Your memories emerging when your child turn the same age you were when the abuse began is much more common than you may imagine.
It is also frightening.
Triggers are released and it can feel the nightmare is happening all over again.
This is even more so when your child is the same gender you are.
There is a way through this, have a listen to how it is possible.

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Meet Justine Dean
Coach, Mentor, Confidante
From the age of 3, Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and teenage years. Her mother seemed unable to support her through this. When Justine was 5 years old and being molested by her 12 year old male neighbour, her mother screamed at her; 'What did you do?' Don't miss this profound interview.
You can reach out to Justine at Justinedean.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
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#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

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What about me?
If you are the child of a narcissistic parent, it would have been almost impossible to be given any space, comfort or protection. There was no room for you as this child.
You had to take on another role to have a connection with them.
Listen to the full clip to understand where to from here.

Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

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Meet Justine Dean
Coach, Mentor, Confidante
Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and adolesence.
You can reach out to Justine at Justinedean.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

To learn more reach out to
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Healthy Bonds
Your survivor having healthy and transparent relationships is of course, optimum.
When this is not so, you will see their behaviour change in order to be accepted. This is a form of toxic bonding: arising from the abuse, and their needs not being met as children.
(All you need to do is gently point it out, and let them know you have their back)

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

To learn more reach out to
https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback

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Meet John Cardamone
He is a Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne.
When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family member.
When his son became that age, John became really anxious and concerned about his safety and eventually recognised he was being triggered by his own history of abuse.
You can reach John on: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-cardamone-86632738/
https://www.instagram.com/john_cardamone/
https://www.facebook.com/john.cardamone
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

To learn more reach out to
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Triggered by children
This is very common for parents who are survivors.
When our children (of the same sex as us) turn the age we were when the abuse began, the amount of triggering this results in is almost indescribable. Memories start to flood in and become overwhelming. This is vindication and validation of what you went through.
Try to protect the part of you that has emerged with the recall.

Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

To learn more reach out to
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Meet John Cardamone
He is a Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne.
When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family member.
When he told his mother, she believed him instantly and from that point on, he was kept safe.
Looking back he sees, that his parents were groomed as well
You can reach John on: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-cardamone-86632738/
https://www.instagram.com/john_cardamone/
https://www.facebook.com/john.cardamone
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

To learn more reach out to
https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback

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