Attracting the wrong person and wasting time yet you still don't understand why it keeps happening? You wouldn't date them if you knew how they were...how could you attract someone so different? Maybe it was just bad luck again?
🤟OR maybe you CAN do something about it? ( YES YOU CAN!) Oftentimes, when we are dating someone they show up as our mirror, the moment we realize that we don't necessarily like what we see, is also the moment of our self-reflection and a signal that we still need to change a few things INSIDE us and verify whether that feeling/behaviour they showed us, is still not grounded deep inside us, a feature we were ashamed of or don't like but we did it before on some occasions?
Think about it... if it wasn't a part of you, you just wouldn't ACCEPT the way they behaved and rather than react, you'd FEEL it doesn't resonate with your values and turn away from it! Emotional reactions mean there is still some groundwork to be done, even if that person has much more to do to even realise it was wrong in the first place.
We need to RECOGNIZE it and understand that this NO LONGER serves us and we want to break free from those patterns or behaviours, therefore we do not agree on this in our future. But we need to welcome it, change - rewire for a better way, and in PEACE not SHAME/PAIN move on from it to find a person that won't have them and therefore we won't vibrate/resonate on that level AT ALL and simply won't be attracted by it anymore. It's subconscious, we don't even speak about those things or think about them when we date, but they are a part of us and send signals to the world which then finds us a person that somehow resonates as well on that frequency or that way of wiring inside. To CHANGE it, we NEED to change INSIDE us first When someone you date did something upsetting towards you, or treated you in a bad way: 1. Welcome the feeling, don't be ashamed of it. Forgive yourself if you have done it sometime in the past. WE all make mistakes. That's how we learn. It's normal. 2. Rewire and learn a better way in that situation that didn't feel good, run that scenario in your head, and use it if you can in the real world, 3. The change will be inevitable and you will see how you start surrounding yourself with different people
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