In this heartfelt follow-up, Tonje and her brother Frode continue their journey, diving deeper into their shared history with courage and compassion.

They kick off the episode with a profound discussion about pedophiles and the possibility of rehabilitation.

Tonje's acknowledgment of her condescending behavior, rooted in a sense of superiority, frustrates Frode. They explore the delicate balance between offering support and respecting boundaries.

Together, they debunk the myth of self-blame, stressing the importance of setting clear boundaries in cases of sexual abuse. They reclaim their voices, empowering themselves in the process.

Their conversation turns critical as they address the systemic barriers survivors face, questioning why abuse centers lack funding. They urge listeners to advocate for societal change and support for survivors.

Tonje and Frode grapple with authenticity and vulnerability, weighing the risks and rewards of sharing their truth. They reflect on the timing of healing and acknowledge the complexities of personal growth.

Join Tonje and Frode on this transformative journey as they navigate trauma, shame, and healing, seeking understanding and wholeness within their family.

After the episode you can hear the song "Stole my dreams", a demo Tonje made almost 25 years ago.

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In the first part of this candid two-part episode, host Tonje invites her brother Frode to join her for a heartfelt conversation about their childhood. Together, they explore the complexities of growing up in a family with violence, abuse and mental health issues.

They start by reflecting on whether their memories of childhood are the same, sharing personal anecdotes and differing perspectives.

Tonje and Frode delve into the dynamics of their family, discussing their own parenting style and the influence of their parents and grandparent's difficult past. They talk openly about the challenges they faced and the impact it had on their upbringing.

With poignant honesty, Frode shares his natural response of anger, prompting a deeper exploration of the healing process within their family dynamic. Together, they offer practical insights and steps towards fostering healing and reconciliation.

As they reminisce about their father's, today, very inappropriate Christmas cards and discuss the possibility of forgiveness, the conversation takes a serious turn.

Frode's shares his emotional journey in coming to terms with the feelings of shame around Tonje's revelation of being sexually abused by their father.

As they confront the pervasive shame associated with sexual abuse, Tonje and Frode courageously address the stigma that often surrounds survivors and their loved ones. They grapple with the weight of societal judgment, challenging the damaging assumption that Frode might also be an abuser by association.

They grapple with difficult questions about their family history, including the distinction between a pedophile and a molester, and whether their father fit into either category.

Join Tonje and Frode as they engage in a raw and honest dialogue about their shared past, seeking understanding and closure along the way. Stay tuned for Part 2, where they continue their exploration.

After the episode you can hear the song “12 Days” from Tonje's newly released album “You Are”, with Unicorn.

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Join us as we explore the profound impact of feeling safe within the family dynamic. Tonje's journey unveils the ripple effect of her emotional regulation struggles on her daughter and herself. Delve into the depths of their experiences and discover actionable strategies to cultivate a sense of safety and empowerment.

After the episode you can hear the song Original Sin from Tonjes newly released album with Unicorn.

Learn more and listen Unicorn here: www.unicorn.no

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