Episodes

  • My Boyfriend Loves Dirty Talk. But He Doesn’t Say the One Thing I Want.

    My Boyfriend Loves Dirty Talk. But He Doesn’t Say the One Thing I Want.
    Mar 27 2022
    This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer whose partner isn’t saying the right things, and they discuss a letter from a woman who can’t bear to touch herself. Mentioned in this episode: My New Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein *** Continue following Rich and Stoya and their How to Do It column on Slate here. Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    27 mins
  • My Husband Went on a Date With His Ex-Girlfriend

    My Husband Went on a Date With His Ex-Girlfriend
    Mar 20 2022
    Stoya and Rich discuss a letter from a woman whose experiment with “ethical non-monogamy” isn’t going the way she expected. *** Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    13 mins
  • No One Tells You What Happens When You’re Suddenly a Hot Guy

    No One Tells You What Happens When You’re Suddenly a Hot Guy
    Mar 13 2022
    This week, Stoya and Rich discuss a letter from a man whose attractiveness is getting in the way of his life and work. *** Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    16 mins
  • I’m Overwhelmed by My Boyfriend’s Sexual Demands

    I’m Overwhelmed by My Boyfriend’s Sexual Demands
    Mar 6 2022
    This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer who is overwhelmed by her partner’s daily sexual needs, and they discuss a letter from a man who wonders if his post-sex feelings are normal. *** Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    24 mins
  • The One Thing My Partner Desires in Bed Makes Me Gag

    The One Thing My Partner Desires in Bed Makes Me Gag
    Feb 27 2022
    This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer who wonders what they can do to have a better experience giving oral sex, and they discuss a letter from a woman looking for advice on how to explain her specific dating needs.  Mentioned in this episode: Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor *** Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    26 mins
  • I’m a Woman With a Very Male Sex Problem

    I’m a Woman With a Very Male Sex Problem
    Feb 20 2022
    This week, Stoya and Rich advise a woman whose partner complains that she orgasms too quickly, and they discuss a letter from a woman who’s puzzled by why her boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex very often. Mentioned in this episode: So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex by Ian Kerner *** Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now. Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    24 mins
  • The Simple Way to Have Better Sex After Marriage

    The Simple Way to Have Better Sex After Marriage
    Feb 13 2022
    This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter for Valentine’s Day from a man who’s looking for tips on how to spice up his sex life with his wife, and they discuss a letter from a man who’s wondering how to involve himself with his wife’s other relationship. Mentioned in this episode: Curious Pleasures by The Reverend Dr Eramus St Jude Croom DD *** Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now for $25 off. Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    25 mins
  • I (Unfortunately) Know What My Husband Has Been Doing in Garage

    I (Unfortunately) Know What My Husband Has Been Doing in Garage
    Feb 6 2022
    This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a woman who’s worried about her husband’s secret habit, and offer suggestions for oral sex to a letter writer who has a unique problem.  Mentioned in the episode: Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers Is Porn Addiction a Real Thing? Moody Bitches by Julie Holland “TMJ and Intimacy” by S. Michael Plaut Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now and get $25 off. Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    28 mins