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  • Ep. 185: Late Diagnosis: Why Did I Get Missed? with Dr. Monica Blied

    Ep. 185: Late Diagnosis: Why Did I Get Missed? with Dr. Monica Blied
    May 14 2024
    Hey there, welcome back to Diverse Thinking Different Learning! Today, we're diving into a topic that's often overlooked but incredibly important: late diagnoses of ADHD and autism, particularly in women, people of color, and LGBTQ individuals. It's a conversation that's long overdue, and we're so grateful to have Dr. Monica Blied joining us to shed some light on this crucial issue. As a clinical psychologist and founder of Faces of Health, Dr. Blied brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to the table. In her private practice, she specializes in providing psychological assessments for adults and children who suspect they may have Autism, ADHD, or learning differences. With a keen focus on supporting adults living with chronic medical and mental illnesses, Dr. Blied has dedicated her career to helping individuals navigate the complex intersection of mental and physical health. Today, dive deep into the reasons why certain conditions like ADHD and autism are often diagnosed late, despite their significant impact on individuals' lives. From systemic biases to misconceptions and missed opportunities for support, Dr. Blied will be sharing invaluable insights and advice for anyone who suspects they may be struggling with an undiagnosed condition and what parents can look for in their children that could be signs of struggle. Show Notes: [2:13] - People are often overlooked and it seems that there are systemic biases. There are studies that show that particularly people of color are misdiagnosed.[3:42] - There are many misconceptions. Something important to remember is that most of the time, certain behaviors are not willful.[6:03] - One reason someone’s diagnosis is missed is fewer outward symptoms or struggles, especially when compared to a sibling.[9:34] - Dr. Blied shares an experience in seeing the similarities and differences in siblings and the tendency to put more focus on one child over another.[11:24] - A late diagnosis could also be due to a family normalizing and nurturing certain behaviors.[13:38] - Externalized behaviors are obvious. The kids who internalize are often missed.[15:46] - Individuals who are born female are often misdiagnosed or completely overlooked as children.[17:44] - The average age of ADHD diagnosis in women is 37. By 18 years old, 80% of women who are autistic are still undiagnosed.[20:45] - Special interests can be misleading.[23:51] - Girls and women tend to be very good at masking, until the demands are more difficult to adjust to.[25:07] - In children, ADHD and autism are diagnosed in 4 boys to every 1 girl. But in adulthood, it is a 1 to 1 ratio. It is a misconception that it is more common in boys.[28:21] - There is the belief, even among medical professionals, that ADHD isn’t a real struggle or problem.[29:12] - Dr. Blied describes what ADHD and autism might look like in a girl especially during childhood.[31:11] - There are higher rates of autism and ADHD in those with other types of medical issues and in LGBTQIA+ individuals.[33:36] - A late diagnosis leads to years of missed opportunities for support and intervention.[34:27] - Dr. Blied shares some first steps and advice if you suspect that you could need a diagnosis or are late diagnosed. About Our Guest: Dr. Monica Blied is a clinical psychologist, adjunct professor of psychology at Pepperdine, and the founder of Faces of Health in Claremont, California. In her private practice, Dr. Blied provides psychological assessments for adults and children who suspect they have Autism, ADHD, and/or learning differences. With a special interest in supporting adults who are living with chronic medical and mental illnesses, Dr. Blied has also developed expertise in the mind-body health connection. She currently serves as the Chair-Elect (and former Treasurer) of the California Psychological Association's Division of Education and Training, where she has been a member of the Executive Board for over 10 years. Since 2020, she has also served as a Medical Advisory Board member with Lupus LA, a role which allows her to continue giving back to her fellow Lupus Warriors. In 2022, Dr. Blied developed the Faces of Health app, which teaches mental health and stress management skills via brief, educational videos, all taught by women of color. In 2024, she added to her online educational suite a course on Adult ADHD and Autism, and another on Stress Management using Neuroscience. Links and Related Resources: Episode 99: Straight Talk About ADHD in Girls with Dr. Stephen Hinshaw Episode 118: Understanding the Intersection Between Autism and LGBTQIA with Dr. Laurie Stephens Episode 119: Autistic Girls – Overlooked and Underrecognized with Megan Beardmore, PhD, NCSP Episode 63: Supporting Youth with Autism and ADHD with Holly Blanc Moses Connect with Dr. Blied: Dr. Blied’s WebsiteDr. Blied’s Mental Health BlogYouTube ChannelEmail: drblied@drblied.com Connect with Us: Get on our Email ListBook a ConsultationGet Support and ...
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    40 mins
  • Ep. 184: Could Pathological Demand Avoidance Clarify My Child’s Challenges? with Dr. Casey Ehrlich

