🔥 Ever wondered what’s behind your deepest sexual fantasies? This week on Ask A Sex Therapist, Artemisia De Vine joins Heather to chat about erotic fantasies. Artemisia, with her extensive background as a professional dominatrix and sex worker, helps us understand when it feels safe to explore fantasies by getting past our own internal protectors. It’s about finding that balance between the taboo and what feels acceptable to us. Tune in and learn how you can make your fantasies a reality!

👂 What you'll learn:

- The psychological underpinnings of common sexual fantasies

- How exploring these desires can lead to profound states of consciousness

- The importance of the ego and desire in shaping our erotic experiences

- Strategies to embrace and integrate your fantasies for healthier intimacy

- Artemisia's unique perspective on overcoming societal guilt and shame linked to sexual preferences

Timestamps for some of the key moments in our conversation:

• 01:45 - Artemisia Divine's unique introduction to the world of sexual fantasy
• 08:34 - Overcoming societal and religious impact on sexuality
• 15:22 - The vital role of presence and psychological understanding in sexual experiences
• 23:50 - Decoding the complex symbolism of personal sexual fantasies
• 29:18 - Combining fear and desire within fantasies to achieve balance
• 37:55 - The transformative potential of sexual fantasies in relationships
• 42:44 - The intricate workings of Artemisia's "Divinery Method"
• 51:22 - Emotional aftershocks: Navigating arousal and shame
• 58:17 - Dissecting cuckolding fantasies: Importance of the "antidote"
• 67:00 - The connection between sexual fantasy and spiritual journey

🎧 Don't miss this enlightening exploration into the complexity of human desire - press play now!.

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Ready to unlock the secrets to more and better orgasms? 🎉 This week on "Ask a Sex Therapist," we're tackling one of your favorite topics—orgasms! Whether you're chasing your very first climax or looking to make those peaks a more common part of your bedroom repertoire, this episode has something for you. Join Heather Shannon as she explores everything from breaking mental barriers to practical tips for heightened pleasure, all with her signature blend of humor and expertise. Don't miss out on these game-changing insights!

What you’ll learn in this episode:

- 🧠 The mental blocks that might be killing your vibe and how to overcome them.

- ✨ How different sensations could dramatically change your sexual experiences.

- 🔄 The importance of security and attachment in improving your orgasm frequency.

- 🔍 Masturbation tips and why knowing your body is crucial.

- 🚀 Techniques to boost orgasm probability if you already enjoy them but want more.

Tap in to discover the secrets to a sensational sex life. Grab your headphones and listen today! 🎧👉

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EPISODE LINKS

• Ep 5 The Clitoris - Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 005 The Clitoris on Apple Podcasts
• Ep 22 The Orgasm Gap - ‎Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 022 The Orgasm Gap with Dr. Laurie Mintz on Apple Podcasts
• Ep 48 The Magic of Masturbation - ‎Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 048: The Magic of Masturbation: More Presence, More Pleasure on Apple Podcasts
• Ep 56 Female Arousal with Susan Bratton - Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 056: Female Arousal with Susan Bratton on Apple Podcasts

🌟 Feeling stuck in your love life or overwhelmed by stress? Tune in to this game-changing episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," where we sit down with emotional healing coach Allison Jayne to uncover transformative techniques for personal growth and better relationships! Allison shares her expertise on EFT tapping, a simple yet potent method to rewire your brain for more positive outcomes. Whether you're battling feelings of unworthiness in dating or just trying to navigate the waves of modern love, this is the episode that might just turn your world around! 🌈👫

🎧 In this episode, you'll discover:

- How EFT tapping can help you overcome trauma and reduce stress.

- The role of your subconscious self-concept in your romantic relationships.

- Strategies to combat the scarcity mindset in online dating.

- Practical tips for using EFT tapping to enhance your dating experience.

- Allison's inspirational journey from tapping novice to emotional healing maestro.

