Let’s be real – making new friends can be tough. If you’re frustrated about how hard it is to connect with new people, this episode is for you. We dive into the common ways you might be self-sabotaging and offer practical solutions to help you build genuine friendships.

This episode is for you if:

• You’re annoyed by how difficult it is to make new friends.

• You leave parties, work gatherings, or church feeling like you didn’t get to know anyone new.

• You’re struggling to connect and suspect you might be getting in your own way.

Four Things Stopping You from Making New Friends:

1. Being on Your Phone:

• Even if it’s not intended, being on your phone or having headphones in tells people, “I’m not open to interaction.”

• Sherry Turkle, in Reclaiming Conversation, notes that even a silent phone on the table can disconnect us and lower empathy levels.

2. Believing No One’s Interested in You:

• If you see yourself as unlikeable, you subconsciously communicate that to others.

• The Liking Gap shows we often underestimate how much others like us.

3. Having Too Narrow of a Routine or Too Full of a Schedule:

• Doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results is insanity.

• If your current routine hasn’t led to fulfilling friendships, it’s time to change it up.

4. Not Following Up on Enjoyable Interactions:

• Friendships take initiative. If you’re not following up, you’re choosing not to make friends.

• A passing interaction isn’t enough; real connection happens with follow-up.

Practical Solutions:

• Put Down Your Phone: Look around and be open to interaction.

• Challenge Negative Beliefs: Feed yourself God’s truth and seek counseling if needed.

• Change Your Routine: Arrive early, stay late, join new activities.

• Follow Up: If you enjoyed a conversation, tell the person and ask to continue it.

No more excuses. Start making time for the people who matter. Tune in for real talk and practical advice to make your friendships thrive. Like, share, and subscribe for more!