In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most powerful tools you already have but probably aren’t using enough: redeciding.

Redeciding is the moment you pause, question the default, and choose again—on purpose. It’s how you reinvent yourself, your parenting, your routines, and your reactions… without blowing up your whole life.

I share a few recent moments that pushed me to look at my old stories (like “I’m bad at tech” or “I can’t learn new things”) and what changed when I stopped believing them. This is the work we do in CMP: noticing the patterns that keep us stuck and choosing something better.

In this episode:

• Why you’re allowed to start over anytime
• How tiny decisions create massive reinvention
• The stories we inherit—and how to let them go
• What to do when you feel stuck in old parenting habits
• How to redesign your relationship with each child
• Why failures are evidence of growth, not proof of inadequacy

You’re not stuck. You’re just one redecision away from a different outcome.

Let’s make the last two months of the year the best ones yet.

Go connect with your kids. And let’s reinvent together.

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The people who transform their lives? They're not smarter than you. They're not more motivated. They're not reading more books or listening to more podcasts.

They're the ones showing up every single week to get coached on their real life.

Here's what I've discovered after seven years of teaching Connect Method Parenting: you can understand every concept I teach and still find yourself yelling when your kid won't put their shoes on Tuesday morning.

There's this massive gap between knowing what to do and being able to do it in the moment when you're triggered.

What closes that gap isn't more information. It's the weekly rhythm of learning something, watching it get applied to someone else's situation, then trying it in your own life. That's it. Learning, repetition, application.

That's why I'm doing Pivot Live, eight weeks where we meet every Wednesday at 1 PM Eastern starting November 16th. Small group. Cameras on. You're committing to show up.

You'll mess up Monday morning. You'll bring it to our call Wednesday. We'll work through it together. And Thursday you'll handle it differently.

If you're new to CMP, you'll go through the Pivot week by week with the group. If you've already done it, come as a repeater and just bring whatever you're working on.

The details: $199 for 8 weeks | First lesson November 16th, first call November 19th | Register at https://cmp.works/pivot

In the next episode, I'll break down the actual CMP concepts we'll be diving into.

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This episode is one I've been wanting to do for a while because thought work is truly the foundation of everything we do in Connect Method Parenting. And I know "thought work" might sound intimidating or like some woo-woo concept, but I promise you—it's the most practical, life-changing tool you can have as a parent.

The biggest problem isn't that we go into fight or flight. Nope...it's that we never come OUT of fight or flight. And that's exactly what thought work helps us change.

I'm sharing my entire 15+ year journey of discovering thought work—from stumbling on Viktor Frankl and Byron Katie as a young, struggling mom to building the STEER tool and Daily Peace process that thousands of parents now use every day.

Here's what we cover:

• What thought work actually is (and why it's not just "thinking positive thoughts")
• How I reverse-engineered my Baby Powder Blizzard miracle moment
• The science behind why thought work works: mirror neurons, neural pathways, and the nervous system
• Why who you're BEING matters infinitely more than what you're DOING
• How thoughts create emotions, emotions fuel actions, and actions create your results
• The power of becoming the "watcher" of your own life
• How to use thought work even when (especially when) you're triggered by your teenager

You can read every parenting book, memorize all the scripts, and understand child development backwards and forwards, but if you don't understand how to align who you're BEING with the highest, most loving version of yourself, you're still going to struggle.

I'm sharing stories from a family trip, where I had to excuse myself from the room to do my own Daily Peace process. Because guess what? There's always another level of emotional maturity we can reach as parents. This work never stops, and that's actually beautiful.

One of my favorite insights from this episode:

"The more I think I need to hurry, the more I need to slow down. If I don't feel like I have time for thought work, that's exactly when I know I really need it."

