Today’s guest is Kaden, a 25yr old self-taught computer engineer who grew up in a small town in Alaska before moving to Austin, TX in his early 20s.

Lately, Kaden stumbled across an online group that believes they are the powerless victims of a brutal dating culture and that the only strategy is not to play, but in the end he rejects these groups and remembers his deep desire for intimacy and mutual companionship.

Kaden shares with us the confusion that many of us feel when trying to navigate love and the inner questions of “why am I not enough for this person,” “why do I feel overlooked by all the ‘good’ partner options,” and “should I just give up and resign to me being alone and that being enough?”

Through his journey through opening up his marriage in his early 20s, closing out his marriage in a crushing divorce, and desire to make sense of the seemingly senseless world of modern dating, Kaden shows us that our desire to find patterns in the world, to understand the why of being alone or frustrated can sometimes overshadow the deeper and harder questions of “how can I be less afraid,” and “is it wrong to just want to love someone and be loved?”

The answer? Listen with us as we discuss those very questions.