Episodes

  • How Can I Accept Them When I Hate Their Behavior?

    How Can I Accept Them When I Hate Their Behavior?
    Jun 25 2024
    When you want to be accepted by others you will be controlled by them. Now think about it, it’s their choice whether they will accept you—you must meet their standards (probably multiple standards) and even if you meet their standards, they still may not accept you. Ultimately it comes down to whether they want to accept you or not. And, if you really want to be accepted, you may compromise or ignore your values and beliefs. That's one reason why gangs work and good people do bad things they did not think they would do.
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    30 mins
  • Have To or Want To?

    Have To or Want To?
    Jun 18 2024
    Past promises or goals you made can become obligations. It is no longer what you "want" it is now a “have to do”. Now all obligations are not evil, that is not the point. When you start sensing the "have to do" you begin to ignore that you still have freedom to do it or not. You have taken a desire or want, a good goal or commitment and now it requires compliance, blocking any sense of choice or freedom.
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    30 mins
  • Are You Good But Up To No Good?

    Are You Good But Up To No Good?
    Jun 11 2024
    As with most of this relationship material, I represent the way to NOT be doing relationships. And, for this control people item, that's me! I speak control fluently and will tell you it severely damages relationships.
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    Less than 1 minute
  • Is God Free?

    Is God Free?
    Jun 4 2024
    It's a very old problem, kids blaming their parents for how they turned out. And from the parents side, taking credit for the kids turning out well or feeling like losers when the kids don't. God speaks directly to that issue in Ezekiel 18.
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    Less than 1 minute
  • Controlled, Controlling, Or Concerned?

    Controlled, Controlling, Or Concerned?
    May 28 2024
    You are "concerned" that you see sin in their life and you know from God's Word that the consequences of sin are never good. What should you do? Since they are free to sin, do you ignore it and hope they make another choice? Do you get involved and tell them about the sin and hope they change? Do you tell them about the sin and try to make them change? What if they never change?
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    Less than 1 minute
  • Without This Tool, Relationships Become INTOLERABLE

    Without This Tool, Relationships Become INTOLERABLE
    May 21 2024
    Our working definition of freedom is "Acting without force or manipulation or acting without controlling or being controlled." Freedom is often not easy for us to understand, especially how it works in relationships. Without freedom in a relationship, you will never know if someone is relating to you simply because they want to. Go listen to "The Third Tool" on the Radio page to help you start understanding how freedom works in relationships. And, watch the "Freedom and Choice" videos in chapter 8.
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    30 mins
  • Which Circle Are You Living In?

    Which Circle Are You Living In?
    May 14 2024
    You are probably not experiencing as much freedom as you think. Even when we are irresponsible with our freedom, not caring about others, we often become controlled by life, circumstances and people. Go listen to "Two Ways to Live and The Third Tool" on the Radio page to listen how we too often live in this Left Circle. And, watch the "Freedom for You: Two Circles" videos in chapter 8.
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    30 mins
  • Forgiveness Is NOT Reconciliation

    Forgiveness Is NOT Reconciliation
    May 7 2024
    Forgiveness is not reconciliation. Forgiveness is so good for you, but it gets derailed when you combine it with things like reconciliation. If you think you must reconcile with someone that may prevent you from the freedom you can have through forgiveness. Listen to hear how reconciliation is completely separate from forgiveness.
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    30 mins