Key Takeaways:

✨ Thoughts are OPTIONAL—you get to decide what you believe
✨ Your nervous system is broadcasting an emotional frequency that your kids pick up on (thank you, mirror neurons)
✨ Thought work isn't about perfection—it's about awareness and compassion
✨ When you witness yourself without judgment, everything changes
✨ The goal isn't to always be regulated; it's to become skilled at repairing when you're not

Tools I Mention:

• STEAR - My signature thought awareness tool
• Daily PEACE - The complete process that includes STEER plus emotional processing
• The Six Acceptance Questions - From Chapter 3 of my book

Bottom line: This is THE most important skill you can develop as a parent. Once you understand how your thoughts create your emotions, which fuel your actions, which create your results... you'll never see parenting (or life) the same way again.

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Today we’re talking about what it really means to guide your child through big emotions. Not fix them. Not rush them. Just guide them.

Think of yourself as the traffic director for your child’s emotions. You’re not trying to stop the traffic. You’re not trying to control it. You’re there to help it move safely in the right direction.

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

• Why your child’s emotions aren’t problems to solve
• How to know when to help them change the situation or when to help them change themselves
• What it looks like to move your child toward courage, caution, or tears
• How to stay connected while they move through frustration, alarm, and pursuit

You’ll see how acting as a traffic director builds emotional resilience, deepens attachment, and keeps you calm in the middle of the chaos.

Grab your notebook ('cause you're gonna want to jot some things down), and let’s talk about how to lead with connection when big emotions show up.

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Today we are talking about one of my favorite topics ever, the roots of attachment.

Nature’s answer to separation is not independence. It is connection.
Deep, steady, invisible roots that help our kids and us hold on even when we are apart.

In this episode, I talk about the six layers of attachment that Dr. Gordon Neufeld describes, from the first root of the senses all the way down to being fully known and loved for who we are.

We talk about:

• How attachment deepens each year of a child’s life
• Why separation feels so hard and what to do about it
• How to strengthen connection when your child pulls away
• What it means to experience separateness without losing togetherness

Think of this one like a gardening episode for the heart. We are learning how to care for the roots that keep us connected no matter the distance.

Grab your tea, take a breath, and let’s dig in.

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We talk a lot about emotions, regulation, and connection—but underneath all of it is belief. What we believe about ourselves, our kids, and what’s possible determines everything that follows.

In this episode, I dive into the discipline of belief—the conscious, daily practice of choosing thoughts that align with who you’re becoming instead of who you’ve been. We’ll talk about why your nervous system clings to old stories, how to rewire it with kindness, and what it really takes to believe something new when nothing around you has changed yet.

This isn’t about pretending. It’s about practice.
Because belief is a muscle, and when you train it intentionally, your entire reality starts to shift—your parenting, your peace, your sense of possibility.

By the end, you’ll know exactly how to:

• Identify the beliefs keeping you stuck
• Create new ones that actually feel true
• Practice them until they become your default state

It’s time to stop waiting for proof.
This is The Discipline of Belief.

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This week we’re talking about weakness. The parts of us we try to hide, fix, or wish away. But what if weakness isn’t bad? What if it’s actually where our strength grows?

In this episode, I talk about how being hard on yourself never helps, how to see your weak spots with kindness, and why loving all parts of you makes you a calmer, happier parent.

You’ll learn how to:

• Stop beating yourself up when you mess up
• See your weakness as a teacher
• Feel strong even when you don’t feel perfect

This one is soft, honest, and real. You’re going to feel better about being human after listening.

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If attachment (or togetherness) is the ultimate need, then facing separation is the ultimate threat. Wild, right?

In this episode, I’m diving into what that really means, why connection is the invisible gravity holding us (and our kids) together, and how the brain’s built-in systems for pursuit, alarm, and frustration kick in anytime that togetherness feels shaky.

We’re talking meltdowns, clinginess, people-pleasing, all of it, through a totally new lens. You’ll start seeing that what looks like “bad behavior” is usually just a brilliant little human trying to feel safe again.

Once you get this, parenting gets a whole lot clearer (and calmer). Connection stops being something you do and becomes who you are.

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