    Ep. 184: Could Pathological Demand Avoidance Clarify My Child’s Challenges? with Dr. Casey Ehrlich
    May 7 2024

    Some parents may describe their child as very strong-willed. That child may show an extreme avoidance of everyday demands, expectations, and requests. But what if the behaviors are not an indication of strong will, but rather occur because a child feels overwhelmed by demands and perceives them as threats to their autonomy and self-control? Are there specific strategies that would be helpful when raising a demand-avoidant child or teen?

    Today, we’re going to be talking about Pathological Demand Avoidance with Dr. Casey Ehrlich. She is the CEO and founder of At Peace Parents where she specializes in teaching parents and therapists practical skills in the home or clinical setting to accommodate neuroception-driven demand avoidance and nervous system differences through creative techniques.

    Show Notes:
    • [3:10] - Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is considered a nervous system disability. Dr. Ehrlich explains why this is and shares alternative names for it.
    • [5:41] - Many parents and clinicians have found that the strategies they have tried have not worked or made things worse.
    • [7:39] - Dr. Ehrlich describes a recent situation with her son that demonstrates sudden nervous system activation in PDA.
    • [9:33] - We need to understand the root cause of behaviors that are interfering with your ability to connect with your child.
    • [10:57] - PDA may show up as a regression or can surround a primary need.
    • [12:58] - PDA is often misunderstood.
    • [15:04] - With a background as a social scientist, Dr. Ehrlich explains some of the research about PDA and why many children and teens are not correctly identified.
    • [17:45] - Accommodations include autonomy, equality, trauma-informed play, nervous system signals of safety, communication, lowering demands, humor, novelty, and more.
    • [21:38] - PDA is happening on a subconscious level. It isn’t about emotions.
    • [23:37] - It can be confusing as a child gets older because they do begin using social strategies and we may not see escalation as nervous system dysregulation.
    • [27:46] - Pausing to de-escalate is crucial.
    • [29:24] - Is PDA only seen in people with autism?
    • [30:42] - Connections can only be made when PDAers feel a sense of safety.
    • [33:21] - Awareness is the first step.
    • [35:55] - Dr. Ehrlich learned more about PDA as a mother than a clinician.
    • [40:41] - Dr. Ehrlich hosted a podcast called PDA Parents where she talks about her experiences across eight episodes. She also hosts the At Peace Parents Podcast.
    About Our Guest:

    Casey Ehrlich, Ph.D. (she/her) is a social scientist, parent coach, and educator, and the CEO and founder of At Peace Parents. Casey brings 15 years of work experience and expertise in social science methodology to help parents and therapists understand how to connect with and accommodate PDA Autistic children. She is currently working on empirical research with the University of Michigan Medical School on Pathological Demand Avoidance in children and teens.

    Connect with Dr. Ehrlich:
    • At Peace Parents on Instagram
    • Dr. Casey Ehrlich on YouTube
    • Email: cehrlich@atpeaceparents.com
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    The Diverse Thinking Different Learning podcast is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed by the host and guests are not considered treatment and do not necessarily reflect those of ChildNEXUS, Inc. or the host, Dr. Karen Wilson.
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    49 mins
  • Ep. 183: Unlocking Potential: A Dyslexia Journey with Rosalin Abigail Kyere-Nartey

