When kids go “off track,” it’s easy to see the behavior as disrespect, defiance, or a problem that needs fixing.

In this episode, I reframe behavior as information, a signal from a dysregulated nervous system, not a character flaw.

You’ll learn:

• What off-track behavior is actually telling you
• Why punishment and rewards rarely create lasting change
• How to stay calm, connected, and in the lead when things go sideways
• A simple recovery approach that protects the relationship and restores boundaries

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In today’s episode of the Connect Method Parenting Podcast, we’re talking about embodying emotions. NOT just noticing them, NOT just allowing them, but fully living inside the emotional experience while simultaneously creating from the end in mind.

I’m sharing ten lessons I’ve learned about emotional embodiment through real, everyday experiences, from almost running out of battery in my Tesla while crossing a mountain range, to completing a 72-hour fast, to sitting with doubt, fear, hunger, uncertainty, and growth without trying to escape or fix any of it.

You’ll hear how embodying emotions doesn’t mean positive thinking, bypassing discomfort, or managing feelings so they go away. It means learning how to be fully present with fear and faith, worry and gratitude, and uncertainty and intention at the same time.

In this episode, we explore:

• What it actually means to embody emotions, not just feel or process them
• How to live from the end in mind without abandoning the present moment
• Why powerful questions can completely shift your nervous system
• How beliefs quietly create your lived reality, especially in parenting
• Why buffering (food, distraction, productivity) blocks emotional growth
• How past “failures” can inform growth without defining you
• Why presence, not willpower, is the practice
• How emotional embodiment leads to calm, confident parenting even during conflict

Most importantly, we talk about how this work shows up in parenting:
Staying grounded during tantrums. Holding boundaries without anger. Responding instead of reacting. Teaching your kids that emotions are safe, and that nothing has gone wrong just because feelings are big.

You don’t need to fast for 72 hours or nearly get stranded on a mountain to practice this. You can start small, with irritation, overwhelm, frustration, or doubt, and learn how to sit in the full human experience while choosing connection, belief, and intention.

This is the work.
It’s simple.
It’s powerful.
And it changes everything.

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It’s not your mood that creates the life you want.
It’s your state.
Your way of being.
Your identity.
The assumptions you live and act from every single day.

In this episode, we explore why chasing the right mood or the perfect plan doesn’t work, and what actually creates lasting change instead. You’ll learn the difference between mood and state, why identity comes before evidence, and how choosing a steady state of being can transform your parenting, relationships, work, and daily life.

This conversation is about stabilizing who you are BEING!!!

NOT fixing yourself, forcing habits, or white-knuckling your way into a better year.

Also I'm gonna do a Free Live Workshop to help you dive into this material THIS FRIDAY!!!!

If you want to take this work deeper and apply it in real time, I’m hosting a free live workshop to walk through this together.

👉 Register here: https://cmp.works/alb

🗓 Friday the 9th
⏰ 11:30 AM Eastern

You don’t need a better plan. You need to choose a different state...and let everything else follow.

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Most parents don’t say they feel defeated.

They say they’re overwhelmed.
They say nothing is working.
They wonder what’s wrong with them.

In this episode, I talk about what defeat actually is and why it feels so intense in parenting and marriage.

We separate facts from meaning.
We stop making defeat personal.
And we use it instead of letting it push us toward quitting.

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“Weakness simply means your capacity is lower than what the moment requires.”

I recorded this episode in the middle of a full, emotional, end-of-year season. The kind where you want to soak up every moment with your kids, make the holidays meaningful, and still somehow hold it all together… while feeling stretched, tired, and not quite like yourself.

And that’s exactly why I wanted to talk about weakness.

Because what we usually call weakness isn’t failure. It isn’t a character flaw. And it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you as a parent or a human. Most of the time, it simply means the demand of the moment exceeds your current capacity.

In this episode, I walk you through how I’ve learned to understand weakness differently and what actually helps when it shows up, especially during high-demand seasons like the holidays.

In this episode, I share:

• Why weakness tends to surface when life gets full, loud, and emotional
• The reframe that changed everything for me: weakness is about capacity, not character
• How shame turns moments of weakness into yelling, spiraling, shutting down, or control
• The four ways I see parents (and myself) respond to weakness:
  • Projecting it onto our kids
  • Attacking ourselves with “I should be better”
  • Trying to overpower it with willpower
  • Hiding it and calling it “fine”
• Why self-attack does not create strength and what it actually does to your nervous system
• How truth and honesty stabilize your body and open the door to growth
• What I do now when I realize my capacity is lower than the moment requires
• Why repair matters more than perfection and what really builds resilience in kids

The shift I’m inviting you into:

Instead of asking yourself, What’s wrong with me?
Try asking, What support do I need right now?

