With around 800,000 to 900,000 divorces occurring annually in the U.S., it's crucial as a society we learn how to better create safety, attachment, and emotional health for children of divorce.

Dr. Skinner reminds us all, "It's never too late"-- to heal, grow and get better in all of our relationships. Wherever you're at, please join us as we aim to compassionately touch on five key areas to help make life better for children and families experiencing the aftermath of divorce.

You and us,

We got this.

Carly Red & Dr. Skinner.

00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic

00:24 The Impact of Divorce on Families

01:16 Statistics on Divorce Rates

03:29 Betrayal Trauma and PTSD Post-Divorce

06:31 The Importance of Safety and Attachment for Children

12:18 Five Key Steps to Help Children of Divorce

12:48 Creating a Safe and Structured Environment

15:27 Effective Parenting Styles

18:29 Handling Transitions Between Homes

25:44 The Language We Use About Our Ex-Spouse

29:24 Protecting Your Child's Safety

30:08 Seeking Professional Help

31:00 Communicating Divorce with Children

33:14 Handling Emotional Conversations

38:26 Navigating Parenting Differences

42:17 The Importance of Maturity and Reconciliation

42:45 The Never-Ending Relationship of Divorced Parents

44:57 Healing, Moving Forward, Finding Happiness

48:51 Never Too Late: Acknowledging Pain and Rebuilding Relationships

53:31 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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Our guide today, Berkeley Runia Paulsen, shares her personal experience with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), which began after the death of her brother when she was 11 years old.

Our conversation walks through the lonely nature of OCD, common yet widely unknown obsessions and compulsions, and Berkeley's journey through various treatments, including exposure response prevention (ERP) therapy.

We also learn about the heavy impact of OCD on daily life, the importance of cultivating uncertainty over "certainty" reassurances, and how family and caregivers can offer support.

Berkeley's story highlights how a brain and a person suffering from OCD can transform through very accessible and effective treatment processes.

There is a way out and we hope Berkeley's story delivers a lot of light to many who feel trapped in the dark spiraling tunnels of real OCD.

You and Us,

We got this.

Carly Red and Dr. Skinner

Treatment Center Referenced:

https://www.ocdanxietycenters.com/

Book Referenced:

https://a.co/d/9K5NCV2

Show Notes:

00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble Podcast

01:19 Berkeley's Personal Beginning with OCD

03:27 Understanding OCD Symptoms and Triggers

08:34 Exploring Common OCD Obsessions

13:09 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life

25:58 Seeking Treatment and Finding Hope

27:39 Understanding Exposure Therapy

27:58 Introduction to DBT and Its Modalities

28:51 The OCD Cycle Explained

30:18 Neuroplasticity and OCD

32:59 Personal Experiences with Exposure Therapy

33:34 Body Dysmorphic Disorder and OCD

36:01 Living with OCD: Challenges and Coping Strategies

39:20 The Importance of Comprehensive & Professional Help

50:04 Parental Guidance for Children with OCD

55:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Our guide today, Berkeley Runia Paulsen, shares her personal experience with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), which began after the death of her brother when she was 11 years old.

Our conversation walks through the lonely nature of OCD, common yet widely unknown obsessions and compulsions, and Berkeley's journey through various treatments, including exposure response prevention (ERP) therapy.

We also learn about the heavy impact of OCD on daily life, the importance of cultivating uncertainty over "certainty" reassurances, and how family and caregivers can offer support.

Berkeley's story highlights how a brain and a person suffering from OCD can transform through very accessible and effective treatment processes.

There is a way out and we hope Berkeley's story delivers a lot of light to many who feel trapped in the dark spiraling tunnels of real OCD.

You and Us,

We got this.

Carly Red and Dr. Skinner

Treatment Center Referenced:

https://www.ocdanxietycenters.com/

Book Referenced:

https://a.co/d/9K5NCV2

Show Notes:

00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble Podcast

01:19 Berkeley's Personal Beginning with OCD

03:27 Understanding OCD Symptoms and Triggers

08:34 Exploring Common OCD Obsessions

13:09 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life

25:58 Seeking Treatment and Finding Hope

27:39 Understanding Exposure Therapy

27:58 Introduction to DBT and Its Modalities

28:51 The OCD Cycle Explained

30:18 Neuroplasticity and OCD

32:59 Personal Experiences with Exposure Therapy

33:34 Body Dysmorphic Disorder and OCD

36:01 Living with OCD: Challenges and Coping Strategies

39:20 The Importance of Comprehensive & Professional Help

50:04 Parental Guidance for Children with OCD

55:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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• What are the 3 factors highly increasing your teen's risk of suicide?

• Is my child at risk?

• Do I really know my child?

• Do I know how my child sees themselves?

• Does my child really feel seen and like they belong here?

In this episode, Dr. Skinner shares how suicidal thoughts are actually much more common than we might believe, noting that most people have momentarily entertained the thought.

However, those at risk are typically individuals who align with these 3 factors:

1. I'm impulsive,

2. I feel I am in a crisis,

3. I have access.

Hence, the unusually high risk of teen suicide.

