Curiosity can be the opposite of self-centeredness—but only when it’s paired with respect, trust, and appropriate vulnerability. In this episode, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks unpack the difference between “healthy and holy curiosity” and being “nebby” (nosy), and why that line matters in friendships, marriage, and sales. They also connect it to the life of faith: softening the heart so communion becomes possible under God.

Key Ideas

• Curiosity builds relationships when it’s rooted in genuine care, not extraction or control.
• Vulnerability is required for intimacy, but it must match the level of trust that exists.
• “Nebby” curiosity (nosiness) seeks power or gossip—without shared vulnerability or mutual goodwill.
• A curious, kind stance toward yourself (and your “parts”) can reduce contempt and grow calm, compassion, and communion.
• In sales, curiosity becomes a “cheat code” when it serves the person—not the commission—and when it respects boundaries.

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Indulgences can sound like scorekeeping. They’re not. Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks unpack indulgences in plain relational terms: the Church’s “treasury of merit” is like trusted relational credit you can lean on—the saints’ friendship with God helping you deepen your own. We connect First Fridays/Saturdays, rosaries, Scripture, adoration, and pilgrim practices to one aim: better spiritual health, i.e., a stronger, freer relationship of trusting love with God.

Key Ideas

Indulgence = relational help, not a magic pass: you “tap” the Church’s treasury of merit (the saints’ lived friendship with God) through concrete practices.

Always personal: you still act (prayer, Scripture, adoration, works of mercy); grace perfects, doesn’t replace, effort.

Apply to self or the dead: love shares its credit—our bonds in Christ extend beyond death.

Keep the frame human: think “street cred” or a trainer’s plan—habits that restore and strengthen relationship, not accounting tricks.

Sin harms relationships; practices heal: less “temporal punishment” math, more repair, trust, and re-ordering of love.

Helpful Parallels

Trainer plan → spiritual plan:

30 min Scripture reading (indulgenced)

Rosary in common

30 min Eucharistic adoration

Stations of the Cross

Pilgrimage/holy door (in jubilee years)

Works of mercy + usual conditions (state of grace, confession, Eucharist, prayer for the Pope’s intentions)

Scripture touchpoints

“Whatever you bind on earth…” (Mt 16:19; 18:18)

“The communion of saints” (cf. Heb 12:1; Eph 2:19)

Reconciliation and restoration (Jn 20:21–23; 2 Cor 5:18–20)

One-week Spiritual Health Tune-up (simple, doable)

Pick one indulgenced practice above and do it twice.

Go to confession (once).

Add one concrete act of mercy (call, visit, forgive, give).

Close each day with a 2-minute examen (gratitude → review → ask help for tomorrow).

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We know the headline miracles—Incarnation, Eucharist, Resurrection. But what about the quieter moments that don’t come with spectacle? Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks explore why God preserves room for trust, why Eucharistic “flesh-and-blood” phenomena are less than the Eucharist itself, and how faith matures when we live the mysteries (not rank them). Through the three lenses—self, others, under God—we look at spiritual health as a habit of trusting love, not a hunt for proofs.

Key Ideas

God invites freedom, not coercion: He offers evidence, then leaves space for trust—the essence of love.

Signs vs. Sacrament: visible Eucharistic phenomena are signs; the Eucharist is the whole living Christ (Body, Blood, Soul, Divinity).

Don’t “rank” feasts: Christmas, the institution of the Eucharist, and Easter are one saving mystery unfolding—each essential.

Living the unseen: deeper attention at Mass reorients daily life; think “spiritual health plan” (prayer, confession, charity) that steadies mind and relationships.

Faith grows by practice: name doubts honestly, choose trust, and act—grace meets you in motion.

Links & References
Scripture named (no links):

Doubting Thomas (John 20:24–29)

Institution of the Eucharist (Matthew 26:26–29; Mark 14:22–25; Luke 22:14–20; 1 Corinthians 11:23–26)

Signs confirming authority to forgive sins (Mark 2:1–12)

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“Unless I see…” Thomas speaks for us. Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks explore how to believe without seeing in a world that demands proof. We contrast signs and certainties, why God preserves our freedom to trust, and how personal histories shape our “tests” for belief. Practical takeaways: name your criteria honestly, notice the subtle ways God already speaks, and choose trust that leads to action. We hold the three lenses: integrity with ourselves, charity toward others, under a living relationship with God.

Key Ideas

Faith needs freedom: God gives reasons to believe but stops short of coercion; no proof or disproof removes our choice.

Signs vs. the Sign: visible wonders can help, but relationship with Christ requires trust that goes beyond optics.

Personal filters: temperament, wounds, and stakes change our verification bar—be honest about the tests you set.

Learn His voice: like Joseph or Samuel, once you recognize how God speaks to you, cooperation becomes fruitful and steady.

Reason serves faith: philosophy can point (Descartes, Hume, Gödel), but revelation invites a response only trust can make.

Links & References

Scripture named (no links):

Thomas and “Blessed are those who have not seen” (John 20:24–29).

Healing the paralytic to manifest authority to forgive sins (cf. Mark 2:1–12; Matthew 9:1–8; Luke 5:17–26).

The Lord speaking to Samuel (1 Samuel 3).

