The Marriage You Want

Moving Beyond Stereotypes for a Relationship Built on Scripture, New Data, and Emotional Health

By: Dr. Keith Gregoire, Sheila Wray Gregoire

Narrated by: Dr. Keith Gregoire, Sheila Wray Gregoire

We all want a marriage that feels like home. We long for a partner who is there for us through all of life's challenges and griefs, who is in on all our inside jokes, who delights in the family we've built together, who looks with hope toward the future with a shared faith and an arm firmly around our shoulders. But how do we get there? What actually works in the real world and honors the picture of marriage found in Scripture?

Based on the findings of their meticulous research, Sheila Wray Gregoire and Dr. Keith Gregoire dispel the pervasive myths about what makes a happy marriage. Rather than relying on gender stereotypes, they look at what actually creates intimacy, emotional health, and connection, asking deeper questions that lead to real healing and growth in your relationship with your spouse.

With enlightening stories, survey results, and practical tools, this book will help listeners create a marriage they love. And with the evidence-based, Scripture-honoring advice in this book, that just may be closer than you imagine.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

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Great book on marriage.

Just like their other books, this looks at marriage with Biblically sound teaching and good contemporary information. Planning to lead some couples through it in our church.

The only Christian marriage book I would recommend

This marriage book is based on actual studies. It addresses the toxic teachings that are in all the popular Christian marriage books, and shows how they damage marriages and people.

This book also talks about workload and mental load in a marriage and how huge the impact of these are on a marriage.

And this book shows what does work, what is relevant, and what will help you build a happy, healthy, enjoyable marriage.

Do yourself a favor and throw away all the Christian marriage books on your shelves, and replace them with this one. You won’t be sorry.

Well researched. The stuff you need to hear.

Book does a great job at explaining mental load, and how it plays a crucial step in life balance. Highly recommend listening together with spouse and stopping periodically and discussing the book! Listening together has brought us closer!

Finally, a balanced approach to marriage!

I am very impressed that the authors recorded the book themselves. It adds a layer of authenticity and genuineness.

Well Researched

I liked: informed, well-supported, and touching (the story of working hard on the marriage and kids).

Where to improve: Rarely, but sometimes just a few more specific details could help us with deeper clarity on areas that may be a bit confusing.

I learned so much!