    Ep. 183: Unlocking Potential: A Dyslexia Journey with Rosalin Abigail Kyere-Nartey
    Apr 30 2024
    Welcome to today's episode, where we turn the spotlight to dyslexia awareness and advocacy, featuring the remarkable journey of Rosalin Abigail Kyere-Nartey. Rosalin's story is nothing short of inspiring as she navigates her own experience with dyslexia to become an advocate for change for dyslexic individuals across Africa and beyond. From struggling in academics to finding her passion in culinary school, Rosalin's personal journey highlights the importance of understanding and embracing neurodiversity. Through her organization, the Africa Dyslexia Organization (ADO), Rosalin is making an impact on dyslexia awareness, advocacy, and support. However, there are many barriers, including societal beliefs in African countries and lack of teacher resources. In this episode, Rosalin shares her own struggles and triumphs with dyslexia, including the pivotal moments that brought dyslexia to her own awareness and understanding. Rosalin's dedication to raising awareness and providing essential tools for educators and parents is truly inspiring and much needed in a world where dyslexia continues to be misunderstood. Show Notes: [2:35] - Rosalin always struggled in academics and knew from a young age that she was different. She explains why she has dedicated her life to dyslexia advocacy.[5:27] - Due to her struggles, Rosalin was not permitted to take exams to move forward into high school in Ghana.[7:10] - Rosalin chose to go to culinary school and this was a turning point for her. It was the first time she was in an environment where she loved to learn.[9:12] - She describes the first time a school administrator told her something positive. This turned her life around.[11:58] - As an adult, Rosalin had an assessment done and discovered her dyslexia.[13:05] - In her travels across Africa, Rosalin has found that there is little to no understanding about dyslexia.[15:07] - Rosalin has dedicated her life to spreading awareness of dyslexia in African countries.[18:16] - Rosalin’s organization is taking steps to prevent the wasting of valuable talents among dyslexic individuals.[21:12] - Inclusivity is crucial. Students with dyslexia need the same opportunities and support to thrive.[23:01] - Teacher training and resources for educators is a huge focus for the Africa Dyslexia Organization.[24:50] - Reaching out to the Ministries of Education in different locations in Africa is very difficult. Rosalin describes some of the barriers the organization faces.[26:39] - This is a global problem. There are people who are neurodivergent everywhere that need to understand the way they learn.[29:24] - Even with resources and awareness in the United States, students still fall behind and continue to face barriers to quality education and support. About Our Guest: Rosalin Abigail Kyere-Nartey Rosalin is an unwavering advocate for dyslexic individuals and the Founder and Executive Director of Africa Dyslexia Organization (ADO), non-profit organization is dedicated to raising awareness, advocacy, providing essential educational tools to teachers and parents, and offering support for individuals grappling with dyslexia and related learning disabilities. Rosalin holds an MSc in International Hospitality Management from Swiss Hotel Management School in Switzerland. She is Walt Disney Hospitality Leadership Fellow and currently a Lead Consultant at iQ Mundo and Country Rep for Swiss Education Group in Ghana, Liberia, and Sierra Leone. Her multifaceted expertise and her commitment to inclusive education position her as a beacon of hope, igniting positive change for dyslexic individuals across Africa. Connect with Rosalin: Email: Rosalin@africandyslexia.orgAfrica Dyslexia Website Links and Related Resources: Register for Our Self-Paced Dyslexia Mini CourseDyslexia Episode 37: Literacy - A Social Justice Issue with Resha Conroy Episode 36: Empowering Professionals and Caregivers to Improve the Lives of Children Around the World with Sandy Dorsey Episode 111: Overcoming Dyslexia and Addressing the Reading Crisis with Sally Shaywitz Connect with Us: Get on our Email ListBook a ConsultationGet Support and Connect with a ChildNEXUS Provider The Diverse Thinking Different Learning podcast is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed by the host and guests are not considered treatment and do not necessarily reflect those of ChildNEXUS, Inc or the host, Dr. Karen Wilson.
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    34 mins
  • Ep. 182: How to Support Emotionally Intense Children with Samantha Moe

