Social and Emotional Intelligence: New Thinking, New Choices In Life Coaching

By: Clare Steffen

Narrated by: Virtual Voice

Dr. Clare Steffen, Founding and Executive Director of Coaching Choice College and CE4Coaches, explores social and emotional intelligence (SEI) from a multi-faceted model. This handbook allows life coaches and therapists to examine SEI and consider ways to utilize it with clients to improve their ability to create healthy relationships, make healthier life choices, and to develop a philosophy for livings that is sustainable. The Cognitions of Choice (COC) developed by Dr. Steffen provides the client with the tools to learn about their thinking process and to better understand how it is connected to how they manage and regulate emotions. The COC model is an approach to assist clients in understanding how to move automatic thoughts that can be unhealthy into conscious choice that supports wellness. Through each step, the client can learn how to invite, investigate, and initiate new choice thinking. iThe integration of COC with SEI offers a way for coaches and therapist to utilize a variety of cognitive behavioral approaches, and to teach the client how to connect to meta-thinking, and ultimately utilize mindfulness in their every day lives. The social and emotional intelligence (SEI) handbook is designed to assist life coaches and therapists in bringing a practical application of SEI to life coaching. It is written for professionals to be used in working with clients and has a variety of applications and settings. Methods on how to develop the traits, skills, and abilities of SEI for practical application in everyday life are offered. SEI has application outside of the work setting and can be helpful in managing personal relationships to self and others. This handbook is designed to bring clarity to the history of this work, examine the research models, and offer a practical approach to using SEI in coaching clients or patients to a healthier lifestyle. Ultimately, the clients can be taught these methods, and will display an improved ability to identify, regulate, and manage their emotions in various relationships. It is written from the viewpoint of coaching, but can be utilized by therapists as well. The SEI handbook allows life coaches to examine SEI and consider new applications for working with clients. Taking SEI from the conceptual to the practical provides the life coach with an in-depth approach to using SEI to assist clients in making the desired life changes and to creating a new philosophy for living. The handbook provides insight and practical application in the following areas: 1) Comparing different theoretical perspective on SEI 2) The history of SEI 3) Perceiving emotions 4) Reasoning with emotions 5) Understanding emotions 6) Managing emotions 7) The five competencies of emotional intelligence 8) Measuring SEI 9) Developing SEI 10) The COC model 11) The Big Five of Healthy Relationships model 12) Integrating choice and SEI to create a wellness philosophy for living When clients are provided with tools to make healthier life choices they thrive. Having a valued-based approach to addressing life challenges, situations, and significant relationships can improve their confidence in their ability to make healthy life choices. Understanding how thinking, feeling, and behaviors impact underlying beliefs is crucial in changing old patterns of thoughts that fuel poor life choices. New thinking, New choices is the way to guide clients to self-acceptance, forgiveness, and love. Ultimately, we are social animals, and we depend on one another in an instrumental way. Having a global approach to understanding the self, and connecting to ourselves in a respectful and appreciate way opens doors to better living. When we are the best version of ourselves, we are better equipped to contribute and create new thinking, new life choices.