The Modern Loss Handbook

An Interactive Guide to Moving Through Grief and Building Your Resilience

By: Rebecca Soffer

Narrated by: Rebecca Soffer

Stay connected to your person, yourself, and the world around you in the aftermath of loss.

Modern Loss is all about eradicating the stigma and awkwardness around grief while also focusing on our capacity for resilience and finding meaning. In this interactive guide, Modern Loss cofounder Rebecca Soffer offers candid, practical, and witty advice for confronting a future without your person, honoring their memory, dealing with trigger days, managing your professional life, and navigating new and existing relationships. You’ll find no worn-out platitudes or empty assurances here. With prompts, creative projects, innovative rituals, therapeutic-based exercises, and more, this is the place to explore the messy, long arc of loss on your own timeline - and without judgment.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2022 Rebecca Soffer (P)2022 Running Press Adult

Critic reviews

“Please, dear God, let this be handed out with the crappy (or fancy!) white wines at wakes, life celebrations, shivas, and/or funerals. It could and will change lives.” (Erin Lee Carr, author of All That You Leave Behind: A Memoir and filmmaker, Britney vs. Spears)

“The Modern Loss Handbook is a rare achievement: candid, funny, wise, useful. And best of all, it’s filled with tools to help us face grief without the puffy, well-meaning blah blah blah that we grievers are always hearing. Rebecca is one of us, and she writes like it.” (Michael Cruz Kayne, writer for The Late Show with Stephen Colbert and host of the A Good Cry podcast)

“Like a pal who listens to you vent and makes you laugh in equal measure, The Modern Loss Handbook is comforting, thoughtful, and the perfect amount of irreverent. Each gently posed question and biting anecdote is a reminder that however shriveled by grief readers may feel, they’re not alone, and they’re going to be okay (mostly). This handbook is just what I needed when my mom died, and I’m so glad it exists now. A hundred times better than a condolence card.” (Tyler Feder, author of Dancing at the Pity Party)

A warm and valuable resource

I found this book to be the connection to grief work that I've needed. I lost my dad in 2022, and 2023 marks 20 years since my mother died. The stories and resources are so practical. I'll be making my way through the workbook, writing about my loved ones and exploring what they mean to me. I'll listen to this one again.