Because capacity can be rebuilt. Regulation can return. And when weakness is met with compassion instead of shame, it often becomes the place where connection deepens and growth begins.

What I encourage you to practice this week:

• Stop running from weakness and get honest about what’s happening
• Replace criticism with curiosity
• Lead with compassion first because safety is what allows change
• Decide what actually needs support, not what needs to be fixed
• Let go of performance and focus on repair and honesty instead

A question to sit with:

Where do you notice weakness showing up for you right now?
And what might you need to adjust or ask for so you can show up with more kindness instead of more pressure?

You don’t need to be strong all the time to be a great parent. You just need to stay honest, keep noticing, and be willing to repair.

xoxoAndee :)

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When emotions hurt, most of us go straight into fix-it mode. We try to shut it down, numb it out, control our kids, or control the moment. But in this episode, Andee shares why the goal isn’t to eliminate “negative” emotions. The goal is to move through them so they can actually complete and release.

You’ll hear a real-life holiday-season story (cruise chaos, kids growing up, and all the tenderness that comes with it), plus practical tools for what to do when your nervous system is activated and you feel the urge to rush, react, or lecture.

Because here’s the truth: when emotions become emergencies, you parent like an emergency responder. And connection disappears.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why emotions are meant to hurt sometimes, and why that’s not a problem
• The difference between emotions, feelings, and sensations (in a way that actually makes sense)
• How “pain about the pain” is what multiplies suffering
• The two most common ways we avoid emotions (and how it shows up in parenting)
• Why “Let it hurt” is often the most powerful first step
• How to stop outsourcing your regulation to your kids
• What emotional maturity really is, and how it grows over time
• How to stay connected when your nervous system is in fight-or-flight
• Why your child benefits more from your emotional ownership than anything you could say

Real-life examples included:

• The “clean your room” moment where the real trigger wasn’t the mess, it was the fear of not being heard
• A travel story from Berlin where a nervous system takeover turned into an opportunity for repair, regulation, and connection

Key takeaways to remember:

• Emotions that are allowed get processed. Emotions that are resisted get complicated.
• Your child’s hard feelings aren’t proof something is wrong. They’re proof they’re human.
• The goal isn’t happiness. The goal is being able to stay present for the full 50/50 of life.
• Unfelt emotions fester. Felt emotions move through.
• Emotional strength isn’t never getting activated. It’s knowing what to do when you are.

A question to sit with this week:

Where are you treating emotions like emergencies in your home?
And what might change if you practiced letting them move through instead of trying to make them stop?

If this episode helped you, share it with a friend who’s trying to stay calm, connected, and choose humanness this holiday season.

Correction is out. Connection is in. And you’re not alone.

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This week we are diving into a concept that has completely changed the way I move through my life. It is the difference between low quality problems and high quality problems. Once you learn this, you cannot unsee it.

Over the last eighteen months I have been in a season packed with transitions. Business shifts, kids returning and launching, midlife changes, perimenopause, parenting big kids and teens, family health, the holidays, snow, all of it. My brain has been shouting problem at every turn. And for a while, I believed it.

Then something clicked. I realized the issue was not that I had too many problems. The issue was the type of problems I was choosing. Some problems drained me and made me feel powerless. Other problems actually grew me and helped me become the next version of myself.

In this episode I walk you through how to tell the difference and how to shift into high quality problems on purpose.

We cover:

• Why your brain is designed to look for problems
• How low quality problems keep you stuck and small
• How high quality problems expand you and put you back in the driver seat
• What this looks like in real life with parenting, marriage, work, health, and identity
• Why your child is never the problem
• How to choose the problems you want your life to be about
• How to stop carrying problems that were never yours to begin with

I also guide you through five reflection questions that will help you redefine whatever is on your plate right now in a way that brings clarity, calm, and momentum.

If life feels full or heavy or chaotic, this conversation will help you breathe again. You will walk away seeing your problems in a completely new light. You will remember that you are the woman for this life and that the quality of the problems you choose changes everything.

If this episode helps you, send it to a friend, share it on Instagram, or just hold it close the next time your brain shouts this is too much. You get to decide the kind of problem solver you are becoming.

I love you all. Go connect with your kids and have a beautiful rest of your day.

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This week, we are exploring what it really means to practice gratituding in the moment you are in. I’ll show you how shifting out of “life will feel better when…” into “this moment matters right now” can change your entire emotional experience.

Together, we will look at why it doesn’t get better than this, not because everything is perfect, but because the present is the only place your brain can regulate, create, and feel steady. This episode is full of practical, science-backed ways to use gratitude to calm your system, expand your capacity, and stop waiting for the future to finally feel okay.

Don’t miss this foundational conversation. It just might change the way you show up in every moment moving forward.

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