    Ep. 182: How to Support Emotionally Intense Children with Samantha Moe
    Apr 23 2024
    Today, we're digging into the complex and often challenging world of parenting emotionally intense children. I'm thrilled to introduce our special guest, Samantha Moe, a certified parent coach and speaker who brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to the table. Samantha's work is nothing short of amazing, providing invaluable support and guidance to parents navigating the complexities of raising emotionally intense children. In this episode, Samantha sheds light on the intricacies of parenting emotionally intense children and shares practical strategies to help parents navigate this often overwhelming journey. From understanding the underlying reasons behind behavioral dysregulation to fostering a supportive home environment, Samantha offers actionable advice, including exercises and reflection questions, that will resonate with parents facing similar challenges. So, if you're a parent seeking support and guidance in raising emotionally intense children, you won't want to miss this conversation. Get ready to gain a deeper understanding of your child's needs and discover effective strategies to support them on their journey towards emotional regulation and wellbeing. Show Notes: [2:41] - While there are a lot of resources out there to help parents and families, that doesn’t make it easy.[3:48] - Samantha shares a bit about her background and how she realized that she had not been prepared to help emotionally intense children.[5:24] - Oftentimes when parents see behavioral deregulation, they want to make it stop. But we have to understand why children are behaving this way.[6:59] - Samantha takes a look at the parent-child relationship from the parent’s side of things and the home environment. She demonstrates an exercise.[10:41] - We have mirror neurons that reflect the state another person is in. If a child is emotionally intense, we feel their stress.[12:16] - If you want to lower your child’s stress, you have to also lower the fight and flight in your own brain.[14:51] - If you can label a child’s emotion in the moment, it helps them feel seen and heard.[16:50] - There are variations in acknowledging an emotion based on the situation and the age of the child.[18:40] - Parents make mistakes, but there are some common mistakes with emotionally intense children. Samantha provides some reflection questions.[22:07] - Parents need to also practice changing their own behavior to help calm their children.[25:00] - Reflect back on your own upbringing. Were your emotions labeled and regulated?[27:10] - Emotional intensity is not exclusive to autistic children.[29:40] - Samantha describes the pillars she uses to teach and support parents.[31:41] - Parents need to feel supported. A parent’s mental health and well-being impact that of their children. About Our Guest: Certified parent coach and speaker Samantha Moe has coached parents on how to help their children calm, connect, and cooperate since 2004. She now provides continuing education, advanced training, and parent coach certification for family service professionals who support intense kids and their families. Samantha is the creator of the Mad to Glad Blueprint, a revolutionary brain-and-nervous-system-based approach to positive communication and parenting that soothes and even prevents intense kids’ most challenging behaviors. She holds a Master’s degree in Communication Disorders from the University of Minnesota and has interdisciplinary training in sensory integration, play therapy, and emotional integration. Connect with Samantha Moe: Samantha Moe’s WebsiteEmail: hello@samanthamoe.com Links and Related Resources: Episode 72: Prioritizing Co-Regulation and Self-Regulation in Communication with Danielle G. Kent Episode 45: How Sensory Processing Impacts Communication with Jessie L. Ginsburg Episode 140: 10 Ways Parents Can Support Their Child’s Mental Health Over the Summer Connect with Us: Get on our Email ListBook a ConsultationGet Support and Connect with a ChildNEXUS ProviderRegister for Our Self-Paced Mini Courses for ADHD, Dyslexia, and Anxiety The Diverse Thinking Different Learning podcast is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed by the host and guests are not considered treatment and do not necessarily reflect those of ChildNEXUS, Inc or the host, Dr. Karen Wilson.
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    37 mins
  • Ep. 181: Youth Anxiety: How Parents Can Help with Dr. Elizabeth Karp

    Ep. 181: Youth Anxiety: How Parents Can Help with Dr. Elizabeth Karp
    Apr 16 2024
    Welcome back to the Diverse Thinking Different Learning Podcast. Today, we're diving into a crucial topic that affects families worldwide: childhood anxiety. Joining us is Dr. Elizabeth Karp, a licensed clinical child psychologist and adjunct lecturer at Stanford University School of Medicine. With her expertise in evidence-based interventions for ADHD, anxiety, and autism spectrum disorder, Dr. Karp provides invaluable insights into supporting children and families facing these challenges. In this episode, we're building on our previous discussions about childhood anxiety, delving deeper into its prevalence and impact. Dr. Karp highlights the importance of recognizing signs of anxiety in children, such as changes in behavior and social withdrawal. We'll explore how anxiety affects not only the child but also the entire family dynamic. Dr. Karp shares practical strategies for parents, including the SPACE program, which empowers families to navigate anxiety together. From understanding the role of parental involvement to implementing supportive techniques, this conversation offers valuable guidance for parents and families who want to help their children and might not know where to begin. Show Notes: [2:47] - Anxiety is incredibly common but is often not treated.[3:31] - How is your child’s suspected anxiety getting in the way of them living the life they want to live?[4:37] - Is this a change for them? Are they holding back in areas they used to be engaged with?[5:18] - How is their anxiety affecting the entire family?[7:31] - The answers to these questions can guide a parent to understand that their child’s anxiety needs more attention than general worry.[9:47] - It is recommended to have an initial consultation with a provider or begin with a pediatrician who can make a referral.[13:41] - There are so many things that anxiety impacts. Parents are experts on their child, but a psychologist can help as an expert on anxiety.[15:25] - Unfortunately, there are long wait lists for mental health support.[16:55] - Think about ways a child can participate in mastery experiences. Dr. Karp explains what this is and how it supports them.[18:57] - Seeing themselves improving a skill over time helps build confidence and resilience.[20:20] - SPACE is Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions and Dr. Karp describes how this program can help parents learn how to help their child.[22:56] - Dr. Karp demonstrates one of the strategies used in the SPACE Program called supportive statements.[26:08] - The strategies in SPACE are very “portable.”[28:08] - Parental involvement is key in a child’s treatment of anxiety.[30:58] - It is so powerful for children to hear how you, as an adult, manage your own anxiety. About Our Guest: Dr. Elizabeth Karp is a licensed clinical child psychologist and an adjunct lecturer at Stanford University in the school of medicine. She provides evidence-based interventions, including cognitive behavioral therapy, for children and families with concerns related to ADHD, anxiety, and autism spectrum disorder. She has a particular expertise in working with parents to support their children with these areas of concern. Connect with Dr. Elizabeth Karp: ChildNEXUS Provider ProfileEmail: drkarp@drelizabethkarp.comDr. Elizabeth Karp’s Website Links and Related Resources: Episode 67: Your Child’s Anxiety: When to Worry with Dr. John Piacentini Episode 131: Cognitive Behavior Therapy for Kids and Teens with Dr. Shadab JannatiSPACE Treatment Website Connect with Us: Get on our Email ListBook a ConsultationGet Support and Connect with a ChildNEXUS ProviderRegister for Our Self-Paced Mini Courses on Youth Anxiety The Diverse Thinking Different Learning podcast is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed by the host and guests are not considered treatment and do not necessarily reflect those of ChildNEXUS, Inc or the host, Dr. Karen Wilson.
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    33 mins
  • Ep. 180: 6 Fundamental Habits for Better Sleep with Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown

