Have you ever had someone offer some sort of support or help to you that you didn’t necessarily want, but you didn’t know how to say no without hurting their feelings?

When you are hurting or struggling or need some extra help, you do get to have a say in the matter. You can choose which counselor you want to meet with. You can decide which friends to confide in. You can determine which activities are healthy for you and which ones are not. You look at what’s available to you and make a choice.

In short, you have the power to choose.

Not everyone is going to understand your choices, and that’s okay. The important thing is that you are letting God lead you in those decisions and that you are staying close to Him. You don’t want to make decisions out of guilt or fear or because you’re mad at someone. But you do want to make smart, healthy, God-honoring decisions when you are hurting. And sometimes that means saying no to someone else.

Today, I want to help you learn how to politely decline an offer of help—especially when it comes from someone you love.

Kari

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· Episode 11: How to Ask for Help When You Need It

· Episode 49: Finding Your Stretcher Bearers: The People Who Can Help Carry You Through a Difficult Season

· Episode 70: What to Do When You Don't Have Anyone to Encourage You, When It Seems No One Cares

· Episode 78: Tips for When You're Afraid of Being Misunderstood

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