Episodios

  • #78 Finding Balance: Prioritizing Your Healing in a Challenging Relationship

    #78 Finding Balance: Prioritizing Your Healing in a Challenging Relationship
    Nov 7 2024
    In this episode, we explore the delicate balance of prioritizing your own healing in the wake of betrayal when your spouse is struggling. We discuss strategies to maintain your well-being while supporting your partner, emphasizing the importance of self-care, communication, and setting boundaries. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com Contact us: info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie. Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Choose Recovery on Instagram
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    16 m
  • #77 When Individual Growth Isn't Enough: Bridging the Gap in Relationship Healing

    #77 When Individual Growth Isn't Enough: Bridging the Gap in Relationship Healing
    Oct 31 2024
    In this episode, we dive deep into the nuances of healing after infidelity and betrayal, exploring why individual growth alone isn’t sufficient for restoring a relationship. Join us as we discuss the importance of moving beyond mere checkbox recovery, peeling back the layers of inner work, and fostering a sense of community while avoiding isolation. We’ll also touch on the significance of patience and understanding in the healing process as you focus on intentional consistency over time. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com Contact us: info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie. Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Choose Recovery on Instagram
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    29 m
  • #76 Introducing the Renewed Restored Podcast: A Journey of Whole Person Healing with Stephanie

    #76 Introducing the Renewed Restored Podcast: A Journey of Whole Person Healing with Stephanie
    Oct 24 2024
    In this exciting episode of Choosing to Stay, co-hosts Hallie and Stephanie dive into Stephanie’s latest project—her new podcast, Renewed Restored. Stephanie shares how this new venture focuses on whole-person healing: addressing mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical recovery, especially for those who have experienced betrayal trauma and those working on sexual integrity. Listeners will hear how Stephanie's pastoral background, coaching expertise, and personal experiences have shaped her vision for Renewed Restored, creating a space for individuals to find healing and growth. With professional guests, insightful topics, and a focus on faith-based transformation, Renewed Restored is set to guide listeners through recovery with compassion and clarity. If you're seeking tools for both personal healing and spiritual renewal, this is the podcast for you! Tune in to hear more about how Renewed Restored complements the work being done in Choosing to Stay and offers an additional resource for those on their path to wholeness. Email Stephanie info.renewedrestored@gmail.com Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com Contact us: info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie. Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Choose Recovery on Instagram
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    15 m
  • #75 When You're Not Heard: Minimization's Role in Prolonging Betrayal Trauma

    #75 When You're Not Heard: Minimization's Role in Prolonging Betrayal Trauma
    Oct 17 2024
    In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the painful dynamics that occur when a betrayed spouse feels dismissed, minimized, or unheard by their partner. After the trauma of infidelity, it's crucial for both partners to validate each other's feelings to heal and rebuild trust. But when the pain is downplayed, dismissed, or ignored, it deepens emotional wounds, creates feelings of unsafety, and prolongs the healing process. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com Contact us: info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie. Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Choose Recovery on Instagram
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    14 m
  • #74 Staying Steady: Managing Triggers and Shame After Betrayal with Laura Fisher, MFT-I, BCC

