On this episode of You Don't Look Like a Therapist, I'm joined by my big sister Holly Hess, Purposeful Life and Leadership Coordinator at Carthage College in Kenosha, Wisconsin.  Holly spends her days on campus working with students in exploring their identities, finding their authentic selves, preparing for the next steps in their lives, starring in Tik Toks, and generally providing support in navigating the craziness, uncertainty, and excitement that is life in our early 20s.  In this episode, Holly and I discuss how we help others (and ourselves) find our true self-- that sense of purpose, understanding, and knowledge of who I am at my core and where I'm headed next.  We talk about ways to challenge our limiting beliefs, how to navigate the changes in identity that come with various chapters of life, how to "pull the threads" to help us take chances that may feel scary, and how Holly has maintained and thrived throughout various career changes and a lasting 25+ year marriage(!).  We also talk about our favorite spots in Door County, Wisco, our favorite ways to piss people off at holiday gatherings, and Holly is forced to choose her favorite (mis)adventure that me and my idiot friends have experienced over the years.  A fun, important, and insightful episode-- join us.