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Serving at the altar raised a live question: “If Eucharistic miracles make belief easier, why don’t they happen more?” Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks walk through what the Church means by miracle, why visible phenomena (flesh/blood) are actually less than the Eucharist itself (the whole living Christ), and how forgiveness and transformed virtue are real—though often unseen—miracles. We also clarify roles at Mass (Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion) and reflect on believing without seeing. Throughout, we keep the three lenses in view: honesty with self, charity with others, under a living relationship with God.

Key Ideas

Miracle ≠ rarity; miracle = beyond nature. The Eucharist is already a miracle: bread and wine become Jesus—Body, Blood, Soul, and Divinity.

“Less visible, greater reality”: a Eucharistic miracle (flesh/blood) is a sign; the Eucharist is the greater reality—Christ whole and living.

Science points, faith receives: studies of reported miracles often converge (heart tissue, left ventricle, trauma markers, AB+), but signs serve the Sacrament.

Unseen miracles: absolution, growth in virtue, and daily conversions are real works of grace you can’t photograph—but you can live.

Roles at Communion: clergy are ordinary ministers; laypeople assist as Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion when needed.

“Blessed are those who have not seen and yet believe”—ask for faith to recognize and receive the Giver more than the signs.

Links & References

“Scientifically Analyzed Eucharistic Miracles” (Truthly, 11-min video referenced by Father): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RHO8L9477aU

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We say it every Mass: “Lord, I am not worthy… but only say the word and my soul shall be healed.” What are we asking—and what should we expect? Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks unpack the centurion’s faith behind that line, how the Eucharist gives not just a word but the Word made flesh, and why Communion is an invitation already given—not a feeling we must wait for. We close with a simple New Year resolution: prepare better, receive more, and let grace heal what we cannot. Through the three lenses: honesty with self, charity toward others, under a living relationship with God.

Key Ideas

• From Scripture to altar: the centurion’s “say the word” (authority, trust) becomes our Communion prayer—humble, confident, obedient.
• More than a word: at Mass we receive the Giver Himself—Jesus, truly present in the Eucharist—superabundant love for unworthy hearts.
• Invitation stands: unless you should refrain, don’t wait for a private signal; the liturgy itself is Christ’s call to come.
• Feelings vary; grace doesn’t: ritual prayers serve a billion souls—some days they fit our mood, others they lead it.
• A practical resolution: arrive a bit early, call to mind sins and needs, and ask to receive Him more fully this year.

Links & References

• Scripture named (no links):
  • The centurion’s faith (Matthew 8:5–13; cf. Luke 7:1–10).
  • “Come to me, all you who labor…” (Matthew 11:28).
• Liturgy referenced (no link): Communion rite (“Lord, I am not worthy…”) and the Eucharist.

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A four-year-old’s question—“Why does Santa look different?”—opens a bigger one: why does Jesus look different in every painting, and how do we recognize Him today? Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks explore how sacred art (especially icons) shows inner, spiritual reality more than photo-realism—and how Jesus is truly present in the Eucharist even when our eyes see only bread. As Christmas Masses fill with newcomers, we talk about hospitality, cooperation with grace, and moving from the visible to the invisible: from faces and symbols to the Person who loves us. Always through the three lenses: honesty with self, charity with others, under a living relationship with God.

Key Ideas

Different “looks,” same identity: saints (and St. Nicholas) are shown with signs of their vocation; Jesus is recognized by what’s essential—wounds, mercy, and divinity—not a fixed facial template.

Icons aim beyond photography: light “from within” depicts the glorified person; art can reveal deeper truth than surface detail.

Real Presence, hidden form: in the Eucharist our senses see bread; faith meets the living Christ—Body, Blood, Soul, and Divinity.

Childlike faith teaches adults: wonder and simple trust help us notice God’s voice in conscience and daily life.

Christmas hospitality: welcome irregular Mass-goers with warmth and witness; our charity can draw people back to the Church.

Links & References

National Shrine of Our Lady of Champion (approved Marian apparition to Adele Brise, Champion, WI): https://championshrine.org

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Is Advent just a mini-Lent? Not really. Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks clarify Advent’s unique character: not penance before a Passion, but hopeful waiting for the Lord who comes. We explore patience vs. self-denial, why Advent trains desire more than endurance, and how the Church’s Dec 17–24 “O Antiphons” (source of O Come, O Come, Emmanuel) intensify longing as Christmas draws near. We end with a practical call: while we wait, build relationships and prepare room for Him—at home, parish, and work—through concrete acts of love. All through the three lenses: honesty with self, charity with others, under a living relationship with God.

Key Ideas

• Advent’s core: waiting, patience, and hope—not a second Lent or a pre-Christmas Good Friday.
• Different virtues: Lent emphasizes conversion and penance; Advent trains desire and confident anticipation.
• The “O Antiphons” (Dec 17–24): ancient titles of the Messiah that crescendo toward Christmas and inspired O Come, O Come, Emmanuel.
• Waiting isn’t passive: pray, reconcile, serve, and make tangible preparations—like a family readying for a newborn.
• Live the rhythm: receive grace at Mass, then practice small daily acts of love that make Him welcome.

Links & References

• USCCB – The “O Antiphons” of Advent (official overview and texts): https://www.usccb.org/prayer-and-worship/prayers-and-devotions/prayers/o-antiphons-of-advent
  
  

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