    Ep. 180: 6 Fundamental Habits for Better Sleep with Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown
    Apr 9 2024
    Welcome back to another discussion about sleep! We've previously delved into why sleep is crucial for our well-being, and today, we're taking it a step further. In this episode, we'll explore practical strategies that you can implement at home to ensure that not only our children are getting good quality sleep, but the whole family. Joining me is Dr. Afolabi-Brown, a triple board-certified sleep medicine physician and pediatric pulmonologist, who will guide us through the science of sleep and offer invaluable tips to improve sleep quality for neurodivergent children and their families. To help families establish healthy sleep habits, Dr. Afolabi-Brown introduces the CREATE acronym, outlining six fundamental strategies for good sleep hygiene: Consistency, Routines, Environment, Assigned bed for sleep, Technology management, and Elimination of disruptions. You will also hear real-life success stories of families who have implemented these strategies and witnessed remarkable improvements in sleep quality. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or simply interested in optimizing sleep for yourself or loved ones, this episode is a valuable resource to transform your sleep habits and promote overall well-being. Show Notes: [3:40] - Dr. Afolabi-Brown explains the amount of sleep that is recommended by age group.[5:08] - It’s not enough to consider the quantity of sleep. There’s a lot that could impact sleep quality.[8:03] - Neurodivergent children may exhibit daytime sleepiness. Dr. Afolabi-Brown describes some of the things you may notice.[10:31] - Insufficient and poor quality of sleep affects our physical health, our brain health, and could cause social-emotional issues.[12:06] - Sleep is healing and restorative.[13:18] - We can change our relationship with sleep by understanding its importance.[15:10] - CREATE is an acronym for the six fundamental habits for good sleep hygiene.[15:44] - C: Consistency[16:33] - R: Routines[17:10] - E: Environment[17:34] - A: Assigned bed for sleep[18:08] - T: Technology[18:23] - E: Eliminate[20:18] - Choose small things to change first and then add more as you get used to them.[22:38] - Neurodivergent children need even more structure than neurotypical children especially when it comes to sleep routines.[26:28] - Dr. Afolabi-Brown provides some strategies for calming a busy brain at night.[30:23] - Dr. Afolabi-Brown shares the story of a successful sleep intervention that changed the sleep quality of an entire family. About Our Guest: Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown is a triple board-certified sleep medicine physician and pediatric pulmonologist. She founded RestfulSleepMD, where she helps high-achieving professionals and their children change their relationship with sleep so they can move from being drained and exhausted to thriving in their families, careers, and relationships. She achieves this through clinical practice (The Restful Sleep Place), coaching, speaking, and organization consultation. She is a best-selling author and has been featured on various media outlets, including ABC. She obtained her sleep medicine training at the University of Pennsylvania and is a Fellow of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. Connect with Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown: The Restful Sleep Place Website@restfulsleepmd on InstagramDr. Funke Afolabi-Brown on LinkedInDr. Funke Brown on YouTube Links and Related Resources: Episode 148: How Sleep Affects Academic Performance and Mood 5 Reasons Sleep Matters for Children 8 Ways Teenagers Suffer When They Don’t Get Enough Sleep Episode 160: The Sleep Deprived Teen with Lisa Lewis Connect with Us: Get on our Email ListBook a ConsultationGet Support and Connect with a ChildNEXUS ProviderRegister for Our Self-Paced Mini Courses for ADHD, Dyslexia and Youth Anxiety The Diverse Thinking Different Learning podcast is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed by the host and guests are not considered treatment and do not necessarily reflect those of ChildNEXUS, Inc or the host, Dr. Karen Wilson.
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    34 mins
  • Ep. 179: How to Empower Black Neurodivergent Learners with Jason B. Allen

