Losing Yourself Isn’t Love

How to Love Deeply Without Overgiving, Clinging, or Abandoning Yourself

By: Mira Rowen

Narrated by: Virtual Voice

Losing Yourself Isn’t Love

It doesn’t start all at once.
It doesn’t look dramatic.
And it rarely feels “bad enough” to leave.

This is how losing yourself in love actually happens.

You start adjusting without noticing.
You explain yourself more than you should.
You soften your needs.
You quiet parts of yourself to keep the peace.

You’re still loving.
You’re still trying.
But somehow, you don’t feel like yourself anymore.

This book is for you.

This book is for women who are tired of surface-level self help books for women that tell them to “just love themselves” without understanding the pain of losing themselves in relationships.

Not because you loved the wrong person.
Not because you’re weak or needy.
But because loving deeply shouldn’t require you to disappear.

Many women find themselves losing themselves in relationships without realizing it.
They overgive to feel secure.
They cling because distance feels dangerous.
They abandon themselves just enough to keep love close.

And over time, love starts to feel heavy instead of safe.

Losing Yourself Isn’t Love gently explores why overgiving, clinging, and fear of distance are not flaws—but survival patterns rooted in fear of abandonment.
It helps you understand why love became something you had to earn, manage, or constantly protect.

This is not a book about leaving your relationship.
It’s about understanding why you feel smaller in it.
And how to stay with yourself while still loving someone else.

Inside, you’ll find honest reflections on why love started costing you your voice, your boundaries, and your sense of self.
You’ll learn what healthy love actually feels like—calm, spacious, and grounded—without losing intimacy.

Unlike many self healing books for women, this book doesn’t offer quick fixes or empty positivity.

This is not therapy.
But it might feel like sitting with someone who finally puts words to what you’ve been living.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep losing yourself in relationships,
or how to love deeply without overgiving, clinging, or abandoning who you are,
this book was written for you.

You don’t have to disappear to be loved.
You get to stay.