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What if your awakening looks less like a halo and more like a honest-to-God unraveling that finally lets you breathe? We sit down with Melissa—once a devoted Catholic mom with a plan for real estate—who followed a trail of unmistakable signs into the work she was born to do: serving as a psychic medium grounded in love, clarity, and light, married to a woman and the love of her life. From a cemetery detour that pulled her to her grandparents’ grave, to a midnight message that said “Don’t give up on Temecula,” her path is a masterclass in listening when life won’t stop tapping you on the shoulder.

We explore how masking and martyrdom quietly drain a life, and how self-love can become the hinge for every major shift—leaving a marriage, healing a body, and modeling courage for your kids. Melissa shares the emotional reality of awakening within a strict faith tradition, then rebuilding a relationship with God and Jesus by their fruits: more compassion, more truth, more peace. Along the way, Spirit kept turning up the volume—messages for strangers at the market, validations that landed like keys in locks, and a community that met her on the other side of fear.

One of the most moving arcs centers on animals. Melissa describes the pure, unfiltered energy of pets and how translating their needs can change hard choices. When she met Barkley, a beloved dog facing grim options, the message was simple: no cold rooms, no invasive procedures—just sunsets, his favorite perch, and the family he protects. That clarity helped his people choose comfort over control, and he outlived every timeline on his own terms. It’s a vivid example of mediumship as practical, ethical, and deeply healing.

If you’re feeling that quiet tug—the one that says this version of life no longer fits—consider this your permission slip. Listen for the calm, persistent nudge. Test it by the light it brings. And take the next small step toward a life that matches your essence. If this story resonates, subscribe, share it with someone standing on the edge of their own shift, and leave a review to tell us the sign you can no longer ignore.

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We explore defensiveness as a nervous system reflex that shuts down connection and share practices that turn hard truths into repair. From parenting regrets to partner conflicts, we model the pause, reflective listening and building self-safety so honesty can land.

• defining defensiveness and how it derails connection
• shame and guilt as triggers for reactivity
• authenticity gaps between public self and home self
• validation over explanation as the repair path
• role-playing to build empathy and reduce triggers
• the pause, reflective listening and one-sided shares
• using a talking stick and setting return times
• staying steady when delivery is heated
• forgiving the past self to hear the present truth
• simple reflection to practice before responding

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Ever noticed how we're quick to call self-care "indulgent" but consider self-sacrifice "noble"? Something's deeply wrong with that equation, and it's exactly what we're tackling in this raw, honest conversation about why self-love isn't just nice—it's necessary for survival.

Most of us were raised with messages that our worth is tied to what we do for others. We were praised for being the helpers, the fixers, the ones who would "give the shirt off our backs." This conditioning runs deep, often starting in childhood when we learn that love is something to be earned through performance and people-pleasing. As Noel shares his experience of buying throw pillows just because they brought him joy, we explore how even small acts of self-nurturing can feel revolutionary when you've spent your life believing your value comes from serving others.

The truth is that loving yourself isn't selfish—it's one of the most selfless things you can do. When you're not overextended, resentful, and depleted, you become more emotionally available to others. You show up more authentically in relationships because you're not constantly performing. We dig into the psychology behind self-abandonment, offering practical questions to help you identify where you might be outsourcing your worth and how to reclaim it.

What would change if you truly believed you were lovable without having to earn it? In a culture that profits from self-doubt, choosing to love yourself is truly an act of rebellion. Join us as we lovingly get uncomfortable and challenge the notion that we must heal before we're worthy of our own love. Perhaps self-love isn't the reward for healing—it's the fuel that makes healing possible in the first place.

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"You're not crazy." Three words that changed everything for Hilda Reyes after years of doubting her reality in what appeared to be a perfect marriage. What began as a fairytale romance with a handsome fireman who promised to show her what real love felt like gradually unraveled into a nightmare of gaslighting, betrayal, and physical illness as her body tried desperately to alert her to the truth her mind wasn't ready to accept.

In this deeply moving conversation, Hilda takes us through her journey from being completely disconnected from herself to finding profound healing and self-love. She reveals how childhood trauma and lack of self-worth made her vulnerable to narcissistic manipulation, and how even as her intuition screamed that something wasn't right, she was told by both her husband and a therapist that the problem was within her. The physical toll was devastating – chronic pain, stomach issues, and eventually an autoimmune condition that doctors linked directly to emotional abuse.

