Don't Let Your Kids Kill You

A Guide for Parents of Drug and Alcohol Addicted Children

By: Charles Rubin

Narrated by: Tom Zingarelli

When kids turn to substance abuse, parents also become victims as they watch their children transform into irrational and antisocial individuals. This harrowing scenario finds parents buckling beneath the stress, often with catastrophic consequences: divorce, career upsets, breakdowns, and worse.

Don't Let Your Kids Kill You is a landmark work that dares to focus on the plight of the confused, distressed parent and not the erring child. It sets aside any preconceived ideas that parents are to blame for what is essentially a full-blown global crisis. Drawing on interviews with parents who have survived the heartbreak of kids on drugs, combined with his own experience, Charles Rubin provides practical advice on how parents can help themselves and their families by first attending to their own needs.

©2016 Charles Rubin (P)2016 Tantor

Critic reviews

"Offers parents the means to attain a healthy balance in their lives despite their children's choices." ( Publishers Weekly)

adult child of addiction

this book was very helpful with dealing with the disease of addiction helping me set some boundaries and taking care of me and how to help my child I do suggest that you read this book because I can identify with so much it would like he was telling my story overall great book

So relatable highly recommended

My therapist recommended this book to
me and I’m glad she did. As a parent of an addict the stories and feelings were so relatable in this book. I found myself
checking the boxes to those same emotions. As some one who has detached and set boundaries for my addicted son, I always found myself questioning if I’m doing the right thing. This book confirmed my husband and I
are. The recovery process will take time. To continue to work on me as that will be the best for all and that all I can do.
Thank you for writing your story. We are not alone.

MUST READ!

If your child has a drug problem this book can save your sanity. Read it!

Necessary

This was such a personal eye-opener. Everyone, whether having a child on drugs or working with addicts will benefit from this book. I am deeply encouraged. I would like to see an updated version, especially with the rise of the internet, the pandemic and the fentanyl crisis.

this book is awesome.

great book about addiction and how it affects parents of addicts. absolutely should be read or listened to by anyone who loves an sddict

Excellent

So good! I have listened to multiple times. A keeper!Thank You! A handbook for life!

Your kids may not recover, but you can

This book starts off stating that it’s the only book out there that focuses solely at the parents, and not the erring child. I didn’t understand that at first, because there are several books out there that offer guidance to family members on how to get their loved ones clean. I was missing the point. This book is NOT about how to get your child clean. The author is realistic about this harrowing fact: your child may never recover. This is devastating, but the point is that whether or not your child gets better, the parents can. The parents can have their life back.

My daughter has been addicted to drugs for five years now. She has been to rehab about ten times, she has worked the steps, and she has relapsed over and over. Recently, after a period of sobriety, she told me flat out, “I don’t want to be sober.” This never occurred to me; I always thought she wanted it. My daughter might never get better. But I desperately want to, and this book gives me some ideas about how to get started on my own recovery.

It is a quick read, and written by a parent who gets it. I highly recommend it.

Highly Recommended

For any family dealing with the devastating effects of addicted children, this is a game changer. This is the most helpful book I have ever read..thank you

Must read if kids are in deep.

I read one review that said the author had “given up” or tells you to give up on these kids, he most certainly has not. He is simply and concisely telling you as a parent, what you need to do to save your own life and come to terms with your child’s destructive addiction issues.
This book is a must read for any parents of kids that have gone off the deep end and have made your life a living hell. Thank you!

Thank you! I really needed this book!

Everything about this book was perfect! The narrator author, the shared experience and the length was to the point. I will be reading it again I'm sure.