Ep. 8: Sexlessness

By: Esther Perel

Narrated by: Esther Perel

Length: 34 mins

Publisher's summary

[Contains mature themes] A couple are first-generation children of immigrants, raised to believe sex should only take place in a marriage. Now that sex isn’t forbidden, it’s deeply uninteresting…to one of them.

Step into the office of renowned relationship therapist and TED Talk sensation Esther Perel, and listen in as she counsels couples in crisis due to infidelity, sexlessness, loss, and disconnection. The result? Astonishing insights on how they can make love work – and takeaways for you on ways to repair and restore your own relationships.

About Esther:

Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships. A celebrated psychotherapist who has helmed a private practice in New York City since 1983, she has over three decades of experience navigating the intricacies of love and desire.

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Educated

As a man, I learnt something huge today. I can be super passive and still be intimate. Wow!!! I have my new super power 💪🏼

The opposite of reality television

Any additional comments?

These couples sessions are the opposite of reality television. Where reality TV makes you feel smug and superior, these make me feel vulnerable and self-reflective. They open me up to see where my spouse and I need to improve to help each other. They are beautiful and humbling.

Brilliantly sharp and effective

Esther has laser vision that cuts to the point in a loving and profound way to reveal the root of the problem and offer practical solutions to a challenge many couples struggle with. Bravo!

Marriages can become sexually explicit

This is great for any couple who needs to be able to identify what is really blocking or stopping them from being sexual beings again.

Vaginismus

This is the first time I know that this symptom of physically not enjoying sex has a scientific name - vaginisimus. I struggle with it a lot and sometimes wished i could enjoy intercourse as much as my female friends do. None of them understand my situation either. I believe many women experience the same inner struggle that sex seems to be an obligation.. I hope there's more recommendation on how to fix this..

Years of therapy and all I needed was a 33min audio book!

I've spent years wondering if something was genetically or chemically wrong with me and in 33min I learned more about myself than in the 3 years of continuous counseling! It felt liberating, to know I'm not alone, and the only thing "wrong" with me, is my strong rebellion to the expectations of who I'm supposed to be. I just wish this ended with a little more detail on how to come to a compromise or how to say "x it!" Instead of always saying "x you" But understanding the problem is the first step, and Esther Perel opened my eyes to why I am the way I am. And the reason is not I'm flawed or defective ,it is that my own spit fire strength is biting my own butt. I've listened to over 200 audio books and this one made the most impact. I can't help but wonder is there others out there, and if there is, I hope this gives them some awnsers. Thank you Esther Perel from the bottom of my heart for sharing this!

To resolve or not

The narator was excellent. I still felt more needed to be resolved between the couple.

good luck to women

It is sad to witness how society affects women even when "they do everything according to the rules"

Therapy when it's psychological

Sexual gratification is the topic of discussion during this session. Good advice for a struggling committed couple.

Master piece as sexual therapist

Best understanding as a person and In the society. Multi cultural but at the end as a woman against the patriarchal system