Studies show access to a gun or a form of poisoning likely through medical pills or substances, HIGHLY increases chances of a teen attempting suicide.

Also, most teens attempt suicide under an hour of deciding.

Our discussion also highlights the role we have as parents of creating and sustaining a warm home environment, drawing on the Grant Study to show how loving, deeply communicative relationships in childhood lead to longterm resilience, safety and belonging.

The concept of "accompaniment" is introduced, illustrating how attuned parenting help children feel known and safe along their years of tender growth.

Our conversation concludes with the importance of community support, kindness, education...... and these resources below.

Support and Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

My Life Is Worth Living Series:

⁠https://mylifeisworthliving.org/⁠

Parent Guidance Courses On Suicide:

⁠https://parentguidance.org/all-courses/

"How to Know a Person" by David Brooks:

https://a.co/d/45LYFUD

Show Notes:

00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble

00:28 Special Edition: Suicide Awareness

02:36 Understanding Who is at Risk of Suicide

05:40 Warning Signs and Prevention

08:31 The Necessity for Vulnerable Dialogue

13:32 The Story Formation of Identity

17:43 Numbing Out of our Feelings

23:27 Loneliness, Trust, and Safety in our Closest Relationships

24:13 Understanding the Art of Connection

24:27 The Core Need to Be Seen

25:28 Reframing to See Oneself as Part of Whole– Belonging to the World

27:49 The Impact of Childhood Relationships– Grant Study

28:41 Warm Homes vs. Cold Homes

31:41 Eliminating Barriers and Realigning our Time with our Values

37:45 Generational Trauma and Cellular Memories

42:25 The Power of Accompaniment

47:54 Support for Families Facing Suicide

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Welcome to the sleep revolution. More than ever experts know how SLEEP defines the health of cognitive function, emotional regulation, social interaction... for everyone... but most especially teenagers!

Sleep-deprived teens often struggle with moodiness, risky behaviors, relational skills and even academics due to being forced to operate on insufficient sleep.

The cascade of poor sleep can result in what Dr. Skinner refers to as "ego depletion," leaving teens incapable of functioning at their best, or even just adequately.

Are our teenagers being rebellious or lazy, or is there more to the story?

Dr. Meers enlightens us on the biological changes that occur during adolescence, which can account for those infamous late nights and groggy mornings.

Maybe their disengagement isn’t just teenage defiance— maybe our kids are exhausted!

In this fascinating episode, renowned clinical psychologist and certified sleep medicine specialist, Dr. Jessica Meers, uncovers the hidden intricacies of sleep, focusing on the enigmatic and often elusive sleep patterns of teenagers—a topic more vital to their well-being than we might think.

Join us to find out how better sleep for our kids and teens is possible, today on Finding Noble.

You and us,

We got this.

Carly Red & Dr. Skinner

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Show Notes:

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement

00:45 Dr. Jessica Meers' Background and Expertise

01:26 The Importance of Sleep for Mental Health

02:00 Challenges of Adolescent Sleep

03:18 Biological Changes in Teen Sleep Patterns

07:47 Impact of Sleep Deprivation on Teens

11:11 Solutions for Better Sleep

12:00 The Role of Consistency in Sleep

14:12 Advocating for Later School Start Times

15:40 Real-Life Examples of Sleep Deprivation

20:20 The Perfect Storm of Sleep Risks for Teens

23:15 The Connection Between Sleep and Health

24:53 Modeling Good Sleep Habits for Teens

26:04 Parenting Challenges: Screen Time Before Bed

26:41 The Science Behind Device Usage and Sleep

27:37 Balancing Screen Time and Sleep Quality

28:30 The Role of Anxiety in Sleep Patterns

31:23 The Benefits and Drawbacks of Napping

36:08 Caffeine vs. Napping: What's Better?

37:44 Understanding Individual Sleep Needs

41:54 The Importance of Early Sleep

43:46 When to Seek Professional Help for Sleep Issues

47:57 Final Thoughts and Resources for Better Sleep

Link to freebie: Teen Sleep Survival Guide

To find out more about Dr. Jessica Meers:

- Visit her website: rhythm-well.com

- Follow her on Instagram: shetalkssleep

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Find expert-led parenting courses on: https://parentguidance.org/

Today we are revisiting our fan favorite 'Ask a Therapist' format, where we tackle the most asked questions sent in from YOU parents.

Join our real expert Q&A with Dr. Skinner-- over the primary dilemmas you too are likely facing right now as a parent.

David Brooks once admitted,

“I don’t really know of many happy marriages. I know a lot of marriages where parents love their kids.”

Dr. Skinner similarly acknowledges it’s hard to keep the garden of marriage nurtured. It doesn’t water itself even if, or especially if, you both are involved with your busy family life.

Furthermore, conflict in parenting styles can also lead to further detachment from your partner. However, vocalizing a focused and united purpose in your desire for your kids happiness and growth, can unite you as a couple and bring you closer despite occupying different approaches.

Dr. Skinner tackles how to get teens to open up!

He says,

“There are types of things and conversations that are not easy for us to have as parents and it's not easy for our children to have with us.