    #74 Staying Steady: Managing Triggers and Shame After Betrayal with Laura Fisher, MFT-I, BCC
    Oct 10 2024
    Join us in Spanish Fork, Utah on October 23-26, 2024 for the Courage to Thrive Intensive! This is an opportunity for betrayed partners to come and experience weeks or months worth of work in just a few days! You will have experiential opportunities on topics such as grief, healthy boundaries, self-love and redefining yourself after betrayal. We will provide opportunities to experience somatic healing to help your physical body find some relief from the stress of trauma. I would love to see you in Utah in person! You can learn more HERE and reach out to Vanessa at Choose Recovery Services at (702) 277-9145 with questions. In this episode, we are joined by Laura Fisher, MFT-I, BCC, who is a colleague of ours at Choose Recovery Services. She sees individual clients as well as couples. She has many specialized trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), APSATS, Full Therapeutic Disclosures, Deconstructing Gaslighting, Mindfulness Based Addiction and Trauma Treatment and more. You can read all about her and connect with her HERE. Laura joins us as we dive deep into how to stay emotionally grounded when betrayal leaves us feeling out of control. We’ll explore what it means to stay within your window of tolerance and why it’s crucial for emotional stability and healing after infidelity. Learn how to identify when you’re being triggered, and understand how these triggers are often a subconscious bid for connection and safety. We’ll discuss how to regulate your nervous system in those moments when shame surfaces and past hurts resurface, offering practical strategies to help you manage your reactions instead of being overwhelmed by them. Whether you’re struggling to stay present during difficult conversations or finding it hard to manage unexpected emotional waves, this episode provides tools to help you stay steady. Self-Care Wheel Window of Tolerance for Men Window of Tolerance for Women Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com Contact us: info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie. Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.
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    45 m
  • #73 When Faith Wavers: Understanding the Aftermath of Infidelity

    #73 When Faith Wavers: Understanding the Aftermath of Infidelity
    Oct 3 2024
    Join us in Spanish Fork, Utah on October 23-26, 2024 for the Courage to Thrive Intensive! This is an opportunity for betrayed partners to come and experience weeks or months worth of work in just a few days! You will have experiential opportunities on topics such as grief, healthy boundaries, self-love and redifining yourself after betrayal. We will provide opportunities to experience somatic healing to help your physical body find some relief from the stress of trauma. I would love to see you in Utah in person! You can learn more HERE and reach out to Vanessa at Choose Recovery Services at (702) 277-9145 with questions. In this episode, we explore the profound impact infidelity can have on personal and relational faith. Whether it's questioning long-held beliefs, grappling with feelings of betrayal, or navigating the complexities of trust, we discuss the various ways individuals and couples experience a crisis of faith in the wake of infidelity. Join us as we share insights and strategies for healing and rebuilding. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com Contact us: info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie. Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Choose Recovery on Instagram
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    21 m
  • #72 Confronting Avoidant Behaviors to Move Forward in Healing

    #72 Confronting Avoidant Behaviors to Move Forward in Healing
    Sep 26 2024

    In this episode, we delve into the impact of avoidant behaviors on recovery after infidelity and betrayal. We explore how these behaviors can create barriers to healing, trust-building, and emotional intimacy. Join us as we help define what avoidant behaviors are and discuss practical strategies for recognizing and overcoming avoidance to foster a healthier path forward.

    Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

    Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

    Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Book with Hali

    Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Stephanie’s Bio

    Book with Stephanie

    Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com

    Contact us: info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

    Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

    Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.

    Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali.

    Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.

    Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.

    Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections.

    More from Choose Recovery Services:

    Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women

    Choose 90 for Men

    Choose 180 for Men

    Choose 360 for Men

    Road to Recovery

    Should I Stay or Should I Go?

    Empowered Divorce Q&A

    The Empowered Divorce Podcast

    Choose Recovery on Instagram
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    26 m
  • #71 From Shock to Stability: Addressing Current Pain and Uncovering Past Issues

    #71 From Shock to Stability: Addressing Current Pain and Uncovering Past Issues
    Sep 19 2024
    In today’s episode, we delve into the critical steps of moving from immediate shock and pain to finding safety and stability initially. Addressing deeper relational issues is essential to relational repair, and sometimes those challenging dynamics appear because of unhealed wounding that one or both spouses may have been carrying for years. Using the powerful analogy of a car wreck, we explore how both partners are impacted by betrayal and the urgent need to manage immediate pain before tackling underlying relationship dynamics. Once a couple has moved into a state of stability, we can transition to exploring other unhealthy dynamics that may contribute to relational challenges. We discuss how to identify and address these deeper relational issues to prevent future problems and foster long-term healing. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com Contact us: info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie. Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Choose Recovery on Instagram
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    29 m