Certified trauma support specialist, resiliency professional and life coach Tamara Lichfield joins Courtney and Carley to talk about establishing connections from a place of confidence. Tamara discusses post-traumatic growth, stepping outside of comfort zones, exercising integrity, and avoiding making assumptions. This episode is the third episode in a 3-part series about preparing to make lasting connections. Be sure to listen to Part 1 (“Emotional Self Check”) and Part 2 (“Sympathy, Empathy and Boundaries”) for the full message from Tamara.

Resources:

Connect with Tamara

Email: Becomingshatterproof@gmail.com

http://www.becomingshatterproof.us

https://www.facebook.com/becomingshatterproof/

Connect with Courtney and Carley 

heysisterpodcast.org

https://www.instagram.com/theheysisterpodcast/

https://www.facebook.com/heysisterpodca

Book referenced

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (a Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz

Show Timeline: 

0:00 Guest and topic introduction (recap of parts 1 and 2)

4:40 What is your story? Healing wounded parts of your story. Post-traumatic growth. “Four agreements” overview. 

7:00 Agreement One: Be impeccable with your word. Agreement Two: Don’t take anything personally. Intent vs. impact. Positive self-talk vs. negative self-talk.  

12:15 Agreement Three: Don’t make assumptions. Cognitive fusion. Asking curiosity questions. Relational trauma: assumptive reality is shattered. 

19:00 Agreement Four: Always do your best whatever you’re pursuing. Stepping outside your comfort zone. 

21:45 Concluding thoughts