Confessions of a Fairy’s Daughter

Growing Up with a Gay Dad

By: Alison Wearing

Narrated by: Alison Wearing

National best seller (The Globe and Mail)

Finalist for the Edna Staebler Award for Creative Non-Fiction (2014)

Longlisted for the RBC Taylor Prize (2014)

A moving memoir about growing up with a gay father in the 1980s, and a tribute to the power of truth, humour, acceptance and familial love.

Alison Wearing led a largely carefree childhood until she learned, at the age of 12, that her family was a little more complex than she had realized. Sure her father had always been unusual compared to the other dads in the neighborhood: he loved to bake croissants, wear silk pajamas around the house, and skip down the street singing songs from Gilbert and Sullivan operettas. But when he came out of the closet in the 1970s, when homosexuality was still a cardinal taboo, it was a shock to everyone in the quiet community of Peterborough, Ontario - especially to his wife and three children.

Alison’s father was a professor of political science and amateur choral conductor, her mother was an accomplished pianist and marathon runner, and together they had fed the family a steady diet of arts, adventures, mishaps, normal frustrations and inexhaustible laughter. Yet despite these agreeable circumstances, Joe’s internal life was haunted by conflicting desires. As he began to explore and understand the truth about himself, he became determined to find a way to live both as a gay man and also a devoted father, something almost unheard of at the time. Through extraordinary excerpts from his own letters and journals from the years of his coming out, we read of Joe’s private struggle to make sense and beauty of his life, to take inspiration from an evolving society and become part of the vanguard of the gay revolution in Canada.

Confessions of a Fairy’s Daughter is also the story of “coming out” as the daughter of a gay father. Already wrestling with an adolescent’s search for identity when her father came out of the closet, Alison promptly “went in,” concealing his sexual orientation from her friends and spinning extravagant stories about all of the “great straight things” they did together. Over time, Alison came to see that life with her father was surprisingly interesting and entertaining, even oddly inspiring, and in fact, there was nothing to hide.

Balancing intimacy, history and downright hilarity, Confessions of a Fairy’s Daughter is a captivating tale of family life: deliciously imperfect, riotously challenging, and full of life’s great lessons in love. Alison brings her story to life with a skillfully light touch in this warm, heartfelt and revelatory memoir.

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Critic reviews

“Truth - even when it was brutal when first disclosed more than thirty years ago - becomes an interesting story with time. It becomes art that engages people; that makes them laugh; that resonates with their own untold stories. It can heal....In Confessions of a Fairy’s Daughter, Wearing deftly picks apart the complex knots of family - the love, the adventure, the myth, the hurt, the betrayal.” (Sarah Hampson, The Globe and Mail)

“[Wearing’s] family’s long journey from turmoil to acceptance comes to vivid life in Wearing’s new memoir.... An engaging and poignant account.” (Andrea Gordon, Toronto Star)

“A loving tribute to [Wearing’s] dad and a touching coming-of-age story in and of itself...A tenderly honest and notably humorous account.” (Winnipeg Free Press)

“Part memoir, part history book, part diary and all parts heart. Alison Wearing weaves a tale that celebrates the complexities of who we are and the families we hold close. Confessions of a Fairy’s Daughter is painful, tender, poignant and - most important - beautifully honest.” (Brian Francis, author of Fruit)

Lovely Listen

Touching story told with a wonderful voice and performance. So thankful for the happy ending that helped me find solace after the storm. I especially appreciate that it was divided into the three perspectives: how the daughter saw it, how the dad saw it, and how the mother saw it. Poignant

Deeply experienced memoir.

I'm taking a memoir writing course with Alison Wearing so was interested in learning how she writes.i really enjoyed her reading of it and the perspectives of herself, her father, and her mother's experiences of such a challenging emergence. It depicts with deep honesty what so many experienced before being gay was accepted by straight society.

Tender and Inspiring

Allison Wearing tells her story in a beautiful voice with honesty and forgiveness. Loved it!