Don't miss out on these remarkable insights! Tune in now to transform your approach to love and personal wellness! 🎶💖

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🤗 Are you ready to expand your understanding of intimacy beyond the bedroom? In this cozy episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, Heather shares her personal journey of attending her very first cuddle party! Wrap yourself up in the knowledge that not all closeness needs to be about sex, discover how platonic touch can open doors to greater intimacy, and learn about the fascinating dynamics of cuddle parties. Whether you're flying solo or navigating relationships, there's something in this episode to warm everyone's heart. Tune in and embrace a world where consent is king and connection is queen. 🛋️

Listen now to embrace the warmth of non-sexual intimacy and learn how cuddle parties are creating a new space for consent and connection!

What you'll learn in this episode:

- The underestimated power of platonic intimacy

- Defining cuddle parties and how they differ from play parties

- Tips on negotiating personal boundaries and practicing consent

- The draw of cuddle parties for a diverse crowd, including those interested in non-monogamy

- How cuddle parties can serve as a space for personal growth and self-discovery

Timestamps:

- [00:03:24] Explaining what a cuddle party is and how it functions

- [00:04:47] Distinction between cuddle parties and play parties

- [00:06:10] The attractiveness of cuddle parties to those seeking connection

- [00:07:18] The personal growth element of attending such events

- [00:09:13] Building the safe container of a cuddle party

- [00:21:08] How asking for consent can transform interactions

Listen to this heartwarming exploration of non-sexual intimacy and learn how to add a touch of consensual coziness to your life! 🎧

🎙️ Hot flashes, mood swings, and... sexy times? Menopause isn't just your mother's concern, folks – it's a rollercoaster that can start as early as *38* and it affects everything from your emotions to your intimacy. 😳💥 Fear not, because this episode of *Ask A Sex Therapist* is here to light up the path through the mist of menopause. We've got the radiant Dr. Kelly Casperson from "You Are Not Broken" dropping truth bombs on everything hormone-related. Plus, we spill the tea on the good, the bad, and the not-so-slick truths behind the lubes and creams that promise to keep things smooth sailing south of the border. 🚀💦 Tune in and turn your perimenopause frowns upside down!

Here's what you'll learn from this episode:

- The real deal on "bioidentical" hormones and what's just slick marketing 🎩📈

- Why your birth control pills aren't on the same level as menopause treatments 🚫💊

- Tips for talking to your doc about hormones like you've got an MD of your own 🗣️💪

- The lifesaving importance of lube, and why silicone is your new BFF 🙌✨

- How vaginal estrogen could be the $20 game-changer for your love life ❤️💡

Timestamps:

- [02:15] Understanding menopause and its surprising age range

- [05:30] Demystifying perimenopause symptoms

- [11:45] Why "bioidentical" hormones are causing a buzz

- [17:20] The significant risks of misinformation on vaginal estrogen

- [23:45] How healthy habits can support hormonal balance

- [31:00] Navigating the options for hormone replacement therapy

- [38:30] The big misconceptions of hormones and sexual health

- [43:10] The affordable secret weapon against dryness

- [49:50] Why GSM should be on your radar sooner rather than later

- [55:25] Vaginal estrogen myths busted for breast cancer survivors

Ready to rise above the confusion and start living your best life? Listen now and transform your approach to perimenopause and beyond! 🎧🌟

Don't miss out; visit heathershannon.com for more insights and to snag your free dirty talk guide! 📚💬

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Hey there, lovely listeners! 🌸 In this episode, we're getting real and addressing the tricky topic of self-consciousness during sex. Whether you're worried about your body, technique, or just feeling like a complete beginner, we've got you covered. Join me as we unpack what self-consciousness really looks like in the bedroom and uncover actionable steps to boost your confidence and fully enjoy your intimate moments. Let's kick those insecurities to the curb and embrace owning our authentic selves! 💪

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How to recognize signs of self-consciousness during sex

- The impact of cultural ideals on body image and sexual confidence

- Practical steps for finding inspiration and building confidence

- Unpacking limiting beliefs and exploring their impact on sexual experiences

- Understanding the importance of addressing emotional blocks for a fulfilling sex life

Ready to take charge and transform your sexual experiences? Tune in now to the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast! 🎧

00:00 Late night episode discussing self-consciousness during sex.

