An apple a day keeps the doctor away, but what if your dominant makes you only eat apples for a week?

In the second instalment of our introduction to BDSM, Roan shares with us the points of attraction for kinksters. What are the emotional and psychological motives for someone to be submissive or dominant? Do kinky people look a certain way and can you tell what their roles are by their day-to-day personalities?

Are dominants aggressive and submissives obedient followers? What is the relevance of childhood trauma in kinky inclinations? Can BDSM have a healing aspect to it? Is there a kinky scene in Groningen?

Have a listen to our new episode and find out for yourself!

Recommendations:

https://www.youtube.com/@WattsTheSafeword/playlists

https://www.youtube.com/@MsMorganThorne/playlists

Podcast: Why are people into that? (by Tina Horn)

https://submissiveguide.com/

Checklists and negotiation sheets:

https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/bdsm-checklist

https://www.bextalkssex.com/yes-no-maybe/

https://www.devianceanddesire.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/NotAChecklistSheet.pdf

We start off 2024 kinky! In this episode, Mikaella has a chat with her dear kinky friend Roan! Roan walks us through the basics for BDSM. Besides the whips and latex, what kind of practices does BDSM include? Is it exclusively sexual? Do you know what to expect and how do you negotiate what happens in a BDSM scene? Roan takes us through useful terminology for beginners such as Total Power Exchange and role archetypes.

Stay tuned for part 2 where we talk about why people are into kinks!

About the hostess: Mikaella (she/her) comes from Cyprus. She is studying Psychology with a clinical direction as a Major and has Minor courses in English Language and Culture at the University of Groningen. She has been the Activity Coordinator of Let’s Talk About Sex Groningen (LTAS) since 2021.

Her passion for sex education stems from the realization of how little proper [sex] education is provided by our physical environments and how much shame is ingrained into us for our sexuality and sexual expression. With this podcast, she aims to give voices to local students and experts to fight this reality and start meaningful conversations!

In the second instalment of the fourth episode, Mikaella and Momo delve into kinky and cultural territories. Momo talks about her approach to finding BDSM partners and how and if skin colour affects the vetting process and playtime. What happens when kink and race are mixed together? What is the connection between financial reparations for descendants of enslaved people and Black dominatrices? How are you expected to behave towards your partner as a Nigerian woman? What are the dynamics of Nigerian couples? What are some characteristics of Nigerian polygamy practices? Tune in for the answer to all of these questions and more!

Recommendations:

Women, Race and Class (book) by Angela Davis

Youtuber Kat Blaque: video: How do I feel about Race play??? https://youtu.be/gov_LDGwdBg?si=3tGQqAyw7E8CZDZF