From Self-Care to We-Care

The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring from an Undivided Heart

By: Jordan Quaglia, Daniel J. Siegel M.D. - Foreword

Narrated by: Jordan Quaglia

Learn to harmonize self-care with caring for others through we-care, a science-based approach designed to enhance personal and social well-being, promote healthy boundaries, and offer a path of healing and transformation.

Too many of us are familiar with the burnout that can come from overextending ourselves for others. Self-care is often promoted as the solution to this imbalance, but there are growing concerns that an overemphasis on self-care is exacerbating interpersonal challenges, fraying the fabric of our communities, and diminishing our responsiveness to broader social issues. In a world where time can feel increasingly scarce, we find ourselves in a dilemma: should we prioritize ourselves or others? Yet as psychologist and compassion scientist Jordan Quaglia demonstrates, this choice is based on a false dichotomy. The emerging science and practice of we-care reframes the very concept of care as a social force that includes both self and other.

Through personal stories, guided inquiries, practical social exercises, and insights from cutting-edge neuroscience, Quaglia offers a framework and toolset designed to help you find a more balanced way to express your innate sense of compassion. This holistic approach sparks transformative changes across your health, relationships, and work—uplifting yourself and others while supporting a stronger, more connected society for us all.

©2025 Jordan Quaglia (P)2025 Shambhala Publications

amazing uplifting book and well read

just listening to this book is likely to inspire and benefit you as it calls to our wisest and most compassionate nature. the audio quality is great and helps connect with the author also!
highly recommended

Hope for Another Way

This book expanded my heart in ways I didn’t expect—offering hope, comfort, and a spacious invitation to grow. Jordan’s voice throughout feels like both a skilled teacher and a humble companion, guiding with wisdom while walking beside you as an equal. The examples and practices he shares are refreshingly realistic and immediately applicable, making the work feel accessible rather than overwhelming.

By the time I reached the final pages, I had uncovered new insight into my own patterns—how often I abandon myself for others, and how at other times I neglect those I love under the guise of protecting my own energy. What I left with was not shame for these imbalances, but a profound sense of possibility: that there is another way. Jordan’s framework of we-care gave me language and tools to begin building a healthier balance, where care is not a zero-sum choice between self and other, but a shared practice that strengthens both.

This is more than a book on self-care or compassion—it is a guide to healing the fractures between us and within us. The science, stories, and practices interwoven here make it both deeply human and practical. I recommend it wholeheartedly to anyone seeking not only greater peace in their own life, but also a vision of how our collective well-being can flourish when we learn to hold both self-care and care for others as inseparable.