Comparison is rife in the world today. With social media, we are constantly shown what we should look like or be doing with our lives. 

Comparison itself is normal. We need to compare things for it to make sense in our mind. E.g. Comparing your strong foot with your weaker foot to decide which one are you going to pass the ball with. 

The problem is when comparison meets insecurity and we start to compare elements of ourselves to others that we think define our worth e.g. money, success, how we look. It’s a hard mould to fit. Social media helps us promote our strengths and hide our flaws, whilst secretly being insecure. Consumerism feeds on our need to compare. 

As Jordan Peterson said in his book 12 Rules for Life, you can’t just compare as you have nothing to reach for. When you say ‘I will never look like that’ or ‘that person is way more successful than me’, you end up throwing yourself a pity party with no resolution. You can’t get better from just feeling bad about yourself. 

The other issue is that we are comparing ourselves to a fraction of someone else’s life. You may say you want the life of X rockstar but what you don’t see is his struggle with addiction and the fact he hasn’t spoken to his mother in 10 years. You only see the highlight. 

So how do we get out of the cycle of comparison and live more happily? We discuss our top tips in this episode, as well as some affirmations you can tell yourself each day to build up your confidence. 

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