So sometimes that's an earned conversation. It takes time to develop that kind of nurturing, that kind of interaction where again, the concept of all human connection is safety. I have to feel safe enough in your presence that you're not going to X, Y, Z, that you're going to hear me, that you're going to listen, that you still care, that you're still going to love me. I think we often hold back because we're afraid of being judged. We're afraid that our parents are going to judge us. They need to know that we are with them and we want to help them. We care."

The last question is a tough one– addressing family secrets, specifically hidden parental porn use. However, Dr. Skinner gives us a beautiful and hopeful response on how to address some of the weightier issues within our family relationships.

Stay tuned for the whole episode– It’s worth it!.

You and us--

We got this,

Carly Red & Dr. Skinner

00:00 Introduction and Session Overview

01:05 Everyday Parenting Battles

05:44 Unified purpose in Parenting

14:14 Put Down Your Parenting Weapons then Talk

19:24 Nurturing a Marriage within Parenting

23:23 Nurturing Relationships: Beyond Autopilot

23:48 Breaking Down Teen Communication Barriers

25:48 Encouraging Open Dialogue with Teens

30:48 Balancing Control and Independence in Parenting

34:16 Addressing Sensitive Issues: A Child's Perspective

39:29 Handling Family Secrets with Compassion

44:03 Concluding Thoughts and Resources

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Do you ever wonder how that inner voice of yours is shaping your world and impacting your mental health, your body, your reality and especially your relationships?

Andrea Rowley (an expert in cognitive behavioral coaching and Chief Clinical Coach Officer at Noble Health) joins us this week to share how,

"Our language is defining what we believe about ourselves."

Andrea suggests considering questions like,

"What am I missing?"

“Maybe there is more to this inner narrative outside of me, that I am not seeing?”

This shift away from yourself-centric mid brain, not only fosters a healthier self-relationship, but also activates the brain'sproblem-solving prefrontal cortex.

Dr. Skinner adds, "Curiosity is a huge factor here," encouraging listeners to replace our self-condemnation with curiosity and challenging our ingrained negative beliefs.

Asking ourselves and our children frequently:

“How is your relationship with yourself?

How are you speaking to yourself?

How are you treating yourself?”

….These questions can reframe our miscalculated and misguided ideas about our worth and especially recenter our own children’s sense of worth.

Small simple shifts to more positive and compassionate inner language can move mental mountains!

We hope you will join us this week on Finding Noble!

You and us--

We got this,

Carly Red & Dr. Skinner

Show Notes:

00:00 Introduction and Guest Bio

02:02 The Power of Communication

04:36 Understanding Self Talk

06:10 Origins of Negative Self Talk

10:55 Transforming Negative Self Talk

17:32 Developing Self Compassion

23:49 Setting Boundaries and Self-Compassion

24:39 Creating New Neural Pathways

25:29 Parenting Without Self-Judgment

26:50 Handling Public Parenting Challenges

28:24 Visualizing Positive Self-Talk

29:14 Mindfulness and Self-Dialogue

29:37 Encouraging Positive Self-Talk in Children

30:36 Practical Tips for Positive Self-Talk

32:42 Challenging Negative Core Beliefs

35:37 Self-Compassion and Compassion for Others

39:50 Attuning to Children's Emotions

44:20 Reflective Listening with Children

46:27 Final Thoughts on Self-Talk and Mental Health

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" It's easy for us to think, Oh man, why can't I do this?

Am I not smart enough?

Am I not intelligent enough?

What's wrong with me?

And because we are in a society where it's fast paced and it's quick, I mean, really, if you want information, you go, you get on the chat whatever and it's right there. You get it.

The problem with that is most of the things that we experience in life require work, persistence, and effort."

-Dr. Skinner

In this episode, we discuss how cultural and societal factors so often condition a fixed mindset over a growth mindset.

We talk about the liberating language of growth and the transformation from celebrating inherent traits or outcomes to celebrating effort--- And how that may just get us further than we even thought possible.

We also emphasize how curiosity and asking questions.. basically being willing to look dumb...will actually pave and create the path we are hoping to find ourselves on.

And perhaps most importantly, Dr. Skinner helps us understand how growth mindsets in relation to relationships can become a game changer.

This one is a goodie. Hope you will join us this week!

You and us,

We got this.

Carly Red & Dr. Skinner

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Show Notes:

00:00 Introduction to Growth Mindset

00:37 Understanding Fixed vs. Growth Mindset

02:24 Cultural Influences on Mindset

03:44 Personal Experiences with Growth Mindset

06:46 The Power of Effort and Persistence

08:47 Language and Mindset

11:15 Encouraging Growth Mindset in Children

17:58 Overcoming Challenges, Gain Confidence & Resilience

20:20 The Importance of Enjoying the Learning Process

22:10 Parental Influence and Mentorship

23:04 Overcoming Adversity and Developing a Growth Mindset

25:57 The Value of Effort and Purpose

27:35 Learning from Failure and Embracing Curiosity

34:37 Building Healthy Relationships with a Growth Mindset

39:16 Encouraging Growth in Ourselves and Others

40:28 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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