The path to recovery wasn't linear or easy. Hilda shares the excruciating process of sitting with her pain rather than numbing it, taking radical responsibility for her own patterns, and using various healing modalities including therapy, breathwork, and plant medicine to reconnect with her authentic self. Perhaps most powerfully, she describes how healing herself also healed her relationships with her mother and daughter, breaking generational patterns of trauma.

Whether you're questioning your own relationship, supporting someone through narcissistic abuse, or on your own healing journey, Hilda's story offers profound insight into how our greatest pain can lead to our greatest awakening. Remember: if your body is telling you something is wrong, listen. You're not crazy. You're enough, and you've always been enough.

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Forgiveness is often misunderstood as condoning hurtful actions or pretending they never happened—radical forgiveness is something entirely different. We dive deep into what true forgiveness actually means: a profound act of self-liberation that allows us to release the weight of resentment without excusing harmful behavior.

"You don't give forgiveness because they deserve it. You give forgiveness because you deserve to not carry it anymore." This powerful truth sits at the heart of our conversation. When we hold onto anger, resentment, or pain, we're the ones drinking poison while hoping someone else feels the effects. These emotions consume enormous energy, leaving little room for joy or peace in our lives.

The journey begins with self-forgiveness—a crucial first step that many overlook. Noelshares his personal story of learning to extend compassion to himself before he could genuinely forgive those who had hurt him. By understanding his own patterns and connecting dots between past experiences and current behaviors, he created space for healing at the deepest level. This process involved recognizing that the question isn't "what's wrong with me?" but rather "what happened to me?"

Perhaps the most transformative moment came when Noel began to see his abusive stepfather as a complete human being, not just a monster. This perspective shift didn't excuse harmful behavior but allowed him to process his emotions more completely and release the stranglehold of resentment. We explore practical tools for your own forgiveness practice: somatic awareness, expressive writing, no-send letters, and a guided breathwork experience to help move stagnant emotional energy from your body.

Remember, forgiveness can be a spiral—you may revisit the same wounds, but with more softness each time. This episode offers both the compassionate understanding and practical guidance to begin your own radical forgiveness journey.

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We explore the transformative shift from victimhood to radical responsibility and how honesty with ourselves can change our relationships.

• Looking at what triggers our emotional reactions and getting curious about their source
• Recognizing when we're parenting from performance anxiety rather than genuine connection
• Understanding the subtle ways we deceive ourselves with phrases like "I'm fine" or "I'm just a people-pleaser"
• Learning what it truly means to hold space for others without inserting ourselves
• Practicing radical responsibility by owning how we relate to situations, not just what happens to us
• Identifying old stories we tell ourselves that no longer match who we're becoming
• Taking time to pause when triggered rather than responding from old patterns
• Using breathwork to integrate radical responsibility and release old emotions

Join us next time when we talk about radical forgiveness. Let us know your questions on Instagram at Let that Shift Go or visit our website, serenitycovetomecula.com.

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We explore the transformative difference between loneliness and solitude, revealing how embracing time alone can lead to self-discovery, personal growth, and healthier relationships.

• Examining society's negative perception of being alone and how it stems from primal survival instincts
• Distinguishing between loneliness (feeling incomplete without others) and solitude (finding strength in being with yourself)
• The benefits of learning to enjoy your own company and discovering what truly brings you joy
• How avoiding silence through constant distraction prevents necessary inner work
• Why relationships thrive when two whole people come together instead of seeking completion in each other
• Practical ways to shift from seeing alone time as punishment to viewing it as a sanctuary
• Breathwork exercise to help embrace solitude and affirm self-wholeness

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We explore why rest feels hard and why doing nothing feels like failure in our overstimulated world. Stillness often brings up what we've been avoiding, making vulnerability feel scary.

• Our addiction to being overstimulated comes from inherited beliefs around productivity
• "Capitalism and trauma pairing" describes how our culture glorifies burnout and devalues rest
• Rest shouldn't be something earned - it should be deserved
• Many of us struggle with over-functioning and tying our value to productivity
• Social media scrolling isn't actually rest - it's stimulation and avoidance
• Real rest means allowing ourselves joy without needing to be productive
• Our nervous systems need downtime to repair and process
• If rest makes you uncomfortable, it's a sign you're letting go of survival strategies

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