heart-shaped pictograph represents empathy, urging the importance of feeling what the other person is feeling and being aware of one’s own emotions.

Practical tips are shared on how to apply the principles of TING in everyday conversations, making one a better listener, communicator, and leader.

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Additional resources and interactive worksheets on TING are available at DrTori.com/ting to help deepen understanding and practice of effective listening.

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• Dr. Tori's TING Resources: DrTori.com/ting - multiple resources here for you - worksheets, a 7-day bucket list TING challenge, a video walk-through, and more.

Tune in to become a better listener and leader, and learn how to truly influence for good, every day.

The power of being patient has been hiding in another language. You see, patience isn’t just waiting. In this episode, Dr. Tori explores the concept of patience, contrasting its typical interpretation in English as passive endurance with its more active and anticipatory nature in the Arabic word 'Sabr'. Dr. Tori delves into how understanding and redefining patience can shift our worldview and impact our actions. By examining the root meanings of words from different languages, the episode emphasizes that patience involves preparation, taking the right action at the best time, and skill building rather than passive waiting. Dr. Tori encourages listeners to actively engage in self-improvement, seek advice, and prepare for future actions as part of practicing true patience. The discussion concludes with a call to share the insights from the podcast and to continue influencing for good every day.

00:00 Introduction to the Influence Every Day Show
00:31 Exploring the Power of Language and Word Origins
01:07 Understanding Patience in English and Latin
02:00 Discovering the Arabic Concept of Patience: Sabr
03:31 The Active Nature of Patience and Anticipation
04:06 Practical Applications of Active Patience
04:16 Building Skills and Preparing for Action
05:34 Patience in Career Building and Personal Growth
06:55 The Influence of Language on Worldview
07:17 Conclusion and Call to Action
07:22 End of Show Notes and Now Go Share

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017 The Upside of Up-Inflection - Lack of Confidence or Deeper Connection?

Host: Dr. Tori

Podcast: Influence Every Day

Theme: Dispelling myths about up-inflection in speech and exploring its nuanced implications in human interaction and influence.

Dispelling Myths

• Tori addresses common misconceptions about vocal tones, especially the up-inflection, where the voice rises at the end of sentences as if posing a question.
• The discussion emphasizes the complexity and nuance of human interaction, cautioning against oversimplifying gestures or vocal patterns.

Understanding Human Interaction

• Human behaviors and expressions are deeply influenced by internal states or responses to external circumstances, such as personal issues or environmental factors.
• The conversation highlights the importance of considering context in interactions, recognizing that people's responses may not always be directly related to the current conversation.

The Nuance of Up-Inflection

• Contrary to popular belief, up-inflection is not inherently indicative of lack of confidence. While it can sometimes convey uncertainty, it can also be a powerful tool for engagement and listening.
• Tori argues that up-inflection, when used strategically, can facilitate deeper conversations and connections.

Practical Application of Up-Inflection

• Case Study: A patient interaction demonstrates how up-inflection can be used to guide the conversation, encourage the sharing of more information, and deepen understanding.
• This approach allows the speaker to mirror the listener's words, turning them into open-ended questions without making assumptions or judgments.

Benefits of Up-Inflection

• Encourages active listening and genuine engagement, allowing for a fuller understanding of the speaker's perspective.
• Fosters psychological safety, making it easier for individuals to share their thoughts and feelings.
• Can be particularly effective in professional settings, helping to maintain focus on the topic of discussion and facilitating problem-solving and rapport building.

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Conclusion

• Up-inflection is a nuanced and multifaceted aspect of communication that, when used effectively, can enhance interpersonal interactions and influence.
• Listeners are encouraged to experiment with up-inflection in their conversations, paying attention to the context and the responses it elicits.
• Tori reminds the audience of the importance of staying open-minded and adaptive in communication strategies, recognizing the dynamic nature of human relationships.

Call to Action

• Share your experiences with up-inflection and other communication strategies, fostering a community of learning and improvement in everyday influence.

Additional Notes

• The episode challenges the audience to rethink and explore the subtleties of communication, emphasizing the importance of context, empathy, and strategic use of speech patterns in building stronger connections.

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