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If you’ve ever fantasized about being at the center of a gangbang, you’re certainly not alone! A study released by PornHub found that “gangbang” was the 7th most popular search term for women. Turns out a lot of us want to get fucked by a horny crowd.

Roxie Valentine, a leader with Cliff Media, a women and queer-led porn production company, dishes on her recent experience starring in two gangbang scenes. She explains how she prepared physically and emotionally in the days leading up to the event, including how she got over feeling nervous. She also describes conversations about enthusiastic consent with participants in advance of the scenes that helped put her at ease and create a safer environment.

The gangbang scenes for Roxie were filled with sexual firsts, hot interactions, and some funny and awkward moments. Although being a trans woman is only a small part of her identity, it was one of the factors on her mind going into the event. Ultimately, Roxie’s comments before the scene and the culture of people in the group contributed to what she describes as a very positive experience.

Roxie concludes with some recommendations for ensuring that, regardless of your gender identity, your first gangbang is a safe and rockin’ good time.

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In this light-hearted episode, two long-term slutty queerdos - GeeGee and Vanessa - respond to listener questions about sex, kink, dating, relationships, gender identity, and desire.

GeeGee and Vanessa are both involved in kink and swinger communities, star in and direct porn, and have had partners of all genders. Yet, their answers to many of the questions end up being very different, a reminder that there is no one correct approach to sexuality but a whole world of options to explore.

Questions include:

“I haven’t been wanting sex lately because I’ve gained a lot of weight and I feel bad about my body. It’s hard to get it on while I’m feeling gross about myself. What can I do?”

“My partner and I are starting to explore non-monogamy. They want to do a full-swap but I’m nervous that seeing them have sex with someone else will make me jealous. How do I move past this?”

“I want to have sex with a friend who is trans but I’ve never done this. What do I call their body parts?”

“I can’t take anything bigger than a pinky finger in my ass. I’m a bi guy and I want to feel guys fuck me in the ass, but it’s still really painful for me. How do I get better at taking it?”

“My partner watches a lot of porn without me. Does this mean I’m not satisfying him? Is watching porn going to make him stop wanting me? Should I be worried?”

“I have a crush on this girl but I don’t know how to ask her out. How do I make a move?”

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Have you ever struggled to get or stay hard during sex? Loved or dated with someone whose dick stays soft? Been in a swinger situation where people with dicks in the room are embarrassed when they don’t get it up?

Both cocks that sometimes stay soft depending on the situation (e.g. with a new partner or during group sex) and cocks that are chronically soft (what doctors sometimes call “erectile dysfunction”) can be a source of embarrassment and frustration for dick owners. Steph, who has experienced life with a soft cock for many years now, describes their process of unlearning these negative emotions and reconnecting with their body.

From feeling so embarrassed that Steph avoided sex in their marriage to enjoying a career as a sex worker, NSFW content creator and porn performer, Steph has traveled a long road to experience confidence and pleasure in their sexuality. They are now active with an organization called Soft Cock Week that offers support for people with soft cocks and advocates to undo the stigma and embarrassment.

We close with some sex advice around how to have amazing sex without ever getting it up.

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The average age of attendance at group sex events is typically higher than the average in the general public. It takes some bravery and self-confidence to step so far outside social norms and share sexuality in front of other people. Even for older adults, group sex can be intimidating at first. David shares how he grew after his first experience with a gangbang and learned to feel comfortable and confident in group sex today.

David walks listeners through some of the basics, including how to find gangbang and orgy events and what to expect when you go. He also describes how he navigates the events as a young single guy and how he practices enthusiastic consent. Although David imagines potentially mixed responses if he told family and friends about his sexual adventures, he has found group sex to be a fun and life-affirming experience and encourages people who want to explore to give themselves permission to be happy.

David closes with advice for other young single men about how to move past the nervous awkwardness and pursue group sex in a way that is positive, consensual and fun for themselves and other group participants.

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“Complex personhood”, a concept from sociologist Avery Gordon, refers to the truth that we are all full of contradictions, neither victim nor perpetrator, neither fully wounded nor fully healed, always somewhere in between and both, stumbling as we search for ways to survive and thrive.

Sexuality is a huge part of our complex personhood. It can be a source of spiritual pain, destroying our sense of self and disconnecting us from others. And, the exact same sex acts, when given different meaning, can bring joy, passion, self-confidence, and deep connection.

In this episode, GeeGee shares their experience with sexual assault and its aftermath. In the months following the assault, GeeGee became hyper-sexual. This had a rough impact on their self-esteem and social life, including leading to a non-consensual encounter that left them struggling with long-term guilt.

Eventually, GeeGee embarked on an intentional journey of personal healing, finding it in their heart to forgive both the person who assaulted them and themself. They learned that slutty sex itself was not the problem, but rather how they pursued sex and what it had meant in their lives. Today, GeeGee continues to have sex with lots of people, but through social connections and strong personal boundaries that are life-giving and positive.

This episode steps away from the often over-simplified narrative of sexual assault. GeeGee’s story offers survivors a reminder that everyone processes and responds to trauma differently, including the nonlinear path of reclaiming a sense of autonomy and personal power.

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Porn and full-service sex work are often described as demeaning professions, something a person would do only out of financial desperation, trauma, addiction or coercion. Pixie Mae presents a more nuanced perspective.

Many sex workers have spoken out against policies meant to “rescue” them from their chosen profession. Indeed, “the right to not be rescued” is one of the 6 rights identified by Sangram, a global sex worker organization.

Through her years as a sex worker, Pixie has found personal power in the work, using her body and sexual creativity as a source of financial independence, Like 1 in 3 women, Pixie has survived sexual trauma; her sex work has helped her heal and reclaim her sexual agency. She also sees her clients experience healing and emotional growth through her work.

In a society that tells us that our work is reproachable, Pixie offers affirmation and recommendations for sex workers looking to reclaim their personal power.

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In mainstream media, autism is often depicted as a deterrent to successful romantic or sexual relationships. Steph presents an alternate perspective: autism is a different way of thinking and being that can be harnessed as interpersonal superpowers. For example, autistic people are often highly empathetic, have a strong moral compass and are more comfortable with direct communication. Autism can also be associated with different sensory and sexual desires. Embracing, rather than trying to “fix” these differences allows for a world of exciting freedom and possibility.

Both academic research and Steph’s personal and community experience suggest that forms of non-traditional sexuality, including kink, polyamory and queerness, are more prevalent among autistic people than the general public. Steph describes how BDSM kink allowed them to reconnect with their sexuality as they discovered the importance of novelty and sensation for the way they think and experience the world.

Comfort with thinking outside social norms and communicating their feelings directly with others now helps Steph sustain successful polyamorous relationships. Their partner joins us off-camera to discuss ways they interact with Steph’s neurodivergent thinking and communication styles.

This episode offers autistic people and their loved ones support and ideas in their journey of self-exploration and authentic sexual and romantic connections.

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