    Ep. 179: How to Empower Black Neurodivergent Learners with Jason B. Allen
    Apr 2 2024
    Welcome to today's episode where we are tackling the important topic of empowering black neurodivergent learners and connecting with their community. Our guest, Jason B. Allen, National Director of Partnerships for the National Parents Union, brings over 19 years of experience in education to the table. Through his work, Jason advocates for inclusive and supportive environments that uplift students, families, and communities. In our conversation, Jason sheds light on the stigma surrounding learning disabilities and shares his personal journey as both an educator and a student with exceptionalities. He emphasizes the importance of amplifying voices and fostering parent and family engagement in education. Jason highlights the need for dedicated educators who recognize issues and work towards practical solutions. We discuss the significance of community engagement and the role it plays in shaping school culture. Jason emphasizes the need for intentional partnerships and resources to support educators and empower students. Through his work with the National Parents Union, Jason advocates for informed decision-making and inclusive educational practices. Join us as we explore actionable strategies to create inclusive learning environments and empower black neurodivergent learners. From promoting family engagement to fostering community partnerships, this episode provides valuable insights to drive positive change in education. Show Notes: [2:26] - There is a stigma associated with learning disabilities.[3:31] - Jason describes his own experience as an educator and having his own exceptionalities as a student.[5:37] - Just because we don’t acknowledge something, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. We need to use our voices.[7:20] - Parent and family engagement is crucial. Jason shares how even at pre-planning, he was able to connect with families and better understand them.[9:29] - It takes dedicated educators to see the issues and present solutions.[10:50] - Many schools and school districts send surveys and gather reports and feedback from families. But where does that data go?[12:01] - If we are not grounded in family and community engagement standards, then we will continue to believe that the social and emotional development of children does not impact academic outcomes.[13:19] - Learning does not stop or end at school. It is ongoing.[15:31] - School culture needs to change. When black students enter a school, what do they see and is it reflected in the curriculum?[17:40] - Make the data real.[19:22] - How are we being intentional about making sure that students are present and know they belong?[20:31] - Education is power.[21:37] - Get connected with the people in the community who are doing the work. Partnership is key.[23:20] - It is challenging, but it's not impossible.[24:39] - When our teachers are not well, we have to be realistic about how impactful they are.[27:04] - We can’t ask educators to do more if they don’t have the resources in order to do the thing we’re asking them to do.[30:52] - Jason is the National Director of Partnerships for the National Parents Union.[32:08] - In many communities, parents don’t have the information in order to make decisions for their children.[35:05] - A lot of times, we bring our beliefs into what we do, but we need to be intentional and inclusive.[37:10] - We cannot be gatekeepers that prevent black students from the best education they can receive.[38:20] - Jason explains how to get connected with the National Parents Union and the free resources they offer. About Our Guest: Jason B. Allen is the National Director of Partnerships for the National Parents Union. His work resides in the Organizing and Partnership Department where his focus is on elevating partnerships, programs and campaigns amplifying parent voices. He has worked in education for over 19 years as a teacher, administrator and leader serving students, families and communities. As a long time storyteller, Jason shares his experiences through his company, educational entities, llc and helps others develop their stories through digital storytelling including podcasting, blogging, advocacy and other public speaking platforms. His life work is centered on his family’s foundation, Lillie’s Foundation, supporting grandparents and seniors raising school aged children. He is a longtime advocate for male engagement helping found Black Males with Initiative in 2001 and continuing this work throughout his professional career. His first book, Suits, Swagg and Success shares his experiences, strategies and solutions to engaging Black males. Connect with Jason: National Parents Union Website Work with NPUEmail: jason@npunion.org Links and Related Resources: The Educator’s Voice BlogLillie’s Foundation for Change Episode 132: Social Justice - A Framework for Equity in Education with Charles A. Barrett Fostering Social Justice in Our Youth Episode 37: Literacy - A Social Justice Issue with ...
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    44 mins
  • Ep. 178: Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle School and Beyond with Phyllis L. Fagell, LCPC

