Learn more about Michael Wenderoth, Executive Coach: www.changwenderoth.com

SHOW NOTES:

Being transparent and vulnerable at work can create safe spaces, trust – and deeper relationships. BUT BE WARNED: doing so can also bite you on the butt -- and send your career backwards. In this episode of 97% Effective, Michael discusses how to be smart and strategic about how much you disclose at work. He covers insights and practical advice from distinguished guests: Professor Peter Belmi at the University of Virginia, on leading with vulnerability; Maria Incontrera, social media and thought leader consultant, on “curated transparency”; and CEO Coach Celine Teoh, on the “15% rule” and how she helps top executives apply it. You’ll leave this episode with a sharp, nuanced view – and practical tips - on vulnerability.

• Why you need to be careful about being authentic, transparent and vulnerable at work

• Correcting misconceptions about vulnerability and disclosure

• Insight #1: Professor Peter Belmi on “being situationally appropriate”

• Tactics to create influence

• Power up or power down

• What does the situation call for – and others need to see or feel?

• Warmth vs Confidence: Would you be more likely to work with a competent jerk or a lovable fool?

• Insight #2: Marie Incontrera on how much should you share about yourself online

• Sharing builds trust

• Curate your transparency: “We all edit”

• What are you choosing not to share?

• Insight #3: Celine Teoh, CEO Coach, on the 15% rule developed by Carole Robin

• Your comfort zone as a set of concentric circles: Where does growth occur?

• What might baby steps look like for you?

• Take smart risks, so you don’t sink yourself

BIO AND LINKS:

Michael Wenderoth is an Executive Coach that helps executives re-examine their assumptions about power, politics, and authenticity to get promoted, become more effective at work, and break glass ceilings holding them back. Having served 20 years in senior roles with companies across the globe, and then 7 years as a professional coach, he has helped accelerated the careers of clients from diverse industries, backgrounds, and levels of seniority, helping them get ahead – without having to sell their souls in the process. Michael is the award-winning author of Get Promoted, host of the 97% Effective career acceleration podcast, and a frequent speaker and media contributor on career advancement, leadership and navigating power and politics. His work has been featured in Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Stanford Business School Executive Education and IE Business School, where he collaborates with renowned professors, coaches, executives and experts. Michael holds an MBA from Stanford and trained as an executive coach at Columbia University (3CP).

• Michael on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelchangwenderoth/

• Research (Leadership Quarterly): “Warning for excessive positivity: Authentic leadership and other traps in leadership studies” https://tinyurl.com/4ndw3ypc

• Episode# 5 – Peter Belmi, Professor at University of Virginia: Social Class & Our Beliefs – How they affect our Path to Power - https://tinyurl.com/2xtrmryu

• The concept of “powering-up” and “powering-down” – from Professor Deborah Gruenfeld, in her book, Acting with Power: https://a.co/d/eC5gxVX

• When people would rather work with competent jerks than likeable fools. Research (Belmi and Pfeffer): https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2018-17089-001

• Episode# 6 - Marie Incontrera, CEO of Incontrera Consulting: Why A Strong Digital Presence Matters: https://tinyurl.com/52rsn39b

• “4 Things to Ask Before You Share Your Personal Life at Work” (Dorie Clark): https://tinyurl.com/dx6bzda4

• Episode #14 - Celine Teoh, CEO Coach: Harnessing small signals, vulnerability, and conflict: https://tinyurl.com/48y9fxp3

• The Schwarzman Scholars: https://www.schwarzmanscholars.org

• Carole Robin’s Book, Connect: https://a.co/d/9rL96VG

• Michael’s Book, Get Promoted: https://changwenderoth.com/#tve-jump-180481ecea3

• Michael on X/Twitter: https://twitter.com/mcwenderoth

• Michael on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wenderoth.michael/

• NEW: 97% Effective, now on Youtube! https://tinyurl.com/bdz53mc5

• NEW: Get Promoted, now on Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/mwf2s28y

Learn more about Michael Wenderoth, Executive Coach: www.changwenderoth.com

SHOW NOTES:

Do you find it challenging to secure a sponsor at work – or deal with a difficult colleague? Many times we’re told to “go build a relationship,” but it’s not really clear what that means or how to do that. In this episode of 97% Effective, host Michael Wenderoth shares the counterintuitive yet powerful strategy of seeking advice to overcome workplace challenges and advance your career. He shares four diverse situations where seeking advice has benefited his clients -- seeking a mentor, aiming for a promotion, gaining support for a proposal, and converting an adversary into an ally – and three pitfalls to avoid. By the end of this episode, you’ll understand the underlying social science of why seeking advice is so powerful, and how to put that in practice thoughtfully, effectively, and efficiently, so you get the people part right at work.

• Two reasons why you need to open doors and build relationships with people at work
• Why seeking advice feels counterintuitive – but is powerful and highly beneficial
• Four situations where seeking advice pays huge dividends
• Situation #1: When Sam sought a mentor or sponsor
• What’s wrong with “Let’s catch up for coffee” and “Can I pick your brain”
• Situation #2: When Dave sought clarity on the path to promotion
• The important of getting your boss’s perspective
• Situation #3: When Jack sought support for his proposal
• The “meeting before the meeting” to build allies and avoid surprises
• Situation #4: When Alex turned an adversary into an ally
• Ways to seek advice from someone you probably detest
• Three mistakes to avoid when asking advice

BIO AND LINKS:

Michael Wenderoth is an Executive Coach that helps executives re-examine their assumptions about power, politics, and authenticity to get promoted, become more effective at work, and break glass ceilings holding them back. Having served 20 years in senior roles with companies across the globe, and then 7 years as a professional coach, he has helped accelerated the careers of clients from diverse industries, backgrounds, and levels of seniority, helping them get ahead – without having to sell their souls in the process. Michael is the award-winning author of Get Promoted, host of the 97% Effective career acceleration podcast, and a frequent speaker and media contributor on career advancement, leadership and navigating power and politics. His work has been featured in Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Stanford Business School Executive Education and IE Business School, where he collaborates with renowned professors, coaches, executives and experts. Michael holds an MBA from Stanford and trained as an executive coach at Columbia University (3CP).

• Michael on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelchangwenderoth/
• How seeking advice is critical to getting a promotion: https://hbr.org/2022/10/how-to-get-your-first-promotion
• Research: Why Seeking Advice Boosts Perceptions of Confidence https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Pages/item.aspx?num=47824
• Research: Why Seeking Advice Rather Than Feedback Yields More Developmental, Critical and Actionable Input https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Pages/item.aspx?num=56638
• Michael’s Book, Get Promoted: https://changwenderoth.com/#tve-jump-180481ecea3
• Michael on X/Twitter: https://twitter.com/mcwenderoth
• Michael on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wenderoth.michael/
• NEW: 97% Effective, now on Youtube! https://tinyurl.com/bdz53mc5
• Get Promoted, now on Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/mwf2s28y