Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we see ourselves, how we see others, and what we pass down to future generations.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes.

You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help reset your finances and reclaim your well-being. We also provide resources to support your journey, including workshops on money trauma and no-contact groups.

Join us as we focus on reclaiming control, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing self-care in your financial life.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth.

You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-draining relationships and perfectionist tendencies. Additionally, we discuss the importance of self-love, self-compassion, and clearing stored trauma from your body.

This episode aims to guide you through the first step of the four-step bloom method to help your relationships flourish, ensuring you are on the path to feeling truly deserving of love and happiness.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundaries.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships.

For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed.

This episode will not span all of the ways love avoidance can show up in relationships as that as been discussed in previous episodes. But we hope these real experiences will help validate and give solace to the women who need to hear these stories represented.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms.

In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.