    Ep. 178: Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle School and Beyond with Phyllis L. Fagell, LCPC
    Mar 26 2024
    Welcome to a crucial conversation that strikes a chord with every parent of a middle schooler (myself included!), and even more so for those navigating the unique challenges of children who think and learn differently. Today, we're joined by the amazing Phyllis Fagell, whose focus and expertise are on guiding children through the tumultuous middle school years. Middle school isn't just a phase to endure; it's a pivotal time that sets the stage for future success. Phyllis shares invaluable insights into why middle school matters and how parents can empower their children not just to survive but to thrive during this critical period. From tackling homework struggles and managing distractions to understanding the complexities of social dynamics, this discussion with Phyllis in addition to her books, supports parents in setting their middle schooler up for success. So, whether you're a seasoned parent seeking new strategies or braving the middle school journey for the first time, this episode will help transform the way you navigate this transformative time with your child. Show Notes: [3:13] - Why does middle school matter? Phyllis discusses why this topic was important for her to write about in her books.[4:29] - Rather than looking to help kids survive this tumultuous time, we need to seek out ways to help them thrive.[5:53] - It is much harder to teach certain skills after middle school when the stakes are higher.[7:26] - One concern that parents have is when middle school students wait till the last minute to work on something they need to do. This is not willful.[8:58] - What could it look like to support a middle schooler with organizing their homework?[10:38] - Phyllis shares some research on distractions and anxiety created by phones and devices during homework time.[12:14] - Another important consideration is the difference between a teacher’s role and a parent’s role.[14:39] - Creating balance and reasonable expectations is so important.[15:40] - Phyllis describes some of the misconceptions kids in this age range have about themselves.[17:36] - Check in with the school if something is standing out that is getting in your child’s way when it comes to homework.[18:36] - There are two main ways that we do kids a disservice.[21:09] - Listen carefully to why a child wants to quit something.[22:59] - Why are they struggling? The answer to this question is important.[24:37] - Feeling connected socially is crucial, but friendships can be hard to navigate during these years.[28:31] - The lessons learned and experiences during these years are not because there’s something wrong with the child.[31:20] - Phyllis’s book is a great guide for parents to help kids during these tough years. About Our Guest: Phyllis L. Fagell is a licensed mental health therapist and certified school counselor in Maryland. She's the author of Middle School Matters: The 10 Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle School and Beyond – and How Parents Can Help and Middle School Superpowers: Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times. Phyllis also is a frequent contributor to The Washington Post and other national publications, including CNN and U.S. News & World Report, and her ideas have been shared in outlets including The New York Times, The Atlantic, The New Yorker, The Chicago Tribune, and NPR. Phyllis lives in Bethesda, Maryland with her husband and three children. Connect with Phyllis: Phyllis L. Fagell’s Website Middle School Matters: The 10 Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle School and Beyond – and How Parents Can Help by Phyllis L. Fagell Middle School Superpowers: Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times by Phyllis L. Fagell Links and Related Resources: 4 Ways Parents Can Reframe a Tween or Teen’s Social Setbacks Episode 107: How to Motivate Kids Who Couldn’t Care Less with Dr. Ellen Braaten Episode 56: The Disintegrating Student with Dr. Jeannine Jannot Congruence App (free trial): Congruence is a self-coaching tool to help teens thrive in academics, sports, and social situations. Email service@congruence.app and mention Diverse Thinking Different Learning in the subject line for access. Connect with Us: Get on our Email ListBook a ConsultationGet Support and Connect with a ChildNEXUS ProviderRegister for Our Self-Paced Mini Courses with LIVE AMA Sessions The Diverse Thinking Different Learning podcast is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed by the host and guests are not considered treatment and do not necessarily reflect those of ChildNEXUS, Inc or the host, Dr. Karen Wilson.
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