Note: Due to a connection issue, our guests' video dropped out for most of this episode, but the audio is all there and the conversation is too good not to share. Thanks for bearing with us!

Welcome to Episode 012 of How'd You Do It?

I sat down with John and Lorie Nelson, parents of eight children, grandparents to nearly 22, on the exact 40th anniversary of the day their oldest son, Michael, was born. What started as a celebration turned into one of the most honest and tender conversations we've had on this show.

John came from a structured, expectation-driven home. Lorie came from a warmer, more nurturing one. When they married and started having kids, they had to figure out how to blend two completely different parenting philosophies, often behind closed bedroom doors, talking each other off the ledge before facing the kids. We talk about:

• The Moment of the Day: The nightly ritual that kept eight kids connected across generations.
• The Nelson Family Court: Why handing judgment to the kids made the fights disappear.
• No More Sleepovers: The one rule they never looked back on.
• Personal Priesthood Interviews: The one-on-one habit that built decades of trust.
• When Your Kid's Marriage Falls Apart: A raw look at divorce, family fallout, and faith.
• Healing a Marriage: Fifteen years of struggle and one courageous decision.
• Scorched Earth vs. Soft: Two opposite parents, one united front.

Enjoy!

Welcome to Episode 011 of How'd You Do It?

I sat down with Jeff Flamm, a serial entrepreneur who has started eight companies and raised six children, to talk about what it actually looks like to lead a family with intentionality. We dive into the "Reading Couch," the non-negotiable 6:00 PM dinner, and why he made the radical decision to sell his dream mansion, his houseboat, and his ATVs once he realized his possessions had started to "own" him.

Jeff gets incredibly vulnerable about the "conduit of revelation" that opened up when he started treating his family with the same strategic focus as his businesses. We talk about:

• The Power of Consistency: Why "training" your kids is more about your own discipline than theirs.

• Stewardship vs. Ownership: Teaching children that everything we have is a gift from Heavenly Father that requires work to maintain.

• The Temper Trap: Jeff shares a raw look at his own struggles with patience and why "taking a breather" is the best gift you can give your kids.

• Nature vs. Nurture: How to handle the different personalities of six kids while keeping the family close for the long haul.

Enjoy!

Welcome to Episode 010 of How'd You Do It?

After 45 years of marriage and raising eight children, Michael and Lisa Dove realized that a "perfect" parenting recipe doesn't exist. In this episode, they share how the heartbreaking loss of two sons shifted their focus from strict expectations to radical mercy and unconditional love .

They discuss navigating mental health struggles within a family and the concept of "perfect trials"—challenges designed specifically for our growth . You’ll also hear about the "miracle" of their twins and the simple, life-changing power of whispering affirmations of love to your children.

Enjoy!