04:00 Overanalyzing can emphasize insecurities and self-consciousness.

06:44 Finding and appreciating your favorite flavors and partners.

12:25 Acceptance and compassion for body image struggles.

15:25 Challenge thoughts, change experience, unpack stories, notice.

17:27 Heather’s story of overcoming fear of public speaking in college.

19:51 Podcast email available, upcoming episodes with guests.

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In the latest episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, Heather engages in a powerful conversation with guest and professional Surrogate Partner, Katherine Yeagel. Together they explore the nuanced and often misunderstood practice of Surrogate Partner Therapy. Katherine, a surrogate partner, somatic sex educator, and queer sex and relationship coach, shares her insightful perspective on the therapeutic journey, emphasizing the stepping stones of starting from a place of safety and gradually moving toward deeper connection.

They highlight the importance of nervous system regulation, the impact of societal norms on personal relationships, and the need for authenticity in sexual encounters. Katherine's personal transformation and professional insights shed light on the intricate relationship between self-discovery and healing within the context of surrogate partner therapy. This episode offers listeners a thought-provoking examination of intimate growth, client experiences, and deliberately pacing yourself in intimate relationships to build trust and establish healthy boundaries.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

🧑‍🤝‍🧑What is Surrogate Partner Therapy? (3:41)

📑How does someone get started working in this field?

🙋 What types of people make a good client for Surrogate Partner Therapy?

🚷What are some myths about Surrogate Partner Therapy?

🚦Creating and noticing safety and green lights in your body when it comes to intimacy

TIMESTAMPS

03:41 Surrogate partners help clients practice relationship skills.

10:06 Learning to provide whole authentic relationship with clients.

13:14 Teamwork with therapists fulfills and enriches Katherine.

20:31 Creating a green zone space for yourself.

27:41 Surrogate partners navigate authenticity and attraction challenges.

37:46 Reflecting on experiences, avoiding regrets after sex.

42:00 Authentic expression leads to genuine confidence.

44:44 Deconstructing traditional views on sex and sexuality.

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SIMILAR EPISODES (where I cover more obstacles that could be blocking your sex life!)

• 060: Navigating Sexual Relationships Post-Trauma with Jackie Tempera - https://pod.fo/e/213792
• Ep 63 How to Communicate About Sex Openly & With Sensitivity - https://pod.fo/e/217d0a

KATHERINE YEAGEL...

Don’t forget to “Follow” the show 👉https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist. We have awesome episodes coming up on sexual fantasies, surrogate partner therapy and what it’s like being a porn star and you won’t want to miss them!

In this week's solo episode, Heather breaks down the top 5 reasons your sex life might be feeling stagnant. Once you know what these are, you can get past them and get back to the steamy stuff! 🔥 No more sexless marriage. No more sex feeling like a chore. And no more lesbian bed death. Let’s turn the heat back up in your bedroom (just metaphorically though because it’s best to sleep in cool temperatures LOL)!

If you’ve been feeling more like roommates than lovers, this episode is for you. Sex shouldn’t be something you have to cross off your to do list.

In this episode, you will learn:

🍆 How neglecting what worked in the beginning can cockblock you!

🦺 The importance of creating emotional safety for open communication

😋 Ways to actively nurture and prioritize your sex life

🧠 Understanding your turn-ons and creating the right conditions for an intimate connection

🫠 The impact of unresolved hurt and betrayal on your sex life

Hit PLAY to find out how to remove these major sex blockers and start building a sex life that actually turns you on.

Here are a few highlights:

- [00:00:32] Introduction to the topic and upcoming episodes

- [00:02:21] Reason #1: Neglecting what worked in the beginning

- [00:05:41] Reason #2: Not feeling emotionally safe

- [00:08:50] Reason #3: Failing to nurture your sex life specifically

- [00:12:53] Reason #4: Not getting the type of sex that really does it for you

- [00:18:17] Reason #5: Impact of unresolved hurt and betrayal

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• 060: Navigating Sexual Relationships Post-Trauma with Jackie Tempera
• 046: Body Count, Slut-Shaming & Good Girl Syndrome